ATTENTION JULY FILERS!

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

[*julez* 124]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

I don't see why this is "obviously a choice". I wouldn't make the assumption that they chose to stay apart for that long of a time. Sometimes "choices are made for people due to various extenuating circumstances in their lives. I read all the time on VJ about couples who have long periods of time apart and usually it is a financial constraint, or the US petitioner has kids that can't be left alone, etc. There's more to this story than we know, so please don't make assumptions. I feel very fortunate that I have been able to spend so much time with my fiance, but not everyone has the same options. Give the guy a break!

Edited September 10, 2007 by julezabelle

[English Muffin 59]

I'm more anxious about my upcoming trip to Moscow than anything right now. I can't imagine how difficult this would be without the visits. actually, i can. We once waited over 8 months without seeing each other. We'll never do that again...

You're going to be with Sasha when I'm with Scott. I'm flying out there on 29 September for 10 days and I can't wait!!

Gillian

[StillThePrettiest 3]

I agree that it might not necessarily be a choice; all sorts of things can keep people apart... and let's not get too earnest about comparing timescales; let's just agree that ANY enforced separation is too long, and we're all superhuman to have been able to maintain healthy, loving relationships throughout all the slings and arrows fired at us by the cruel USCIS

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

I don't see why this is "obviously a choice". I wouldn't make the assumption that they chose to stay apart for that long of a time. Sometimes "choices are made for people due to various extenuating circumstances in their lives. I read all the time on VJ about couples who have long periods of time apart and usually it is a financial constraint, or the US petitioner has kids that can't be left alone, etc. There's more to this story than we know, so please don't make assumptions. I feel very fortunate that I have been able to spend so much time with my fiance, but not everyone has the same options. Give the guy a break!

my "assumption" was based on his timeline. it wasn't for everyone. So, sorry if I offended you, Officer Julez. I can understand couples that dont see each other due to political reasons or family reasons (children, etc). But financially? C'mon.

[*julez* 124]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

I don't see why this is "obviously a choice". I wouldn't make the assumption that they chose to stay apart for that long of a time. Sometimes "choices are made for people due to various extenuating circumstances in their lives. I read all the time on VJ about couples who have long periods of time apart and usually it is a financial constraint, or the US petitioner has kids that can't be left alone, etc. There's more to this story than we know, so please don't make assumptions. I feel very fortunate that I have been able to spend so much time with my fiance, but not everyone has the same options. Give the guy a break!

my "assumption" was based on his timeline. it wasn't for everyone. So, sorry if I offended you, Officer Julez. I can understand couples that dont see each other due to political reasons or family reasons (children, etc). But financially? C'mon.

I know you weren't directing your comments at me. (not sure how I feel about this Officer Julez stuff )We'll just have to agree to disagree on this one, cos I can see where financial contraints would be an issue in a long-distance relationship.

[totes 0]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

I don't see why this is "obviously a choice". I wouldn't make the assumption that they chose to stay apart for that long of a time. Sometimes "choices are made for people due to various extenuating circumstances in their lives. I read all the time on VJ about couples who have long periods of time apart and usually it is a financial constraint, or the US petitioner has kids that can't be left alone, etc. There's more to this story than we know, so please don't make assumptions. I feel very fortunate that I have been able to spend so much time with my fiance, but not everyone has the same options. Give the guy a break!

my "assumption" was based on his timeline. it wasn't for everyone. So, sorry if I offended you, Officer Julez. I can understand couples that dont see each other due to political reasons or family reasons (children, etc). But financially? C'mon.

We haven't had to go longer than 6 months, hopefully we won't have to but... I can tell you that for us.... a trip to Africa can cost me anywhere from $3,000 - $5,000. My fiance' helps as much as he can but the fact is, they don't make enough in a month over there for an American to live on for a week so funds are limited. I also have a child that I am putting thru college so.... lot's of things do come in to play financially also.

I wasn't offended, just thought I'd offer a little insight.

[caro06 0]

finances do matter!!!

when i visit my fiancé in the USA i pay for the plane ticket of course, then i need money too and while i'm there i don't earn money

on the other hand i have loans and bills

so how can anyone say finances dont matter?

if i was a millionaire i'd be there much more obviously

i'm certainly not chosing to be apart!

it's so hard

and there's another thing...

i've read too many bad stories about ppl being stuck at the customs because they were suspected they would stay illegaly or things like that during the VISA petition...

anyway

has any july filer received a NOA2 yet?

[Bill y Bella 0]

has any july filer received a NOA2 yet?

Uh... that was a joke right?

There were 208 K1 petitons submitted in July. No approvals so far. We thought we had one for a Cuba petition but it turned out he filed in June. There have been 4 approvals so far for June. 3 of those were from Cuba which gets priority processing. The 4th was from The Netherlands. My guess is the one from The Netherlands was a military expedite, a typo in the timeline or some other unique situation. They are definitely not processing June petitions yet unless the beneficiary is from Cuba.

USCIS is currently working primarily on May petitions and taking their sweet time about it.

Since there is not much for us to do, here in the July forum we are keeping ourselves occupied with wedding plans and recipes. I cannot begin to tell you how enjoyable that has been for me.

If you are not already doing so, you might want to monitor the CSC NOA2 forum. Here is the link. They do a good job of keeping everyone updated on approvals.

There is also a link to the July Filers Spreadsheet in my signature.

[Jeraly 4]

I'm more anxious about my upcoming trip to Moscow than anything right now. I can't imagine how difficult this would be without the visits. actually, i can. We once waited over 8 months without seeing each other. We'll never do that again...

oh, I DO know what you mean... it was nine months almost to the day when I finally saw David again; I was getting to the point of wondering if I'd hallucinated him

but! it will never be that long again... he'll be here over a weekend in December, then in the early new year we fly to Aus for him to meet my family, and then I go over there, and then... everything starts new

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

Oh dear - the bitchiness starts again Longest I ever went without seeing my OH was just over four months and it was evil:/ He lives with his aunt so doesn't pay rent and I live with my mum which obviously helps the situation but I can fully understand why finances can hold people back from seeing each other - especially if you are in an underpaid job or have other financial constraints. I am so glad we get to see each other every 3-4 months and can't help but feel sorry fot those who aren't as fortunate I found it hard enough going four months!! We can't judge each other because everyone is different

And damn I wish I was from Cuba...

[michellemilitza 1]

The longest I went without seeing Ricardo was 9 months but it wasn't because of financial contraints, it was more of "taking time off" constraints, we were at a crossroads in our relationship, deciding whether to continue or just throw in the towel, I gave him an ultimatum and he said "I need some time" (typical male) ANYWAYS...........to make a very very, gut wrenching, tearjerking, romantically dysfunctional story short....I went to Panama in May which was the end of the semester for me. I went with the expectations of this being the last time I'll see him and that I was going to say goodbye to him forever. I was NOT expecting for him to propose to me AT ALL, but when he did I was so dumbfounded, I couldn't believe it! The night he proposed, when we fianlly went to bed (*wink , wink*)I woke up in the middle of the night to look at my ring to make sure I wasn't dreaming! So you see ladies and gentleman sometimes it's not economical reasons that some people don't see their other halves for a while, in my case He had to mature and made a decision, and as you can all see he made the right one!

[Bill y Bella 0]

The longest I went without seeing Ricardo was 9 months but it wasn't because of financial contraints, it was more of "taking time off" constraints, we were at a crossroads in our relationship, deciding whether to continue or just throw in the towel, I gave him an ultimatum and he said "I need some time" (typical male) ANYWAYS...........to make a very very, gut wrenching, tearjerking, romantically dysfunctional story short....I went to Panama in May which was the end of the semester for me. I went with the expectations of this being the last time I'll see him and that I was going to say goodbye to him forever. I was NOT expecting for him to propose to me AT ALL, but when he did I was so dumbfounded, I couldn't believe it! The night he proposed, when we fianlly went to bed (*wink , wink*)I woke up in the middle of the night to look at my ring to make sure I wasn't dreaming! So you see ladies and gentleman sometimes it's not economical reasons that some people don't see their other halves for a while, in my case He had to mature and made a decision, and as you can all see he made the right one!

You should have tried that bed thing sooner.

[thejoz 0]

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

This was obviously by choice. Why would you do this if you are both in love??

No, it wasn't.

I'm 21 and in college, and she's 20 and broke.

Neither of us could / can afford to just go see each other whenever we have the time.

If we could have, we would have, but we couldn't, so we didn't.

Please don't go making assumptions like that, it seemed rather rude.

[Nicole_Michel2007 0]

finances do matter!!!

when i visit my fiancé in the USA i pay for the plane ticket of course, then i need money too and while i'm there i don't earn money

on the other hand i have loans and bills

so how can anyone say finances dont matter?

if i was a millionaire i'd be there much more obviously

i'm certainly not chosing to be apart!

it's so hard

and there's another thing...

i've read too many bad stories about ppl being stuck at the customs because they were suspected they would stay illegaly or things like that during the VISA petition...

anyway

has any july filer received a NOA2 yet?

I agree that finances definately matter -i have a hard enough time budgeting in phone cards and saving for the little things for wedding and school when he gets here and things like that - visiting is not an option for me - unless my parents want to treat me to a trip to see him!!

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I'm more anxious about my upcoming trip to Moscow than anything right now. I can't imagine how difficult this would be without the visits. actually, i can. We once waited over 8 months without seeing each other. We'll never do that again...

oh, I DO know what you mean... it was nine months almost to the day when I finally saw David again; I was getting to the point of wondering if I'd hallucinated him

but! it will never be that long again... he'll be here over a weekend in December, then in the early new year we fly to Aus for him to meet my family, and then I go over there, and then... everything starts new

Hey I went from January 7th 2006 till April 11th 2007 without seeing my fiance.

So ya'll can quit complaining about time without each other

Oh dear - the bitchiness starts again Longest I ever went without seeing my OH was just over four months and it was evil:/ He lives with his aunt so doesn't pay rent and I live with my mum which obviously helps the situation but I can fully understand why finances can hold people back from seeing each other - especially if you are in an underpaid job or have other financial constraints. I am so glad we get to see each other every 3-4 months and can't help but feel sorry fot those who aren't as fortunate I found it hard enough going four months!! We can't judge each other because everyone is different

And damn I wish I was from Cuba...

I don't necessarily think it's bitchiness but just facts. To be honest... sometimes I read the posts and I think... what I wouldn't give to have the pleasure of my fiance' coming over here to meet my family and friends, to see how I live, to meet my daughter of all things... to save a little money but the bottom line is.... it's not possible. Nigerian's cannot get tourist visa's.... or any other sort of short term, if you will, kind of visa. And in order for me to go there... we have to get a hotel because as it is there are too many people living in the same house due to the economy so let's talk about financial reasons for not seeing your fiance'. And since I am putting my daughter through college on my own, out of my own pocket... finances are limited. Before someone mentions prorities let me just say that my family is my priority and I have a responsibility to my child and to assure she has the best possible future and thank God my fiance' feels the same way.

I guess this is my soap box, lol. I'm not offended or angry I would just like for people, in general, to see that... it could be worse and unless you are wealthy..... finances play a huge part in the scheme of things. I will not see my fiance' again until he gets his visa due to financial restraints. Doesn't matter if it's six months or twelve. I am one person, with one income and responsibilities that unfortunately take front seat to what I want. If I had my way, I'd be over there to see him every week-end, hell, everyday.