HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGER

[joone745 0]

Here are some tips on dealing with anger so you can walk proud on your finest path through life:

1. Remember that anger and love are two sides of the same coin

If you really want love in your life, you must be willing to spend a little time with love's less comfortable relatives, anger and pain. It's common to think that with anger and pain come breakup and divorce. But the bottom line is the more you love someone, the more able they are to piss you off. So be aware: Anger and intense emotion are normal when you truly love and care. Mel McDaniel sings about this two-sided coin in "Anger and Tears":

Anger and tears, anger and tears

Is that all that's left of us after loving all these years

As slowly as love grows how soon it disappears

In a house full of anger and a heart full of tears

Remember, true strength is being able to work through the anger rather than letting the anger work through you.

2. Before you lash out, look within

When you're struggling with anger, it's common to blame others for every little thing. A true sign of strength is taking responsibility for yourself. In "Startin' with Me," Jake Owen comes to a very yogic resolution to dealing with anger:

If I had a dime for half the things I did that didn't make no sense at all

I'd be living a little higher on the hog

If only I'd have known

That later on down the road

I'd look back and not like what I see

I'd have changed a lot of things

Startin' with me

3. Practice feeling without reacting

The 6,000-year old practice of yoga teaches that when you are in challenging situations, you make the best decisions in even the worst of situations if you just breathe and relax. Try it: Lift your arms to the sides of your body and hold them so you form a letter "T." Allow your arms to stay parallel to the ground for 2, 3, even 4 minutes. When your shoulders start to burn, notice that by breathing and relaxing, you gain more endurance. There's very little that physical strength, hustle, and effort can do you for you in this situation. As a famous Zen proverb reads: "Nothing on earth can overcome an absolutely nonresistant person."

[Nancy2015 2]

Here are some tips on dealing with anger so you can walk proud on your finest path through life:

1. Remember that anger and love are two sides of the same coin

If you really want love in your life, you must be willing to spend a little time with love's less comfortable relatives, anger and pain. It's common to think that with anger and pain come breakup and divorce. But the bottom line is the more you love someone, the more able they are to piss you off. So be aware: Anger and intense emotion are normal when you truly love and care.

Sure. "I beat you up because I love you SO MUCH!"

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Good advice! Thanks for posting!

[RosemarieL 0]

Here are some tips on dealing with anger so you can walk proud on your finest path through life:

1. Remember that anger and love are two sides of the same coin

If you really want love in your life, you must be willing to spend a little time with love's less comfortable relatives, anger and pain. It's common to think that with anger and pain come breakup and divorce. But the bottom line is the more you love someone, the more able they are to piss you off. So be aware: Anger and intense emotion are normal when you truly love and care.

Sure. "I beat you up because I love you SO MUCH!"

I didn't see any suggestion that beating someone up was a reasonable or good thing. The post was about not taking out intense emotions on those around us.

[MrsBruce5 0]

Very good advice, makes me think it's something the Lord Buddha would have said.

Excellent. I think everyone should read it and practice it more.

Cheers for that post !

Rose

[Lizzy 0]

Good advice!

[joone745 0]

thanks a lot for all your reply!

Lyann