Is age difference an issue?

[wontonathon 10]

3 minutes ago, Ted277 said:

We met in October 2019 but met physically(face time) on January 15th. Trust me I know the dates and the time of everything. Thanks a lot. 

Okay. cool. I'm sure you know all the dates and time. But just remember that it's not what you know to be true, but what they (USCIS, Embassy, CO, etc) believes. Some times info is lost in translation. I say that because I've certainly been guilty of doing a poor job at getting what I know across to others. Last thing you want is a delay in an already lengthy process just because you are misunderstood. Just being really detailed and provide more info and evidence than what you think you need and you should be able to overcome the red flags you may have. Like they say, better to have more than not enough.

[Ted277 40]

1 minute ago, wontonathon said:

Okay. cool. I'm sure you know all the dates and time. But just remember that it's not what you know to be true, but what they (USCIS, Embassy, CO, etc) believes. Some times info is lost in translation. I say that because I've certainly been guilty of doing a poor job at getting what I know across to others. Last thing you want is a delay in an already lengthy process just because you are misunderstood. Just being really detailed and provide more info and evidence than what you think you need and you should be able to overcome the red flags you may have. Like they say, better to have more than not enough.

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate a lot. 🙌🙌

[SalishSea 17,819]

4 hours ago, Ted277 said:

But she’s not. 

46 is definitely pushing it for a healthy pregnancy.

[Coco8 1,042]

1 hour ago, Jorgedig said:

46 is definitely pushing it for a healthy pregnancy.

She'll be 48 by the time they get any visa (with a big IF for country and age gap, etc.). 

 

K1 is very difficult for Nigeria, OP. When there are red flags like this, marriage and lots of visits are better. Even with that, it might not be possible, though.

Edited January 16, 2022 by Coco8

[Ted277 40]

40 minutes ago, Coco8 said:

She'll be 48 by the time they get any visa (with a big IF for country and age gap, etc.). 

 

K1 is very difficult for Nigeria, OP. When there are red flags like this, marriage and lots of visits are better. Even with that, it might not be possible, though.

Thanks

[carmel34 3,622]

14 hours ago, Ted277 said:

she’s 20 years older than me and we met in January 2021, we filed K1 after the first visit and since then she have visited me 3 times which total of 4 times. Our petition have been approved, waiting for interview. I’d have followed spousal route if I knew about the red flag.

No one here can predict what the outcome will be.  K-1s from Nigeria for a younger man, older US woman, are often denied because of the high incidence of fraud.  The four visits are good, hopefully she submitted documentation (passport stamps, original boarding passes, hotel receipts) with the I-129F petition.  Additional visits will help, and you can take that evidence to the eventual visa interview.  If the K-1 visa is denied, you can get married and try for a spousal visa, we see this often for Nigeria.  Good luck!

[JeanneAdil 6,492]

No need to be scared but 

I will be completely honest so do not get upset with what i say

we had the big age difference also

our K1 in 2009 was denied

and we married in 2010 

the 2 of u should seriously consider marriage when she visits next month and reapplying for spousal visa 

 

I feel the chances of a denial for K1 with the 20 year age gap is a big issue 

and yes,  the multiple visits help

not sure how u would convince a CO that she is still of child bearing age as 46 is usually beyond 

other issues for denial :

1. One of the most common reasons for rejecting or denying a fiancé(e) visa application is a suspicious relationship. For example, not having a common language, a short dating time before becoming engaged, a significant age difference, or practicing different religions could raise red flags.

2.  USC income does not meet requirements

3.  one or both are not able to marry

4.  Relationship is secretive

5.  criminal reports show criminal activity

6.  certain medical conditions

7.  contradictory statements made during interview

8.  USC has applied for K1 or CR1 in past and CO expects USC is being paid to marry

9.  too many divorces or divorce papers are suspect

 

If she wants to come next month and says no to marriage , at this time just think about doing the marriage and CR1 at a later date 

 

for Hope to u we married and it did take a long time to get his visa approved but we have been married now going on 13 years and he is USC

 

[Ted277 40]

14 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

No need to be scared but 

I will be completely honest so do not get upset with what i say

we had the big age difference also

our K1 in 2009 was denied

and we married in 2010 

the 2 of u should seriously consider marriage when she visits next month and reapplying for spousal visa 

 

I feel the chances of a denial for K1 with the 20 year age gap is a big issue 

and yes,  the multiple visits help

not sure how u would convince a CO that she is still of child bearing age as 46 is usually beyond 

other issues for denial :

1. One of the most common reasons for rejecting or denying a fiancé(e) visa application is a suspicious relationship. For example, not having a common language, a short dating time before becoming engaged, a significant age difference, or practicing different religions could raise red flags.

2.  USC income does not meet requirements

3.  one or both are not able to marry

4.  Relationship is secretive

5.  criminal reports show criminal activity

6.  certain medical conditions

7.  contradictory statements made during interview

8.  USC has applied for K1 or CR1 in past and CO expects USC is being paid to marry

9.  too many divorces or divorce papers are suspect

 

If she wants to come next month and says no to marriage , at this time just think about doing the marriage and CR1 at a later date 

 

for Hope to u we married and it did take a long time to get his visa approved but we have been married now going on 13 years and he is USC

 

You want me to abandon the K1 that I have couple of months to the interview not knowing if it will be denied or not, at least just allow me take this chance then if denied, I’ll apply for CR-1. Your case and my case is not the same and about the childbearing stuff, me and my fiancée lost a baby in July 2021. The only red flag we have is the age difference that’s all. 
 

if I’d known about the age gap red flag #######, I’d have use spousal route. And also about people saying Nigerian men don’t date older women, I think it’s the other way round, Nigeria women don’t want anything to do with any man younger because they feel they can’t take care of them. 
 

I didn’t just apply recently, I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage. At least just allow me to be denied before going with spousal visa. Thanks for the response though. 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

Just now, Ted277 said:

You want me to abandon the K1 that I have couple of months to the interview not knowing if it will be denied or not, at least just allow me take this chance then if denied, I’ll apply for CR-1. Your case and my case is not the same and about the childbearing stuff, me and my fiancée lost a baby in July 2021. The only red flag we have is the age difference that’s all. 
 

if I’d known about the age gap red flag #######, I’d have use spousal route. And also about people saying Nigerian men don’t date older women, I think it’s the other way round, Nigeria women don’t want anything to do with any man younger because they feel they can’t take care of them. 
 

I didn’t just apply recently, I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage. At least just allow me to be denied before going with spousal visa. Thanks for the response though. 

No need to get sulky if you don’t get the answer you want. @JeanneAdilis a seasoned member who was once in a very similar situation. 

[Rocio0010 5,579]

2 minutes ago, Ted277 said:

didn’t just apply recently, I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage

Just so you know, DHS might have approved your petition, but then you’ll deal with USCIS, who have different standards

[Ted277 40]

1 minute ago, Rocio0010 said:

No need to get sulky if you don’t get the answer you want. @JeanneAdilis a seasoned member who was once in a very similar situation. 

It’s not about getting the answer I want. Read the topic, I already made up my mind if denied I will opt for the spousal visa. You guys kill people before the interview date. I understand about the CR-1 but lemme conclude this first. It’s almost over. 

[Lil bear 4,189]

4 minutes ago, Ted277 said:

You want me to abandon the K1 that I have couple of months to the interview not knowing if it will be denied or not, at least just allow me take this chance then if denied, I’ll apply for CR-1. Your case and my case is not the same and about the childbearing stuff, me and my fiancée lost a baby in July 2021. The only red flag we have is the age difference that’s all. 
 

if I’d known about the age gap red flag #######, I’d have use spousal route. And also about people saying Nigerian men don’t date older women, I think it’s the other way round, Nigeria women don’t want anything to do with any man younger because they feel they can’t take care of them. 
 

I didn’t just apply recently, I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage. At least just allow me to be denied before going with spousal visa. Thanks for the response though. 

No one is telling you what to do ..they are simply responding to your questions from the perspective of some very challenging personal journeys. … 

[JeanneAdil 6,492]

7 minutes ago, Ted277 said:

You want me to abandon the K1 that I have couple of months to the interview not knowing if it will be denied or not, at least just allow me take this chance then if denied, I’ll apply for CR-1. Your case and my case is not the same and about the childbearing stuff, me and my fiancée lost a baby in July 2021. The only red flag we have is the age difference that’s all. 
 

if I’d known about the age gap red flag #######, I’d have use spousal route. And also about people saying Nigerian men don’t date older women, I think it’s the other way round, Nigeria women don’t want anything to do with any man younger because they feel they can’t take care of them. 
 

I didn’t just apply recently, I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage. At least just allow me to be denied before going with spousal visa. Thanks for the response though. 

sorry just trying to give u some facts and help

also gave u some hope

as we are both dealing with high fraud countries

and u are always allowed to continue /  didn't say u couldn't

I will not bother u again

 

best to u both

[Crazy Cat 41,837]

14 minutes ago, Ted277 said:

I have my Petition approved and so many people with age difference didn’t make it to this stage.

Really?   I don't remember ever seeing a K-1 denied before the interview.  It is the consulate officer who holds the real power.  Good luck.  I wish you well.

Edited January 16, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[powerpuff 6,697]

20 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

Just so you know, DHS might have approved your petition, but then you’ll deal with USCIS, who have different standards

I think it’s the other way around 😉