Odd Filipina mannerisms

[notantifun 196]

4 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Always struck me as a different version of crazy.

Manipulative is a better word. Tampo is basically emotional blackmail. 

[Adventine 3,201]

21 minutes ago, notantifun said:

A bunch of people here have mentioned "tampo". I am Filipina and tampo is sulking, plain and simple. Don't let Google fool you  that it's some sort of unique behavior observed in Filipinos. Anyone who shows this behavior obviously lacks maturity.

 

Yep, another Filipina here. "Tampo" is just the local term for sulking / the silent treatment. Plenty of masters of tampo in every culture. 

Do Filipinas tend to sulk instead of yell or argue directly? Yes, absolutely. In a culture that values social harmony and is highly non-confrontational, tampo is a common way to express displeasure. Both sexes do it. My father has been able to out-tampo pretty much anyone I know.

 

Is tampo infuriating? Of course it is. Is it uniquely Filipino? No. 

 

[Commish10 427]

7 hours ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

What is up with the almost child like behavior when a Filipina doesn't get her way or is upset about something trivial? 

 

If I'm talking to my fiancée and she doesn't like something I've said or doesn't understand she will get quiet and not respond and either turn off her camera so I can't see her, ubruptly end the call or walk away phone leaving me to wonder where she's gone. 

 

I've been dealing with it for almost three years now and its getting old. Especially because she's never apologetic about it and then blames me for her acting that way. 

Tampo

[top_secret 2,456]

As with any type of childish tantrums, it's likely to continue as long as it is getting them the desired results.

[NoMansLand2020 298]

17 hours ago, Adventine said:

 

Yep, another Filipina here. "Tampo" is just the local term for sulking / the silent treatment. Plenty of masters of tampo in every culture. 

Do Filipinas tend to sulk instead of yell or argue directly? Yes, absolutely. In a culture that values social harmony and is highly non-confrontational, tampo is a common way to express displeasure. Both sexes do it. My father has been able to out-tampo pretty much anyone I know.

 

Is tampo infuriating? Of course it is. Is it uniquely Filipino? No. 

 

Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. 

[Adventine 3,201]

2 hours ago, NoMansLand2020 said:

Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. 

 

Not arguing with you there. The question is how much and how long you're willing to put up with your partner's behavior.