No in person meeting. Refile or wait?

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6 minutes ago, wh930 said:

 

Thank you for the info! We'll consider doing this.

Do consider it. This is coming from someone who went through K1 fairly recently. Best of luck on your journey! 

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3 hours ago, wh930 said:

 

Thank you for the info! We'll consider doing this.

Keep in mind, if you take this route you will still need to have an in-person meeting after the ceremony before you can file the I130 for a CR1.  If you can get to a third country, I would suggest doing it at that point.

 

Good Luck!

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4 hours ago, wh930 said:

We've never met in person, but we've known each other for almost 10 years, since we were both in high school. We'll be meeting for sure, because that's the only way to get the visa. For passport, it's still possible to get one if you know people. Thanks.

Please consider meeting first before marrying. And meet at least twice before filing. Knowing someone online is not at all the same as knowing someone in person.

If you really like each other you can get married via Utah when you are together in the third country. Then file when you return to the States. 

 

I know some people are able to have successful marriages after a short courtship/ very little face to face time. But, when it goes wrong it can go very wrong.

Read the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits for a preview of what might happen if once she flies to the States you realize you are in fact not compatible. 

 

Unfortunately this process is not at all quick. But, it is a big commitment and moving countries and living with someone from another culture can be extremely hard on a relationship and marriage. 

 

Good luck! And I hope you can meet with your intended soon. 

Edited February 6, 2022 by Kor2USA

[wh930 5]

42 minutes ago, Kor2USA said:

Please consider meeting first before marrying. And meet at least twice before filing. Knowing someone online is not at all the same as knowing someone in person.

If you really like each other you can get married via Utah when you are together in the third country. Then file when you return to the States. 

 

I know some people are able to have successful marriages after a short courtship/ very little face to face time. But, when it goes wrong it can go very wrong.

Read the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits for a preview of what might happen if once she flies to the States you realize you are in fact not compatible. 

 

Unfortunately this process is not at all quick. But, it is a big commitment and moving countries and living with someone from another culture can be extremely hard on a relationship and marriage. 

 

Good luck! And I hope you can meet with your intended soon. 

Thank you!

Yes, I agree with you. But for us, given our history and relationship, we're both completely fine with this and want to be together asap. For her to go to a third country, she would have to quit her job because she‘s a doctor, and there's no way she can get one month off (quarantine is at least 3 weeks when returning to China). There's no way we would be doing this if we weren't 100 percent sure. As for culture,  we're both Chinese, and she had also met my grandpa in China in 2020.

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2 minutes ago, wh930 said:

Thank you!

Yes, I agree with you. But for us, given our history and relationship, we're both completely fine with this and want to be together asap. For her to go to a third country, she would have to quit her job because she‘s a doctor, and there's no way she can get one month off (quarantine is at least 3 weeks when returning to China). There's no way we would be doing this if we weren't 100 percent sure. As for culture,  we're both Chinese, and she had also met my grandpa in China in 2020.

If you have ties to China is it possible for you to get some sort of family visa to visit your grandpa? Or are you able to find some sort of job to sponsor you so you can go over there for a few months/ a year?

The process for moving to the States can be so glacial. You should consider relocating to China as an option while you wait out the process. 

[wh930 5]

3 minutes ago, Kor2USA said:

If you have ties to China is it possible for you to get some sort of family visa to visit your grandpa? Or are you able to find some sort of job to sponsor you so you can go over there for a few months/ a year?

The process for moving to the States can be so glacial. You should consider relocating to China as an option while you wait out the process. 

There are only two types of visas available right now: humanitarian and work. To get a humanitarian visa you need proof from a hospital that your immediate family member is in a serious health condition. Work visa is also really difficult to obtain. I think it will only get approved by the government if you get a work invitation from a large company. Not sure how long it will take either. Seems like there's no options besides meeting a another country. Even then, I've heard that customes officers in China tell people to go back and don't allow them to leave the country.

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3 minutes ago, wh930 said:

There are only two types of visas available right now: humanitarian and work. To get a humanitarian visa you need proof from a hospital that your immediate family member is in a serious health condition. Work visa is also really difficult to obtain. I think it will only get approved by the government if you get a work invitation from a large company. Not sure how long it will take either. Seems like there's no options besides meeting a another country. Even then, I've heard that customes officers in China tell people to go back and don't allow them to leave the country.

Sounds like you have a tough road ahead of you. 

Good luck. I hope you can figure it out. 

[Sarah&Facundo 599]

3 hours ago, Kor2USA said:

Please consider meeting first before marrying. And meet at least twice before filing. Knowing someone online is not at all the same as knowing someone in person.

If you really like each other you can get married via Utah when you are together in the third country. Then file when you return to the States. 

 

I know some people are able to have successful marriages after a short courtship/ very little face to face time. But, when it goes wrong it can go very wrong.

Read the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits for a preview of what might happen if once she flies to the States you realize you are in fact not compatible. 

 

Unfortunately this process is not at all quick. But, it is a big commitment and moving countries and living with someone from another culture can be extremely hard on a relationship and marriage. 

 

Good luck! And I hope you can meet with your intended soon. 

100000000% agree with this!

 

1 hour ago, wh930 said:

There are only two types of visas available right now: humanitarian and work. To get a humanitarian visa you need proof from a hospital that your immediate family member is in a serious health condition. Work visa is also really difficult to obtain. I think it will only get approved by the government if you get a work invitation from a large company. Not sure how long it will take either. Seems like there's no options besides meeting a another country. Even then, I've heard that customes officers in China tell people to go back and don't allow them to leave the country.

I know multiple people who have gone to China to teach English at a local school. I also work online tutoring English to students in China in the mornings, almost all whom have told me they have an American or Canadian teacher who teaches at their physical school in person. Although I don't know much about the specific process, there must be a way to do this considering so many are doing it. From what people have told me, they pay a pretty decent salary and cover living experiences. If you could secure a contract near your fiancé, at least you could spend time together in person for a year and form that aspect of your relationship before committing to a huge move.