Critical situation!!! Spouse Wants to Leave. 1-751 please help me!

[Rocio0010 5,579]

5 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Unless they are in jail, it is possible.  Just something they are choosing not to do.  🤷‍♀️

 

OP said it has to do with a scholarship and an agreement between home country and host university 🤷‍♀️
I was the first that suggested to relocate and he said it’s not possible for the above reasons. Whether I buy them or not is a whole other story.

[abrilmurray7@gmai 6]

Im so sorry to hear about your situation,  but when there is to much distance between anything...it leaves an open space and the opportunity for the void to be filled. I pray that you and your wife can find the love you once shared.  Put your marriage 1st,  school will always be there. If you love her you need to prove it and she will stay.  Nothing is worth losing love. Focus on saving your marriage and the rest will fall into place.. Best wishes. 

[Moe428 129]

On 12/5/2021 at 8:53 PM, Lemonslice said:

Unless they are in jail, it is possible.  Just something they are choosing not to do.  🤷‍♀️

 

There's no issue with that if it's temporary.  The bigger issue is the fact that their relationship is going in the wrong direction.

[chancecody 125]

On 11/30/2021 at 9:21 AM, Boiler said:

She thinks you are gay?

I am very surprised about the mocking of experienced people in this thread. There are many good advice already said but we could do without the mocking from everyone because the OP is clearly distraught. The OP mentioned that this arrangement was disclosed in the AOS interview so the marriage is bonafide . I can’t imagine seeing my spouse once every 3-4 months but each of our situation is different. Just because it is different from our norm does not give us the right to mock others. Sure, he may have contributed to the problems with his marriage but no need to mock his spelling mistakes or making accusations about someone’s sexuality. I am referring at all the “laughing emojis” and insensitive jokes at the expense of the person who is clearly having marital problems. He did not post here to be judged or to be made fun of. He asked advice on next steps….with good advice from some people.

 

VJ community was created to help one another. Kudos to the people who truly gave good advice without the mocking. 

Edited December 9, 2021 by chancecody

[poh 125]

Well, if you really want the green card then you need to get some good legal advise and legal representation to try convince USCIS your marriage is legit.  It sounds as though you won't be able to solve this problem on your own. Yeah it's going cost money but you should find a way to hire someone to help you and be your advocate. I think that's what you need right now  As they say, "If there's a way there's a will"

Edited December 9, 2021 by poh

[TheWolf21 1]

Can't believe how mean some people here on VJ are. OP should seek legal advice. Even if there marriage falling apart is his mistake, he deserves a way out and good advice! 

[Moe428 129]

12 hours ago, chancecody said:

I am very surprised about the mocking of experienced people in this thread. There are many good advice already said but we could do without the mocking from everyone because the OP is clearly distraught. The OP mentioned that this arrangement was disclosed in the AOS interview so the marriage is bonafide . I can’t imagine seeing my spouse once every 3-4 months but each of our situation is different. Just because it is different from our norm does not give us the right to mock others. Sure, he may have contributed to the problems with his marriage but no need to mock his spelling mistakes or making accusations about someone’s sexuality. I am referring at all the “laughing emojis” and insensitive jokes at the expense of the person who is clearly having marital problems. He did not post here to be judged or to be made fun of. He asked advice on next steps….with good advice from some people.

 

VJ community was created to help one another. Kudos to the people who truly gave good advice without the mocking. 

Great post.  A lot of people suggesting that the couple living separately is a death knell.  It's not - such cases are quite common, and it's not a big deal as long as OP explains the situation in a letter.  I saw some people even telling him his wife should come first before college and whatnot - honestly not sure how it's anyone's business.  What matters is if it relationship is bonafide, not how they run every matter of their relationship.

 

IMO the only problem OP has is if he gets an interview, the spouse may withdraw from being a sponsor.

 

[Boiler 45,482]

For the sake of the record the OP said this: She told me we can be like friends or i can find “ boyfriend or so”

 

Now that does not sound like a valid relationship for removing conditions.

 

She is still on the hook for the I 864 btw. She can not withdraw it.

Edited December 9, 2021 by Boiler

[Rocio0010 5,579]

3 minutes ago, Moe428 said:

A lot of people suggesting that the couple living separately is a death knell.  It's not - such cases are quite common, and it's not a big deal as long as OP explains the situation in a letter.  I saw some people even telling him his wife should come first before college and whatnot - honestly not sure how it's anyone's business.  What matters is if it relationship is bonafide, not how they run every matter of their relationship.

Have you even read the original post? OP is worried because he doesn't know how a possible separation/ divorce might affect ROC. It's not just about the living arrangement.

[Crazy Cat 41,845]

7 minutes ago, Moe428 said:

Great post.  A lot of people suggesting that the couple living separately is a death knell.  It's not - such cases are quite common, and it's not a big deal as long as OP explains the situation in a letter.  I saw some people even telling him his wife should come first before college and whatnot - honestly not sure how it's anyone's business.  What matters is if it relationship is bonafide, not how they run every matter of their relationship.

 

IMO the only problem OP has is if he gets an interview, the spouse may withdraw from being a sponsor.

 

So, visiting a couple days every 3 to 4 months is a bona fide relationship?  Add to that the spouse's "friends" comments.  Actually, "how they run their relationship" is important to USCIS, else there would be no I-751 in existence....

 

For the record, I think the I-751 should be eliminated completely. 

Edited December 9, 2021 by Crazy Cat

[Moe428 129]

2 minutes ago, ra0010 said:

Have you even read the original post? OP is worried because he doesn't know how a possible separation/ divorce might affect ROC. It's not just about the living arrangement.

Yes, I mentioned that in the part of my post that you conveniently didn't quote, and also in my previous posts.

Edited December 9, 2021 by Moe428

[Boiler 45,482]

1 minute ago, Moe428 said:

Yes, I mentioned that in the part of my post that you conveniently didn't quote.

Yet you consider this a bonafide relation?

 

 

[Moe428 129]

2 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

So, visiting a couple days every 3 to 4 months is a bona fide relationship?  Add to that the spouse's "friends" comments.  Actually, "how they run their relationship" is important to USCIS, else there would be no I-751 in existence....

 

For the record, I think the I-751 should be eliminated completely. 

No, USCIS isn't trying to micromanage anyone's relationship.  They care if the relationship is bonafide.  A 1000 couple may have 1000 different arrangements. Just run a Google search on couples living separately and filing AoS or I-751.  It's extremely common.

 

I agree about the bolded part. That's the part that's problematic I think.

[Moe428 129]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Yet you consider this a bonafide relation?

 

 

I think you are taking my comments out of context.  I am saying living separately isn't a big deal, but that OP might run into problems because the spouse may want to separate.  More emphasis on the former because a lot of people on this thread have made a big deal of it.

[Boiler 45,482]

1 minute ago, Moe428 said:

I think you are taking my comments out of context.  I am saying living separately isn't a big deal, but that OP might run into problems because the spouse may want to separate.  More emphasis on the former because a lot of people on this thread have made a big deal of it.

People are responding to this situation, not some theoretical other.