Getting Divorce on Conditional GC

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3 minutes ago, ENGUEE said:

Thank you, and I'm sorry for what you've been going through. It might be even more difficult with 2 kids.

I've been trying to help her, but it's hard to help someone who shuts you down and apparently does not want to help herself.

 

Thanks. I've tried pretty much everything, but she does not want to look for help... she's still taking medication for depression, anxiety and ADHD.

If you can stick it out, even just as a friend and get her help, it can all change. 
 

my ex and I have a healthy coparenting relationship. He is married now with 2 step kids. Just this past spring, I could tell that he wasn’t in a good place and suggested he talk to his doctor. He listened and the doctor put him back on meds (he’d been off his meds and his anxiety was through the roof…he didn’t realize it, of course, and his new wife didn’t really know better). He thanked me later because he honestly had no idea. 
 

I want his marriage to succeed. I want him to be a successful parent, not just to his biological children, but to his bonus kids as well. I’ve known him for a decade and a half, so I am an integral part of the village that he needs to help him stay on top of his condition. It look a long road to get here, but no one wins when untreated mental illness is involved. 

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23 hours ago, ENGUEE said:

Thank you! What kind of evidence should I make sure to have to make my case strong. An affidavit from her would make it stronger?

Here is the link I gave you earlier. The second post has a nice example of a successful joint filing. Use it as a guide. 

 

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On 12/6/2021 at 11:34 AM, mushroomspore said:

Really sorry to hear and I applaud you for suggesting couples counseling. However, if she is not open to it, there is nothing you can do about that. I'm also really sorry about the children thing. It's one of the major relationship deal-breakers (others deal-breakers are things like life goals, belief systems, etc). As in, there is no compromise over it. If a couple are not exactly on the same page about those "big issues", then the relationship can't really survive unfortunately because it means that one person will be forever unhappy. Children are irreversible, so if someone does not want children, they obviously should not be forced into having children. However, on the flip side, people who want children should also not be forced to remain child-less if they really want to start a family and they know that that will make them happy., While I understand that you are "against divorce", you should also really be looking at the current state of your relationship with open eyes here. You and your wife want opposite things here, both for valid reasons. There isn't really a functional relationship when you guys want opposite things. Staying together will only lead to further dysfunction, especially when she has plainly said it's no longer working for her.

 

As difficult as it is to say, the best bet is to start the divorce process and update your I-751 to a divorce waiver. Keep all pertinent paperwork and evidence that you have lived together, the taxes, insurance, etc. USCIS is familiar with this scenario as it happens all the time and the denial rate for I-751 is extremely low (I think it's 2% or less and those cases were probably already under investigation for fraud anyways). The only extra thing you have to do is send in the divorce waiver when it comes through. 

A lawyer could be your best bet. If I am in your position. I will look for a lawyer to work with.