K1 Horrible Ending!! Fiance arrived with kid but turns out she is already married!

[RamonGomez 271]

I'm so sorry about what happened. And I really feel bad for the young child who is getting dragged along in this.

 

We as adults can process things and eventually move on, but young kids are a different story.

 

At this point the best thing for you would be to end this ASAP and break all ties. Your marriage most likely isn't valid, but I'd consult an attorney immediately on how to proceed since the mechanics/formalities may differ slightly between states/counties.

 

Obviously don't show up to the AOS interview.

Edited September 30, 2021 by RamonGomez

[Carpe Vinum 2,327]

From my understanding the beneficiary has returned to their home country already. I am sorry for your pain. It is good sometimes to vent and share your frustrations with others. I don't think there is any immigration advice to give. Sometimes things just go wrong between people. We aren't machines. Good luck in the future🙂

[DeleteAccount 32]

On 9/29/2021 at 2:02 PM, MyLoveAZ said:

I was so very excited to start this process. I was feeling like a would have a family that truly loved me. I fought for 1 and half years to bring this women and her child to the US. I sent money every month so they could eat and buy necessities. I would help this woman's child with home work over video.  I spoke 2 times a day and reassured them I would bring them to the US. I truly loved and cared for these people!! After the long wait they finally arrived here in the US. I was so excited to see them and finally get to hold my family in my arms. It seemed relaxed at first until the first day of school for the child, I woke to arguing. I asked what was happening and she responded with "My daughter will soon be an alcoholic or marry one!!!" then she kept going with "I wish I had never birthed this child, she has ruined my life!!! I should have had an abortion!!!" This is were I stepped in and ask "Why would you say this where your child could hear this, that is horrible" then I asked what happened and she replied with "Her bangs are in her eye's, she looks terrible and this will hurt her eyes!!!!" That is when I realized something wasn't right. So, I felt I needed to step it up and be a super dad so this child would have some kind of sanity in her life. The daughter and I were close and she could tell I was trying to be the best father that I could be. The bond we formed was wonderful!! In the mean time the K1 wife was fighting as much as she could. So, I couldn't figure out what the problem was, then I discovered that she was married to a man in Norway!!!! I was blown away!! I asked her are you still married, because if so you lied on the Visa app. I found out that she is! That is not good!!! Needless to say she changed completely after she got here. I did see some red flags while she was in Ukraine, but I chalked it up to stress and living conditions. I visited Ukraine 2 times and never once did she mention her marriage in Norway. I even offered to help with the divorce from the man in Norway, but she was only in it for the green card. I found even more out that I will not mention, but it was enough for me to send her home. I am so devastated, I lost my family and child. I was planning on adopting the child!! Now all gone. Please be careful, this really does happen and does not feel good. If you have any questions or are concerned with your situation, please message me and I will give any information that I can. I will not look for just the negative, I am not bitter, only sad from my loss. I can't even tell you how much money I spent!!!

So just a quick update and thank you so much for some tough love and kindness. Some times you need that after something like this. The scary thing is that I did marry her, she insisted when she got to the US. I loved her so I agreed to it. Besides I was told the daughter had no father and I wanted to do the right thing and adopt her so she could feel secure and have a good dad. I have since communicated with her biological father and he is wonderful. I found a true friend with him. So the truth is she has a wonderful Ukrainian father who does care for her! We are in good communication, I want to make sure that the daughter is safe. I have broke all ties with the wife and she signed for the documents (she has been served) for voided annulment. This means that we were never married because she was already married. I did some digging and found everything needed to prove she is still married. So every thing is now looking up for me. I would be curious on how to report something like this so this doesn't happen to someone else. She did commit fraud for lying on the application by saying she was free to marry. Any feed back on how to get this to the right authorities would be helpful, maybe even to others. One last thing, please say a prayer for the wife and the daughter. People don't just act this way, something bad must have happened to make her this way and even the worst of people have some glimmer of light in them. That is maybe what I saw in her, a little glimmer of light.

Edited October 1, 2021 by MyLoveAZ

[TBoneTX 45,273]

That's great news about the father.

 

Write to the consulate (with her A-number in the subject line), efficiently explain the situation, suggest that the IV Fraud unit take note, and ask for acknowledgment that your message was received.

 

Your attitude and survivor's resilience are admirable.

[DeleteAccount 32]

On 9/29/2021 at 2:15 PM, carolynhotstuff said:

I am so sorry this happened to you. Give yourself plenty of time to grieve. I spent 10 years married to an abuser at least you got out fairly quickly. I will pray for you. 

Thanks!! I will give my self time and learn who I am and what I am doing incorrectly to have attracted this person. I am also from Michigan!!!

[Mike E 11,739]

3 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

That's great news about the father.

 

Write to the consulate (with her A-number in the subject line), efficiently explain the situation, suggest that the IV Fraud unit take note, and ask for acknowledgment that your message was received.

 

Your attitude and survivor's resilience are admirable.

 

3 hours ago, MyLoveAZ said:

Thanks!! I will give my self time and learn who I am and what I am doing incorrectly to have attracted this person. I am also from Michigan!!!

Also:

 

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/uscis-tip-form

 

https://www.state.gov/passport-and-visa-fraud/
 

both links let you make online reports.  The sooner this information is online the sooner and more likely USCIS and State will mark her as permanently inadmissible.  
 

Predicted future post on VJ: “help my Ukrainian wife/fiancée had her interview and was denied. What next?”

[Daisy.Chain 317]

On 9/30/2021 at 6:10 AM, Nasirlahore said:

You can send her home, since she lied  on her k1 visa  application that both of you not married at the time of filling.i think its a felony .she could be barred  for rest of her life for applying  🇺🇸 visa.

 

Nope. You can't force a person to leave. You can incentivize it and report it to USCIS but you can't make them actually leave?. I read that in this case the ex"wife" has already left, so the point is moot.

[Daisy.Chain 317]

On 9/30/2021 at 7:06 AM, Mike E said:

The requirement of the K-1 visa is that the holder marry within 90 days of POE.  The holder is married to someone else.  The holder cannot meet the requirements of the visa. A visa that the holder wasn’t eligible to get in the first place. 

I agree that they didn't meet the requirments of the visa. However, a person can't be physically forced to leave the country except foe by the authorities. I read that the ex"wife" has already left the country now, but if she hadn't there is nothing outside of documentation to USCIS/ICE and incentivizing (buying her ticket etc) he could do. So frustrating for so many people who have been scammed.

[Daisy.Chain 317]

On 9/30/2021 at 7:13 AM, African Zealot said:

You’re asserting things you don’t have correct information on. 

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You cannot physically force someone to leave the country, even when they've outrageously broken the law. You can withdraw support for them, send documentation of their actions, refuse to sign, kick them out of the house or incentivize a way back home, but you can't force them. If it were possible we'd have many fewer immigrants when awful scams like these happen.

 

I'm sorry for the OP and for that poor child going through all this. What an awful experience.

[Mike E 11,739]

2 hours ago, Daisy.Chain said:

Nope. You can't force a person to leave. You can incentivize it and report it to USCIS but you can't make them actually leave?. I read that in this case the ex"wife" has already left, so the point is moot.

You keep using that word “can”. I do not believe you know what it means.  
 

Regardless, now moot.  
 

Over and out.  

[DeleteAccount 32]

3 hours ago, Daisy.Chain said:

I agree that they didn't meet the requirments of the visa. However, a person can't be physically forced to leave the country except foe by the authorities. I read that the ex"wife" has already left the country now, but if she hadn't there is nothing outside of documentation to USCIS/ICE and incentivizing (buying her ticket etc) he could do. So frustrating for so many people who have been scammed.

I never would force anything on someone. She was scared because she had been previously married and lied on the K1 app, so she didn't want to find out what would have happened. I am frustrated also, but I was blinded by loneliness and ignored the red flags. Now looking back there were plenty. So it is on me also, I just wish the child didn't have to suffer, that is my main concern.

[DeleteAccount 32]

3 hours ago, Daisy.Chain said:

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You cannot physically force someone to leave the country, even when they've outrageously broken the law. You can withdraw support for them, send documentation of their actions, refuse to sign, kick them out of the house or incentivize a way back home, but you can't force them. If it were possible we'd have many fewer immigrants when awful scams like these happen.

 

I'm sorry for the OP and for that poor child going through all this. What an awful experience.

We all learn from are mistakes, like you expressed, I just wish that the child didn't have to go through all of this. Also, I never forced her anywhere, she was scared because she was previously married and wasn't sure what would happen if we adjusted status. I actually send in the forms for AOS and then I found out she was married to someone else. My lawyer said to cancel payment because there are no refunds and there is a good chance that they would have found out and maybe deported or worse.

[TBoneTX 45,273]

10 hours ago, MyLoveAZ said:

it is on me also

Put your guilt into perspective, such as you're already doing to admirable extent, and avoid self-blame.

[Lutherbass3 1]

Never…I repeat…NEVER bring someone with a kid to the US!!! If you want a ready made family, you can get that ####### here!!! 

[SorrowL 138]

Yeah definitely report it. I suggest you annul the marriage too ASAP considering she’s already married.