interview scheduled: removing conditions with divorce: scared!

[Dianalorena 1,153]

Hey everyone, it's been forever.

 

Long story short, in 2019, six months after entering the country, my spouse cheated, asked for a divorce,

moved in with the new woman and got re-engaged within months. I know, a proper soap opera/telenovela.

 

I was gathering the documents and I took a bit longer than I should've because I was heartbroken, (but still filed within the timeframe)

I mailed the documents in 2020, so of course I got stuck in the Pandemic timeline and have obtained both my extensions, which are valid until August.

I was also dumb and deleted a lot of the photos/messages out of anger, but I thankfully kept the big needed items. I've been told photos aren't too important. 

 

I finally got my interview scheduled for March 31st, and I am mortified, thinking I don't have enough things with me. 

I front loaded my application with the help of rapidvisa, I sent this and I am bringing the following evidence:

 

* Lease of us living together, including emails with the landlord.

* Our taxes filed Jointly for 2018

* Proof I was on his insurance

* Proof I was his primary life insurance beneficiary 

* e-mails to each other, good and bad.

* Facebook screenshots and some random messages I could find

* Proof of some trips we took together 

* proof of him being verbally abusive to me on an e-mail

* an e-mail of him confessing to cheating

* my receipts of paying for therapy 

* our divorce decree, which was started by him. 

* a letter from me explaining the separation 

 

I am requesting 2-3 affidavits signed in front of a notary of people that knew us and knew the relationship was real. 

One from his twin brother, one from a friend and one from a cousin. they all support me and were also blindsided by it. 

probably will ask a 4th one from a friend that was in the car when he almost killed us driving drunk, but she is in Mexico

so no idea if this one will count. 

 

I know you can't know if this will be enough, but that's all I've got. We never had joint credit cards or accounts, no children thankfully.

is there anything else I could include that I'm not thinking of?

Any words of encouragement or support are deeply appreciated.

 

 

 

 

[Mike E 11,739]

Looks like a solid case.  Do you have the final divorce decree?

 

Would you mind updating your timeline with the date you entered the USA on your immigration visa?

Edited March 6, 2022 by Mike E

[balo101 669]

34 minutes ago, Dianalorena said:

Hey everyone, it's been forever.

 

Long story short, in 2019, six months after entering the country, my spouse cheated, asked for a divorce,

moved in with the new woman and got re-engaged within months. I know, a proper soap opera/telenovela.

 

I was gathering the documents and I took a bit longer than I should've because I was heartbroken, (but still filed within the timeframe)

I mailed the documents in 2020, so of course I got stuck in the Pandemic timeline and have obtained both my extensions, which are valid until August.

I was also dumb and deleted a lot of the photos/messages out of anger, but I thankfully kept the big needed items. I've been told photos aren't too important. 

 

I finally got my interview scheduled for March 31st, and I am mortified, thinking I don't have enough things with me. 

I front loaded my application with the help of rapidvisa, I sent this and I am bringing the following evidence:

 

* Lease of us living together, including emails with the landlord.

* Our taxes filed Jointly for 2018

* Proof I was on his insurance

* Proof I was his primary life insurance beneficiary 

* e-mails to each other, good and bad.

* Facebook screenshots and some random messages I could find

* Proof of some trips we took together 

* proof of him being verbally abusive to me on an e-mail

* an e-mail of him confessing to cheating

* my receipts of paying for therapy 

* our divorce decree, which was started by him. 

* a letter from me explaining the separation 

 

I am requesting 2-3 affidavits signed in front of a notary of people that knew us and knew the relationship was real. 

One from his twin brother, one from a friend and one from a cousin. they all support me and were also blindsided by it. 

probably will ask a 4th one from a friend that was in the car when he almost killed us driving drunk, but she is in Mexico

so no idea if this one will count. 

 

I know you can't know if this will be enough, but that's all I've got. We never had joint credit cards or accounts, no children thankfully.

is there anything else I could include that I'm not thinking of?

Any words of encouragement or support are deeply appreciated.

 

 

 

 

Are you attending marriage based interview?

Is your spouse going with you? 

[Dianalorena 1,153]

16 minutes ago, Mike E said:

Looks like a solid case.  Do you have the final divorce decree?

 

Would you mind updating your timeline with the date you entered the USA on your immigration visa?

Yes, he remarried in 2019, Months after us separating, Thats why he rushed to get our divorce finalized. I'm hoping it doesn't look bad on my part 

 

4 minutes ago, balo101 said:

Are you attending marriage based interview?

Is your spouse going with you? 

Nope, with divorce decree. We've been divorced since 2019 

[Mike E 11,739]

24 minutes ago, Dianalorena said:

Yes, he remarried in 2019, Months after us separating, Thats why he rushed to get our divorce finalized. I'm hoping it doesn't look bad on my part 

Solid case then. It should not look bad on your part especially since you didn’t ask for the divorce. 

[Dianalorena 1,153]

36 minutes ago, Mike E said:

Solid case then. It should not look bad on your part especially since you didn’t ask for the divorce. 

Thank you, this does make me feel better. it's such a crazy process because I feel like I'm re-traumatizing myself, but thankfully it's been long enough. 

[mushroomspore 3,044]

2 hours ago, Dianalorena said:

Hey everyone, it's been forever.

 

Long story short, in 2019, six months after entering the country, my spouse cheated, asked for a divorce,

moved in with the new woman and got re-engaged within months. I know, a proper soap opera/telenovela.

 

I was gathering the documents and I took a bit longer than I should've because I was heartbroken, (but still filed within the timeframe)

I mailed the documents in 2020, so of course I got stuck in the Pandemic timeline and have obtained both my extensions, which are valid until August.

I was also dumb and deleted a lot of the photos/messages out of anger, but I thankfully kept the big needed items. I've been told photos aren't too important. 

 

I finally got my interview scheduled for March 31st, and I am mortified, thinking I don't have enough things with me. 

I front loaded my application with the help of rapidvisa, I sent this and I am bringing the following evidence:

 

* Lease of us living together, including emails with the landlord.

* Our taxes filed Jointly for 2018

* Proof I was on his insurance

* Proof I was his primary life insurance beneficiary 

* e-mails to each other, good and bad.

* Facebook screenshots and some random messages I could find

* Proof of some trips we took together 

* proof of him being verbally abusive to me on an e-mail

* an e-mail of him confessing to cheating

* my receipts of paying for therapy 

* our divorce decree, which was started by him. 

* a letter from me explaining the separation 

 

I am requesting 2-3 affidavits signed in front of a notary of people that knew us and knew the relationship was real. 

One from his twin brother, one from a friend and one from a cousin. they all support me and were also blindsided by it. 

probably will ask a 4th one from a friend that was in the car when he almost killed us driving drunk, but she is in Mexico

so no idea if this one will count. 

 

I know you can't know if this will be enough, but that's all I've got. We never had joint credit cards or accounts, no children thankfully.

is there anything else I could include that I'm not thinking of?

Any words of encouragement or support are deeply appreciated.

 

 

 

 

Your situation is very common. You'll be fine.

[Dianalorena 1,153]

21 minutes ago, mushroomspore said:

Your situation is very common. You'll be fine.

Tell that to my panicky lizard brain! 

 

I guess I was hoping they would see the frontloaded application and spare me the interview, so I'm a little scared. 

[mushroomspore 3,044]

2 minutes ago, Dianalorena said:

Tell that to my panicky lizard brain! 

 

I guess I was hoping they would see the frontloaded application and spare me the interview, so I'm a little scared. 

You'll be ok. They offer the divorce waiver as an option for a reason; they don't operate on the basis that every divorce automatically means fraud or that there's something to be suspicious of.

[Dianalorena 1,153]

3 hours ago, mushroomspore said:

You'll be ok. They offer the divorce waiver as an option for a reason; they don't operate on the basis that every divorce automatically means fraud or that there's something to be suspicious of.

I truly appreciate this, thank you. 
 

[TBoneTX 45,309]

Looks like as close to a slam-dunk as any such case could be.  Keep the faith.

[Gomast 65]

Make sure to submit a copy of ID of each person who writes an affidavit. 

[DCMB 28]

I'm really sorry to read all this cruel situation, considering the amount of trust and dependency we give to our husbands when we come to this country.

 

All the evidence point to a solid case, Good luck everything would be fine!

 

ANIMOS!!

[Dianalorena 1,153]

7 hours ago, Gomast said:

Make sure to submit a copy of ID of each person who writes an affidavit. 

ah thanks for this reminder, I was totally forgetting that part!

I will have 3-4 total. I think the fact that his brother, cousin and one of his friends are helping me,  should look good.

 

 

 

[mam521 2,063]

22 hours ago, Dianalorena said:

Thank you, this does make me feel better. it's such a crazy process because I feel like I'm re-traumatizing myself, but thankfully it's been long enough. 

Don't retraumatize yourself!  Think of it as the final closure to that chapter!  It wasn't the way you'd have written it, but it's written and time to move on to something more self fulfilling and happier!