What Do You Think?

[Sarah&Facundo 595]

Good morning! This is something I've been thinking about lately, with no actual background or data to support this. But I'm curious about everyone's thoughts! Now with so many ways to connect with people overseas (social media, dating apps, gaming, etc.), I am curious if the rate of petitions for both CR1 and K1 visas have increased in the last decade or so. Previously, the only way to meet someone overseas was to meet someone in person, maybe on a vacation/work opportunity/study abroad. It would be even harder to stay in contact once returning home unless you wrote letters or paid for long distance calling. But now anyone could connect with someone overseas right from their living room and chat 24/7!

I met my husband in person in his country so I don't have that experience, but I see so many posts about people meeting online now and I am curious if it is driving up the number of visa applications/petitions. Has there been an increase in wait times over the last decade? Again, I have no data....Just some thinking while I eat my breakfast this morning. Comment away!

Edited March 16, 2022 by Sarah&Facundo

[Crazy Cat 41,836]

Yes, imo, the number of petitions has increased by a large number over the past decade.  I see a great number of people here who met online via FB or a dating app like EHarmony (personal experience).  

[Timona 4,207]

I never met anyone online nor on dating apps. I've always wondered why? Guess I'm the ugly duckling 🦢 🤪

[SteveInBostonI130 3,434]

I assume 90 Day Fiance also had an impact.

[Boiler 45,467]

There are a lot of societal changes that suggest to me that VJ has a very bright future.

[millefleur 5,046]

2 hours ago, Sarah&Facundo said:

I met my husband in person in his country

That's my situation as well but I think our case is a rarity. More and more people seem to meet online, which makes sense for people from distant countries. I think it's the long distance and the waiting that makes it hard, it's difficult to get to know a person only via Zoom or online chat before moving overseas to marry them.

 

10 minutes ago, Boiler said:

There are a lot of societal changes that suggest to me that VJ has a very bright future.

Bullish on VJ! Too bad we can't buy stock in it.

 

 

[Crazy Cat 41,836]

7 minutes ago, millefleur said:

I think it's the long distance and the waiting that makes it hard, it's difficult to get to know a person only via Zoom or online chat before moving overseas to marry them.

I met my Taiwanese wife online (EHarmony) in 2015.......but she happened to be in the Chicago area visiting friends at the time........so I was able to fly up there to meet in person.  The rest is a beautiful love story.......and about 2 and a half months later, we were married and living in Taipei.  

Edited March 16, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[millefleur 5,046]

6 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

I met my Taiwanese wife online (EHarmony) in 2015.......but she happened to be in the Chicago area visiting friends at the time........so I was able to fly up there to meet in person.  The rest is a beautiful love story.......and about 2 and a half months later, we were married and living in Taipei.  

That's awesome, for me if I had met someone online, I would want to meet them right away like that. I would've done the same in your situation, the sooner people can meet in person, the better.

[Sarah&Facundo 595]

1 hour ago, millefleur said:

That's awesome, for me if I had met someone online, I would want to meet them right away like that. I would've done the same in your situation, the sooner people can meet in person, the better.

I absolutely agree! Time together in person is so important, not only for immigration documentation purposes, but to build a strong foundation for a marriage. 

[Sparkle Sparkle 914]

2 hours ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

I assume 90 Day Fiance also had an impact.

90 days fiancé made it lucrative IMHO

[Verrou 1,962]

my husband & i met through online dating app....and both of us live in NY. its not easy to meet people organically ( at least for me)

[Rocio0010 5,579]

3 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

I met my Taiwanese wife online (EHarmony) in 2015.......but she happened to be in the Chicago area visiting friends at the time........so I was able to fly up there to meet in person.  The rest is a beautiful love story.......and about 2 and a half months later, we were married and living in Taipei.  

(Love Story music playing in the background)

That’s such an awesome love story!

[Rocio0010 5,579]

I was on an F1 here when I met my now hubby. It was around Christmas time, I was as broke as you could get and all my friends had flown back home. I was alone for Christmas, so I signed up for an account in OK Cupid, not because I was looking for love, I just wanted somebody to talk to and not go crazy over Christmas break. Long story short, we went on a blind date for Christmas! 

[JeanneAdil 6,491]

I think many see meeting online as safe or the safer way to date now because of stalkers and date rapes, etc 

online ,  u can delete a person,  block a person, and if u r smart when u first meet ,  don't give out an address or phone #,  you are a bit safer / but this would also apply to someone in your country not just international '

 

The part of talking online to someone online that is scary is getting involved with a scammer or being catfished 

 

so,  no matter how u meet,  how u communicate,  how u date,  u have to be careful and keep your guard up and use the head to guide not the heart

 

i think most who meet on Facebook or gaming apps don't think to marry but if u find someone with common interests ,  its a good thing

 

we met when i volunteered in his country working with handicapped adults / his aunt took me to dinner and introduced us (short meeting)and then i was approached by him and his brother in Paris airport as stuck there in ice storm with no money and ATM down,  they bought me food 

emailed the brother as he asked for my ID to say i had made it home

i never thought to remarry after loosing my husband to cancer and good God i never thought to marry someone younger

but yesterday was our 12th anniversary and it works for us

Edited March 16, 2022 by JeanneAdil

[millefleur 5,046]

1 hour ago, JeanneAdil said:

so,  no matter how u meet,  how u communicate,  how u date,  u have to be careful and keep your guard up and use the head to guide not the heart

Absolutely true, even if you met someone face to face/in person, same risks apply. Everyone starts out to us as strangers. Don't let your emotions carry you away too much and be sure to always look out for yourself.

 

1 hour ago, JeanneAdil said:

we met when i volunteered in his country working with handicapped adults / his aunt took me to dinner and introduced us (short meeting)and then i was approached by him and his brother in Paris airport as stuck there in ice storm with no money and ATM down,  they bought me food 

emailed the brother as he asked for my ID to say i had made it home

i never thought to remarry after loosing my husband to cancer and good God i never thought to marry someone younger

but yesterday was our 12th anniversary and it works for us

I am also married to a younger man myself! It's not something you ever plan on, that's for sure. 😆 Love your story and I'm so happy to hear it's worked out!!