Divorce during i751 Pending

[Allaboutwaiting 2,503]

3 minutes ago, Journey22 said:

Cr1

Ok. 

Then you will be interviewed. So the only choices are attending the interview with your husband or attending on your own, asking for a divorce waiver and handing them the divorce decree.

Edited January 27, 2022 by Allaboutwaiting

[Journey22 1]

Just now, Allaboutwaiting said:

Ok. 

Then you will be interviewed. So the only choices are attending the interview with your husband or attending on your own, ask for a divorce waiver and hand them the divorce decree.

My husband might not want to agree to divorce either. I am not sure what exactly he wants

Just now, Allaboutwaiting said:

Ok. 

Then you will be interviewed. So the only choices are attending the interview with your husband or attending on your own, ask for a divorce waiver and hand them the divorce decree.

He won't attend for sure at least that's what I think

[Timona 4,207]

1 minute ago, Journey22 said:

My husband might not want to agree to divorce either. I am not sure what exactly he wants

He won't attend for sure at least that's what I think

 

Choose the easy way out. Divorce imho.

File and let him be served. 

[Boiler 45,501]

3 minutes ago, Journey22 said:

So what are my options? It's not my fault that he is cheating? 

Divorce or reconcile 

[Journey22 1]

1 minute ago, Timona said:

 

Choose the easy way out. Divorce imho.

File and let him be served. 

I am scared of the society and my family. Anyway, do I have to hire a lawyer or can I do that without a lawyer?

[Allaboutwaiting 2,503]

Just now, Journey22 said:

My husband might not want to agree to divorce either. I am not sure what exactly he wants

He won't attend for sure at least that's what I think

If you go to the interview on your own without the divorce decree, they will give you some time to get it and send it. If you don't, the case will very likely be denied. 

[Journey22 1]

Just now, Allaboutwaiting said:

If you go to the interview on your own without the divorce decree, they will give you some time to get it and send it. If you don't, the case will very likely be denied. 

Yeah that's what I am worried about. Not sure How to begin. I am so scared

[Timona 4,207]

4 minutes ago, Journey22 said:

I am scared of the society and my family. Anyway, do I have to hire a lawyer or can I do that without a lawyer?

 

Scared of? Screw society. Take care of your self first and quit worrying about others. 

Lemme PM you.

[Allaboutwaiting 2,503]

1 minute ago, Journey22 said:

Yeah that's what I am worried about. Not sure How to begin. I am so scared

If you are certain he won't attend the interview it is a good time to start researching on the divorce options you have. 

Not all divorces require an attorney but all cost money. 

[Boiler 45,501]

3 minutes ago, Journey22 said:

Yeah that's what I am worried about. Not sure How to begin. I am so scared

Sounds like you will be best having a lawyer, I am sure there are no end of self help sources local to you

[Journey22 1]

Just now, Boiler said:

Sounds like you will be best having a lawyer, I am sure there are no end of self help sources local to you

Lawyers are so expensive.Do I need a lawyer for divorce or immigration?

1 minute ago, Allaboutwaiting said:

If you are certain he won't attend the interview it is a good time to start researching on the divorce options you have. 

Not all divorces require an attorney but all cost money. 

Idk I never asked him. I have self respect. 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

Steps:

1) divorce (I’m pretty sure he doesn’t need to agree)

2) wait for the divorce decree

3) switch to a divorce waiver

4) screw with society and what people think.

5) celebrate your new life

[SalishSea 17,829]

20 minutes ago, Journey22 said:

Lawyers are so expensive.Do I need a lawyer for divorce or immigration?

Idk I never asked him. I have self respect. 

Self respect for women in the US starts with taking care of ourselves, protecting ourselves, and not tolerating being treated like this.   If you are unhappy, and it is not what you want, you must be proactive and make choices that will help you to become happy.  Sometimes we need to make choices for our own benefit, not for our family’s or society’s.   It’s YOUR life.

 

As far as US immigration goes, if you want to remain in the US with a 10 year GC, you only have two choices:  1) pursue a divorce, attend the interview and request a divorce waiver.   You will need to show the bonafides for your marriage, and evidence of a pending divorce or the final decree of dissolution.   If you do not yet have the decree, you will get an RFE and be able to submit it when you get it.

 

2) Reconcile with your spouse.   It would need to be genuine, and he would need to attend the interview.

 

Btw, your story sounds awfully familiar.   Have you posted before, under a different username?  I believe that thread got identical responses to this one…

[Boiler 45,501]

Removing conditions with a divorce waiver is very common and from what I have seen here is rarely an issue.

 

Divorce can be complicated, seems simpler when both parties are on board and just want it to happen as smoothly as possible.

Edited January 27, 2022 by Boiler

[mushroomspore 3,044]

1 hour ago, Journey22 said:

Lawyers are so expensive.Do I need a lawyer for divorce or immigration?

Idk I never asked him. I have self respect. 

Yes you need a lawyer for the divorce but you don't need one for immigration. Many people divorce with a pending I-751. It is not super rare. As others have pointed out, you need to file for dicorce ASAP. The main issue is that you said your (soon to be ex)-husband won't go to the interview with you. You can't go to an I-751 alone if you filed jointly. If you try to continue with a jointly filed I-751 and then go to the interview alone, you'll cause problems for yourself. You need to get ahead of this noe and update it to divorce waiver but you can't do that until you start the divorce proceedings. Also, get STD tested. I am very unforgiving about cheaters and infidelity, so I'm very sorry and I hope you can heal. You deserve better. But also, you need to try to cut through of emotions and start thinking logically to take action.