My daughter recently married a foreign student

[Mike E 11,739]

42 minutes ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

Yes, true. People also know their lives can end at any moment. Not sure what your point is. The i864 isn't about divorce or divorce rate, it's about trust. You trust the person you are going to sponsor, you think they are of good moral character,  or you don't. Not really sure what divorce has to do with it?

I never brought the D word into the conversation so your question is to me is misdirected 

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

Just now, Mike E said:

I never brought the D word into the conversation so your question is to me is misdirected 

My bad. Getting confused on the responses. I thought you gave me divorce statistics

[Mike E 11,739]

3 minutes ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

My bad. Getting confused on the responses. I thought you gave me divorce statistics

I wrote a response to this post:

 

 

As your user name is not boiler, I definitely did not give you divorce statistics.

 

And with that this thread has run its course for me; not gonna get into an argument for something I’ve no desire to argue.
 

1.  OP doesn’t want to sponsor.  
 

2. OP doesn’t owe anyone their privilege of sponsorship. 
 

3. America is a free country.  
 

Nothing anyone says will change my views on the above 3 points.  
 

Over and out.

[Crazy Cat 41,898]

On 11/14/2021 at 8:35 PM, crespo said:

your only responsible for him between a 5-7 year period after which your agreement is no longer binding 

That is 100% inaccurate.  It could be for decades.  An I-864 is in force until the new immigrant either:

 

1.  Becomes a US citizen, or

2.  Gains 40 quarters of work (10 years)_, or

3.  Loses status and departs the US, or

4.  Dies

Edited November 17, 2021 by Crazy Cat

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

8 hours ago, Mike E said:

I wrote a response to this post:

 

 

As your user name is not boiler, I definitely did not give you divorce statistics.

 

And with that this thread has run its course for me; not gonna get into an argument for something I’ve no desire to argue.
 

1.  OP doesn’t want to sponsor.  
 

2. OP doesn’t owe anyone their privilege of sponsorship. 
 

3. America is a free country.  
 

Nothing anyone says will change my views on the above 3 points.  
 

Over and out.

I agree with you. I'm not trying to argue either. My only claim is its about trust. You aren't required to trust anyone, regardless if they are related by blood or marriage. 

[Crazy Cat 41,898]

On 11/14/2021 at 8:35 PM, crespo said:

and last but not least your only responsible for him between a 5-7 year period after which your agreement is no longer binding 

Reference, please?

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

1 minute ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

I agree with you. I'm not trying to argue either. My only claim is its about trust. You aren't required to trust anyone, regardless if they are related by blood or marriage. 

So, you DID mention the "D" word and drop divorce statistics. 🤔. Play word semantics all day, still doesn’t change anything. As yours, my comment still stands

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

Reference, please?

Yea, sorry Crazy Cat, that's simply not true. You are on the hook until they become a citizen,  die or move back to their own country

[Crazy Cat 41,898]

9 minutes ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

Yea, sorry Crazy Cat, that's simply not true. You are on the hook until they become a citizen,  die or move back to their own country

or gain 40 quarters of work credit.

Edited November 17, 2021 by Crazy Cat

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

3 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

or gain 10 quarters of work credit.

It's 40 quarters of work credit 😊

Edited November 17, 2021 by Pandora Gadomski

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

Just now, Pandora Gadomski said:

It's 40 hours of work credit 😊

 

[Crazy Cat 41,898]

3 minutes ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

It's 40 quarters of work credit 😊

My mistake......40 quarters = 10 years  LOL

Edited November 17, 2021 by Crazy Cat

[Pandora Gadomski 22]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

My mistake......

No worries.  We all make mistakes 😊

[Lifewithjoy 19]

On 11/7/2021 at 10:19 AM, MistyEyed said:

Hello everyone, my husband and I are distressed concerning our daughter's spouse being upset because we've decided not to co-sponsor his Green card application.

 

They dated for a couple of years and were married last month.  Now they're in the process of applying for his ten-year GC.  Our daughter is also a student and doesn't make enough money to sponsor him on her own.  

 

Initially, we were willing to help, but we are about a decade away from retirement, and after reading the I-864 form, we don't feel comfortable signing.  The financial risk is what concerns us. 

 

He said if we don't sign the application, he can't work and is very upset.  We feel terrible and unsure how to proceed.

I would like to share 2 situations involving this form. One is about my sister. When she married her first husband, she didn't know he didn't make enough money so when he applied for her green card they were  requested to have a sponsor. He asked his parents, but they didn't sign it. Because of that, my sister was married for 4 years without a green card until he died from a heart attack and left her with 2 small children. It was a very hard situation for my sister. She later was able to get a green card, but life would had been better if she had gotten at that time.

Second situation is about myself. When I got married to my husband I also didn't know that he didn't make enough money (he was self-employed at that time). When he applied to my green card, we were requested to find a sponsor. He asked his parents and they decided to be my sponsor. They also had those questions, but we explained to them what really was. Now, 4 years later, life is so much better. I can work and be productive in this country. Our finances are so much better. We never needed the government help for anything. Because my in-laws, I will be soon be applying for my citizenship.

[SalishSea 17,842]

On 11/15/2021 at 3:28 PM, Pandora Gadomski said:

True. But it's still about trust. Do you think he will sue for support or collect government benefits regardless of circumstance? 

Most people welcoming a new member of the family will not know them well enough to be able to reasonably evaluate that risk.