Need advice how to make first meeting

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

1 hour ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

I am not sure about cancelled and rescheduled B1/B2 interviews, but yesterday our nephew applied and the earliest date available at Kyiv is July 8 2022.

 

Meeting in a 3rd country would be quicker.

 

It is odd that he can't travel to meet you.  I know there are some so called "keyboard romeos" who chat online but never gain the courage or motivation to get up from the computer and go meet the other person.   I hope he is not one of these. 

 

Sorry to say the US also has scammers 

Have u seen this person on a cam?

do u know he is really from the US? or pretending to be ?

he has explained these personal reasons to u ?  and u are accepting ?

he seems a little fishy to me and sorry that is probably because i met many online who pretended to be American,  Canadian or from UK and were actually not and just asked for money,  cell phones,  scooters, etc (and my site was only a penpail site)/  the one from UK even had a British cell number as they have a freind send a SIMS card from the UK and then look legit

just be careful of online meetings 

[Mari1212 4]

3 hours ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

I am not sure about cancelled and rescheduled B1/B2 interviews, but yesterday our nephew applied and the earliest date available at Kyiv is July 8 2022.

 

Meeting in a 3rd country would be quicker.

 

It is odd that he can't travel to meet you.  I know there are some so called "keyboard romeos" who chat online but never gain the courage or motivation to get up from the computer and go meet the other person.   I hope he is not one of these. 

 

And I have date on 6 July (( 

[Mari1212 4]

1 hour ago, JeanneAdil said:

Sorry to say the US also has scammers 

Have u seen this person on a cam?

do u know he is really from the US? or pretending to be ?

he has explained these personal reasons to u ?  and u are accepting ?

he seems a little fishy to me and sorry that is probably because i met many online who pretended to be American,  Canadian or from UK and were actually not and just asked for money,  cell phones,  scooters, etc (and my site was only a penpail site)/  the one from UK even had a British cell number as they have a freind send a SIMS card from the UK and then look legit

just be careful of online meetings 

Yes i know about such situations and for all good mine is different) 

[Boiler 45,898]

Applying for a visa is one thing, being approved another.

[Mari1212 4]

6 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Applying for a visa is one thing, being approved another.

Yes i know. 

I remember it was so much easier to me to get shengen visa in absolutely clean and new passport 

[SalishSea 18,064]

4 minutes ago, Mari1212 said:

Yes i know. 

I remember it was so much easier to me to get shengen visa in absolutely clean and new passport 

Not sure what you mean by “absolutely clean and new” passport, but that has absolutely no bearing on whether you would get a B visa.

[Mari1212 4]

1 minute ago, Jorgedig said:

Not sure what you mean by “absolutely clean and new” passport, but that has absolutely no bearing on whether you would get a B visa.

I meant that time i didn't even have traveling history. But yes you are right. Totally different case 

[Coco8 1,042]

Even if he is not a scammer, there are tons of men spending their time chatting with women and saying whatever. They are losers. You might be too caught up in the idea of this guy or what you imagine this guy to be. You've never met and he is not even willing to meet you in any other country. Why are you putting so much effort into this?

 

1 hour ago, Mari1212 said:

I meant that time i didn't even have traveling history. But yes you are right. Totally different case 

No travel history makes it even harder to get a visitor visa to the US.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,408]

12 hours ago, JPAZ said:

Probably third country will be easier imo. It will be difficult for a single woman from Eastern Europe with an American boyfriend to get a B2. 

Hungary, maybe?

[Verrou 1,962]

I might be wrong and every situation is different. But if the guy can’t come because of “personal reason” usually is red flag. Call me oldschool but I want the guy to visit me first to my country where I will be comfortable and feel safe. Scammer is 1 thing, how bout human trafficking? At the end of the day, use your judgment and good luck 

Edited November 13, 2021 by Misscloud

[SalishSea 18,064]

20 minutes ago, Misscloud said:

I might be wrong and every situation is different. But if the guy can’t come because of “personal reason” usually is red flag. Call me oldschool but I want the guy to visit me first to my country where I will be comfortable and feel safe. Scammer is 1 thing, how bout human trafficking? At the end of the day, use your judgment and good luck 

I think @Boiler's child support arrears theory is very possible.  Or potentially an inmate situation.

[Redro 4,611]

 

2 hours ago, Misscloud said:

I might be wrong and every situation is different. But if the guy can’t come because of “personal reason” usually is red flag. Call me oldschool but I want the guy to visit me first to my country where I will be comfortable and feel safe. Scammer is 1 thing, how bout human trafficking? At the end of the day, use your judgment and good luck 

 

Human trafficking is a concern for sure but also the appearance of human trafficking. At the B1/B2 interview, they'll ask you about your travel itinerary and they won't be impressed with your plan to travel to the States to meet someone you've only interacted with online. 

 

If you want to continue this relationship, I suggest your boyfriend sorts out his personal reasons and makes a plan to meet you either in Ukraine or a third country. Plan A can be applying for the B1/B2 in July 2022 but you should also have a Plan B in case you do not get the B1/B2. If this relationship is sincere, you can wait another 6 months before meeting in person.