My wife is killing me - I-130 for her parents question.

[feeling_hopeful 45]

I am currently putting in an application for both of my wife's parents.  I already have my mother in laws application done, but not submitted, and want to work on the fathers separately online. She saw somewhere (I'm sure it's some Instagram moron) saying that the parent's paperwork should only be filed by mail, together in the same envelope so they get the same interview dates at the embassy.

 

I just need a few of you to tell my wife that this person is full of ####.  There are different circumstances between her parents (one has a tourist visa, the other doesn't) and she doesn't want me to file online anymore.  

I-130, Parents both from the Dominican Republic.  

 

I hate when she brings stuff like this up, because she'll just use it against me later if one parent takes longer than the other. 

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[SalishSea 18,096]

42 minutes ago, feeling_hopeful said:

I am currently putting in an application for both of my wife's parents.  I already have my mother in laws application done, but not submitted, and want to work on the fathers separately online. She saw somewhere (I'm sure it's some Instagram moron) saying that the parent's paperwork should only be filed by mail, together in the same envelope so they get the same interview dates at the embassy.

 

I just need a few of you to tell my wife that this person is full of ####.  There are different circumstances between her parents (one has a tourist visa, the other doesn't) and she doesn't want me to file online anymore.  

I-130, Parents both from the Dominican Republic.  

 

I hate when she brings stuff like this up, because she'll just use it against me later if one parent takes longer than the other. 

All petitions are adjudicated separately, since there is no "family visa," just individual ones.  

 

Personally, I would take the time to prepare the petitions and evidence with care, regardless of when they are filed.  Later on, at the NVC phase, you can request that the interviews be concurrent. 

 

And, online vs mail submission of petitions has no bearing on interviews, since that is several years away anyhow.

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[SteveInBostonI130 3,482]

Online is faster.  No chance of "lost" mail, no chance of paper being misplaced on someone's desk, no chance of lost attachments, etc.

 

The interview date is dependent on when the parents' applications, AOS and IV, are completed and DQ'd during the NVC stage.  It does not matter if the I-130 petitions are approved at the same time or at different times by USCIS.  

 

[Boiler 45,957]

Her parents she is the Sponsor simple solution let her do it.

[feeling_hopeful 45]

3 minutes ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

Online is faster.  No chance of "lost" mail, no chance of paper being misplaced on someone's desk, no chance of lost attachments, etc.

 

The interview date is dependent on when the parents' applications, AOS and IV, are completed and DQ'd during the NVC stage.  It does not matter if the I-130 petitions are approved at the same time or at different times by USCIS.  

 

I did all of her paperwork from K1 to Citizenship. 

I did her Mother's B2 VISA with no issues.

 

She tells me I don't know what I am doing.  Told her to go pay a lawyer with her own money.  I'm sick and freaking tired of Immigration paperwork.  The last thing I want to hear is "I don't know what I am doing."

She honestly doesn't realize how much of a slap in the face that is to me.

 

[feeling_hopeful 45]

13 hours ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

Online is faster.  No chance of "lost" mail, no chance of paper being misplaced on someone's desk, no chance of lost attachments, etc.

 

The interview date is dependent on when the parents' applications, AOS and IV, are completed and DQ'd during the NVC stage.  It does not matter if the I-130 petitions are approved at the same time or at different times by USCIS.  

 

Well now she wants me to file by mail.  She says she knows, personally, people who applied for RESIDENCY, and got fingerprints and interviews and approvals on the same day.

 

I told her she is full of (removed) and explained to her, its most likely they chose the same day since you can choose appointment days with TOURIST Visa's on the Dominican Embassy site.

 

I don't know if you can choose days with the I-130 as well.  But whatever.  More delays, during the holidays, and paperwork that could get stuck on someone's desk for years.

 

 

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[ineedadisplayname 503]

12 hours ago, feeling_hopeful said:

Well now she wants me to file by mail.  She says she knows, personally, people who applied for RESIDENCY, and got fingerprints and interviews and approvals on the same day.

 

I told her she is full of (removed) and explained to her, its most likely they chose the same day since you can choose appointment days with TOURIST Visa's on the Dominican Embassy site.

 

I don't know if you can choose days with the I-130 as well.  But whatever.  More delays, during the holidays, and paperwork that could get stuck on someone's desk for years.

 

 

Probably you need couple's therapy instead of bringing her parents.... Are they going to live with you at the same address?

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13 hours ago, feeling_hopeful said:

I did all of her paperwork from K1 to Citizenship. 

I did her Mother's B2 VISA with no issues.

 

She tells me I don't know what I am doing.  Told her to go pay a lawyer with her own money.  I'm sick and freaking tired of Immigration paperwork.  The last thing I want to hear is "I don't know what I am doing."

She honestly doesn't realize how much of a slap in the face that is to me.

 

Mod hat off:

 

You realize that it is HER petition for her parents...not yours. She has to be the one that files for her...not you. You helping her is nice and all but there seems to be other issues going on. I agree with others that this seems more like a marriage issue than an immigration one.

 

Also, things may not get better when her parents are here. There is plenty of stories here on VJ on similar issues for you to search. 

[Rocio0010 5,616]

13 hours ago, feeling_hopeful said:

She tells me I don't know what I am doing

Anytime someone tells you something like that, it’s your chance to say “fine, then do it your way. I’m not doing it” and stick to it. Liberating!

[EmilyW 1,514]

Agree with the above.

 

Since your wife is an 'expert', and she is liaising with other 'experts', they really should handle the whole thing.  It will get done same day and the parents will be here by next Friday.