Supporting Evidences for Large Age gaps for Spouses from Third World Countries

[AfroKing 48]

22 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

not to be hard on u as we have a large age gap and i know what the immigration CO will look for in this relationship

i made 5 trips spending a total of 6 months in Morocco with him and his family.

i added him to the deed to the house in the US with a quick claim deed

he and i exchanged 123 greeting cards for holidays and to display our feelings (they are free online and the main page can be printed out)

we had photos of me (USC ) with his family / the mother approving is importand

and which religion did u marry under 

as for Nigeria

https://www.afsusa.org/countries/nigeria/#afs-nav-people

the father is considered the head of the house. He makes most decisions and is the primary breadwinner for the family. 

 

If muslim

Men, therefore, are regarded as protectors of women and families, and providers of financial support. 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/zk9whyc/revision/3#:~:text=The traditional Muslim family is,and support for each oth

 

No matter what u think,  the CO will go by cultural norms in your country and to overcome the age difference , you , the Nigerian must prove u really really care about the health and happiness of the USC 

 

 

Thanks. I bet these numerous trips were before the Covid pandemic? 

Travelling at these times is a pain in the butt but we check all these lists. We have all these you mentioned. I just want more solid proof to show our honest intentions and your post has been of immense help. Yes, my Mom approved too though after a bit of resistance but at the end, she was like "I bless this as long as it makes you happy"

[AfroKing 48]

23 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

she will follow IRS guides for foreign income which is taxable as Nigeria is not a tax treaty country

 

https://www.irs.gov/businesses/international-businesses/united-states-income-tax-treaties-a-to-z

 

with the ITIN when she gets the paper notice from IRS  (as i said in previous post ) she can use that ITIN to add u to checking or savings but u can not have a debit card as you're not in the US

 

POA-u said she was reading post (. She's reading this too, smiles )   so i figured she would explain a POA

 

its a Power of attorney given from one 1st person  to 2nd  to do business in the name of the 1st person like signing your name to IRS tax returns (as they can not be done online as IRS needs original documents like your photo ID and marriage certificate) and to add u to bank with the ITIN 

 

looks like she sends u money( that will look like u use her for money to immigration as they see it) and makes visits but marriage  is a 2 way commitment /  what do u do for her?

Please, can you shed more light on this. By, "as they can not be done online as IRS needs original documents like your photo ID and marriage certificate)", do you mean she will have to present the physical copies of these? Thanks

[Rocio0010 5,579]

22 minutes ago, AfroKing said:

Its in a lot of thread. Lots of folks have included it in their petition and got approved. I know each case is different but i spoke to a couple of folks who's got theirs approved and they said there's nothing wrong.

 

https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/737756-rfesending-spouse-money-a-good-or-bad-thing/

I personally wouldn’t include them. Even in the thread you sent me they’re advising against it, especially if beneficiary is from a high fraud country 

[AfroKing 48]

16 hours ago, dwheels76 said:

@AfroKing This is spot on what  @carmel34 said. I relate to this post as a woman who is 26 years older than her Nigerian husband. We will be married 7 years in May. He has been here 5- 1/2 years and a Citizen 1-1/2 years.

#1 evidence is time together in person. So kudos on the visit especially the Month. You have a long process ahead so focus on the visit and her staying as long as possible.

Filing taxes, Life Insurance all that co-mingling stuff n matter you don;t live together.
Lagos wants to see visits often and long. They want to see pictures of foreigner with your family meeting the parents. Many women come never meeting anyone being closed off. So focus on that.

Thanks. She comes to visit once every year as she only gets two weeks of paid holidays every year. She has met every members of the family that i care about, all my immediate siblings, my mom, uncle, nephews and childhood friends and we sure included all those in the I-130.

 

Please, is there a way i can contact you since your Hubby had gone through the same consulate? It would be nice knowing how he went through each stages. 

[AfroKing 48]

13 hours ago, Pinkrlion said:

I advise that you write about length of engagement....how long was it before you got married.

I sure did mention those.

1. We had a relationship and became serious with each other for two years. We only spoke to each other and each other's family via Video and voice calls all these two years

2. She cam around the third year and met all of them physically

3. We got married the 3rd year , her second visit

 

 

[JeanneAdil 6,504]

11 minutes ago, AfroKing said:

Please, can you shed more light on this. By, "as they can not be done online as IRS needs original documents like your photo ID and marriage certificate)", do you mean she will have to present the physical copies of these? Thanks

IRS wants originals of marriage 

they will accept  certified copy of a birth ceritficate or national ID

USC needs to read thru the IRS site as they have changed the form since i did it

follow IRS 

[AfroKing 48]

13 hours ago, pushbrk said:

First, what you "think" is reasonable but not likely to be considered by the Consular Officer.  The best possible evidence is evidence of time spent together in person.  Second is examples of how and how frequently you communicate.  In your specific reverse age difference circumstance a detailed "evolution of relationship letter" from the petitioner explaining how the relationship progressed and why, is critical.

Thanks, we did write a letter explaining the relationship timeline in our I-130 package. I wrote one and she wrote hers too, correlating each other's story.

 

Do you think filling a joint tax isn't really necessary since we don't co-habit at the moment ?

[AfroKing 48]

11 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

I personally wouldn’t include them. Even in the thread you sent me they’re advising against it, especially if beneficiary is from a high fraud country 

Well, the deed is done, petition had been sent since last year! I'm not going to worry about the "woulda, shoulda" things. We just want to focus on what to do going forward. 

 

Thanks

[AfroKing 48]

7 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

IRS wants originals of marriage 

they will accept  certified copy of a birth ceritficate or national ID

USC needs to read thru the IRS site as they have changed the form since i did it

follow IRS 

When you did yours, were you required to submit a form of account statement from your bank as a foreigner or a pay stub was required?

[JeanneAdil 6,504]

Just now, AfroKing said:

When you did yours, were you required to submit a form of account statement from your bank as a foreigner or a pay stub was required?

No ,   morocco has no pay stubs 

he made 900 dh a month which at that time was 90 USD and i put in yearly total and did form 2555 to exclude it but remember Moroc has tax treaty with US and Nigeria doesn't 

how u do this (MFJ or MFS) will be a personal choice for the 2 of u 

i only say u need to show strong relationship with the age difference and give u the best i know as our age gap was  a big one

and , yes,  my trips were pre covid but we can travel again and time together is very powerful for immigration process

[pushbrk 12,883]

7 hours ago, AfroKing said:

Thanks, we did write a letter explaining the relationship timeline in our I-130 package. I wrote one and she wrote hers too, correlating each other's story.

 

Do you think filling a joint tax isn't really necessary since we don't co-habit at the moment ?

I don't think it will make a difference.

[Dsam 1]

On 1/29/2022 at 4:08 AM, AfroKing said:

oh yea, we included those in I-130 and still continuing. We have no phone bills though, whatsapp calls does it better. We have all these but i think this are considered secondary evidences. 

 

Thanks so much  for your input

How did you get your WhatsApp call logs  history ?