Separation after IR1 and IR2 visa in hand.

[Lil bear 4,342]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

IR1

 

Currently in Finland 

 

Seems one of her family members was a joint sponsor

 

Messy

 

Maybe the 2 children are US citizens 

Thx. Yes messy. At least no ROC is in the mix. Not sure if it would still be under scrutiny for N400? 

[Boiler 46,162]

6 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

Thx. Yes messy. At least no ROC is in the mix. Not sure if it would still be under scrutiny for N400? 

A long way away and it should not but I have heard of such issues being questioned so not sure

[Lil bear 4,342]

Just now, Boiler said:

A long way away and it should not but I have heard of such issues being questioned so not sure

My thoughts exactly

[Milda 31]

23 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

May i ask how long you have been married? If it is less than two years,  there may be significant questions asked about  a bona fide relationship when you apply to have the conditions on the LPR status lifted in 2 years time 

7 years and two kids together.  Caption says ir1. 

[Lil bear 4,342]

Just now, Milda said:

7 years and two kids together.  Caption says ir1. 

Thx.  I am truly sorry for what you are facing right now. It must seem overwhelming ..  hoping your family in the US can help you and care for you. 

[Milda 31]

22 minutes ago, Boiler said:

IR1

 

Currently in Finland 

 

Seems one of her family members was a joint sponsor

 

Messy

 

Maybe the 2 children are US citizens 

Correct. 
 

messy is the right word.. we used to live back there and for undisclosed reasons moved back here.. which later he wanted to move back to the US so i paid for the immigration and his passport and plane tickets ect.. just for him to fly there and text me that he no longer wants to be with me. Everything was fine earlier the same day.. 

he knows our kids have already given up their school spots and i gave up my job and home for us to move.. this was premeditated for sure. 

[Boiler 46,162]

There are certainly cases where the I 864 has been included in a divorce settlement but here you could just end up involving your family joint sponsor 

[Milda 31]

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

There are certainly cases where the I 864 has been included in a divorce settlement but here you could just end up involving your family joint sponsor 

Yea i def do not wanna bother my cousin at all with this. 

[Lemonslice 4,976]

Life might be better where you are, think twice before moving.  With custody after divorce, you might end up stuck in the USA until your youngest child is an adult. 

 

If you really think moving to the USA is the best solution, I would head close to family/relatives to have a support system in place, especially if the schools are good in their area.

I'm not sure about your profession/qualifications, and skills, but most employers are in need for employees.  Do not settle for minimum wage. 

 

 

Best of luck.

Edited February 4, 2022 by Lemonslice

[Milda 31]

11 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Life might be better where you are, think twice before moving.  With custody after divorce, you might end up stuck in the USA until your youngest child is an adult. 

 

If you really think moving to the USA is the best solution, I would head close to family/relatives to have a support system in place, especially if the schools are good in their area.

I'm not sure about your profession/qualifications, and skills, but most employers are in need for employees.  Do not settle for minimum wage. 

 

 

Best of luck.

11 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Life might be better where you are, think twice before moving.  With custody after divorce, you might end up stuck in the USA until your youngest child is an adult. 

 

If you really think moving to the USA is the best solution, I would head close to family/relatives to have a support system in place, especially if the schools are good in their area.

I'm not sure about your profession/qualifications, and skills, but most employers are in need for employees.  Do not settle for minimum wage. 

 

 

Best of luck.

Thank you.

working hard and making money is not my concern.. i do a lot and work hard. Just worried about getting on our feet and finding a place to stay first..

[Lemonslice 4,976]

Just now, Milda said:

working hard and making money is not my concern.. i do a lot and work hard. Just worried about getting on our feet and finding a place to stay first..

Take the time to think hard about it. 

Rent a furnished accommodation, or Airbnb, for a month to find your bearings then.

 

I have no doubt you are willing to work hard, what I'm saying is that depending on the line of work, one could be working hard and not get out of poverty in the USA.  

Education is hit or miss, depending on where you'll be living; something you wouldn't have to worry about in Finland.  Health insurance and childcare is also more accessible there.   

 

Again, best of luck.

[EmilyW 1,528]

I have no advice.  Just admiration for you, OP, for wanting to do what you think is best for you and your babies.  Bless you on this journey!

 

Also, I think your husband is a bit of a bum.

[Milda 31]

26 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Take the time to think hard about it. 

Rent a furnished accommodation, or Airbnb, for a month to find your bearings then.

 

I have no doubt you are willing to work hard, what I'm saying is that depending on the line of work, one could be working hard and not get out of poverty in the USA.  

Education is hit or miss, depending on where you'll be living; something you wouldn't have to worry about in Finland.  Health insurance and childcare is also more accessible there.   

 

Again, best of luck.

Yes we lived there before so i do know where i stand with that.. as for things being better in Finland, thats a definite no. Things are not better here despite the “free” healthcare and schools.. unfortunately. My kids will definitely be better off growing up away from here..

[JeanneAdil 6,670]

7 years married and 2 kids are his

gf u are looking at child support ,  alimony and a property settlement from  him

it will be tough at first but get yourself a good divorce attorney and you are Finnish and us Finnish have SISU

[Lemonslice 4,976]

12 minutes ago, Milda said:

Yes we lived there before so i do know where i stand with that.. as for things being better in Finland, thats a definite no. Things are not better here despite the “free” healthcare and schools.. unfortunately. My kids will definitely be better off growing up away from here..

Oh, the best in the USA is great.  As for starting in a homeless shelter... yeah, that can be a hard traumatic start.  I trust that you a better plan in mind. 

Had a good experience during my experience in Helsinki, but winters are long for sure!