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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Romania
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I know when i begin to snap at everyone i know its gone too far. Makes it even worse when the valiums are not even working anymore because of the stress amount. *sigh*

Its been 3 weeks after they got my RFE and all i hear is "its in active processing" well, processing what I DONT KNOW, but i dont think its my petition or its the only thing they know how to say.

I have done everything to stay strong and ive run outta ideas to try and keep my mind off things. It makes it worse when I come on here and see people after me getting approved, happy for them ofcorse, but aggrivated at the same time. Not at them, they had nothing to do with it.

Theres just so much anger and hurt and pain and so many emotions unexplainable built up that i dont know how much more i can take. The problem is, i have no clue how to clear my mind of it, not even for a second. This is deffinatly the most painful and worst experience i have ever gone through in my entire life. I hated it when i was growing up that my parents were in control of my life, and at 30, i feel like a kid again when people i dont even know (CSC) have control over the rest of my life AND my childrens lives.

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I felt the need to rant. AGAIN

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God,

if you can listen to me right now, just let them have a sign from you about their papers and hold their hands, for me,please.

Hold our hands, because all we want is to be happy.

Hold our hands God...

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Don't know what to tell ya, except there are many people here that have been on the path and know how you feel. I can only believe their is purpose behind the pain. I tell people to remember these feelings you have now for when the times get tough. The fact that you have so much pain is an affirmation of the love you have and that fact can be reassuring in itself. We are lucky in some ways to go through this process because we have a sense of loss and uncertainty.....nothing for us comes easily but it provides an opportunity to fall that much more in love. In the end, you can truly say you've earned it.....making it through this means you can make it through anything.

I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?

12/5/05 Sent I129F Petition to Nebraska via Express Mail

12/6/05 Packaged received at 10:38 am in Nebraska

12/9/05 Check cashed (Never been so happy to have money leave my account)

12/12/05 Receive NOA1 snail mail - 30-60 day processing estimate

01/04/06 Receive NOA2 via e-mail

1/20/06 NVC letter in mail...will ship within a week.

2/1/06 Packet 3 and 4 in the mail

3/15/06 Interview - neither approved nor declined need to send in Migratory Movement Certificate AP

3/20/06 Migratory Movement Certificate for myself and fiancee sent to US Embassy in Lima

3/23/06 Visa Approved

5/19/06 I leave for Peru to pick up mi amor

5/25/06 Lucia and I arrive in Chicago

7/01/06 Legal Marriage

9/09/06 Religious Wedding

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"I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?"

merc its really sad when we have to feel that way!

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"I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?"

merc its really sad when we have to feel that way!

Hahaha....yes it is! But when I think about it.....I'm so grateful to have met her and be the one she loves. I feel like it is my penance in a way to go through so much pain in order to have so great of a love. No contest.....I'd take it this way every time. The best things in life are sometimes the most difficult to attain but there is a sense of accomplishment and a bond that forms between you when it is done. That's something people in "normal" relationships don't understand. We are the fairy tales.......

12/5/05 Sent I129F Petition to Nebraska via Express Mail

12/6/05 Packaged received at 10:38 am in Nebraska

12/9/05 Check cashed (Never been so happy to have money leave my account)

12/12/05 Receive NOA1 snail mail - 30-60 day processing estimate

01/04/06 Receive NOA2 via e-mail

1/20/06 NVC letter in mail...will ship within a week.

2/1/06 Packet 3 and 4 in the mail

3/15/06 Interview - neither approved nor declined need to send in Migratory Movement Certificate AP

3/20/06 Migratory Movement Certificate for myself and fiancee sent to US Embassy in Lima

3/23/06 Visa Approved

5/19/06 I leave for Peru to pick up mi amor

5/25/06 Lucia and I arrive in Chicago

7/01/06 Legal Marriage

9/09/06 Religious Wedding

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waiting is absolute torture-I know exactly how you feel.

sending some good vibes your way-I hope you get your approval soon!

Ni neart go cur le cheile

"Togetherness is Strength"

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I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?

That sentence should be our signatures. :P

Luis was nervous to ask my father for permission to marry me, but this K1 process can drive anyone crazy!

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09/29/2006 - Visa in hand!

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11/15/2006 - MARRIAGE

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03/26/2007 - Green Card in hand!

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01/26/2009 - Filed I-751.
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The best things in life are sometimes the most difficult to attain but there is a sense of accomplishment and a bond that forms between you when it is done. That's something people in "normal" relationships don't understand. We are the fairy tales.......

Aren't we? :star: Very well said Merc.....

And to the OP, I hope you get your NOA2 soon... I'll be praying for you as you don't deserve to go through any more pain. (F)

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Latest steps:

10/26/2006- Consulate receives case (seriously, one month to receive the case?? BS!), and packet 3 that I sent even before they had received the case.

01/02/2007- Interview!!!!!!!!!!!!! Got a 221(g)

01/23/2007- Second Interview. VISA granted!!!

01/29/2007- VISA arrived.... no envelope though. I'm gonna contact them and see what happened this time!

01/31/2007- I'll have to send them one last financial support evidence.

02/01/2007- Evidence sent

02/02/2007- Evidence received by Consulate

02/06/2007- Consulate sends envelope!

02/07/2007- Envelope received!!!

02/10/2007- Flew to the USA!!!!!!

04/17/2007- Wedding day!!!

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Thanks, i dunno what to say. I know im not the only one going through this, just sometimes you feel alone in all of this, im sure you know what i mean. And i want to clarify that i know everyones cases are different and i shouldnt complain when i see someone else get approved who has a notice date after me, RFE or not, its human instinct.

I just cant wait til my Ed is here so my heart can begin to heal with him by my side.

This is all just too much emtional torture for ANYONE to endure.

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hey there! i think all of these words from everyone are wonderful advice for you and everybody!! i get the same way that you do..... i want to pull my hair out, i actually get chest pains and i am a 23 yr old woman!!! i know this is very very hard and i have little patience too. but when you feel extremely stressed or sad just think about when this is finally all over and you will be together and you can look at your fiance and realize how much they are worth every minute of pain. this is a test of all of our relationships. tests that others do not go through, and i think that this is not necessarily a bad thing because you would never do this for someone you truly did not love. and at least you know your relationship will last a life time and that you can get through anything! other relationships in the world fail because they take too much for granted and sometimes truly cannot appreciate eachother at least all of us can say that we truly do!!! i wish you the best of luck and you will be together soon!!

Diana

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01/09/06- pakage sent to NSC

01/11/06- NOA1

03/16/06- NOA2 approved!!!

04/03/06- arrived at NVC

04/04/06- left NVC

04/08/06- received packet 3

04/11/06- sent packet 3 to Frankfurt

04/26/06- received packet 4

05/23/06- INTERVIEW at 9:30amAPPROVED!!!!

06/01/06- visa in hand!!!

06/08/06- married in Vegas!!!

AOS/EAD

06/24/06- sent AOS and EAD package to Chicago

06/27/06- Chicago receives package

06/30/06- NOA1

07/03/06- NOA1 received in the mail

07/17/06- biometrics appt. received in mail

07/25/06- biometrics in cleveland

08/30/06- case received at CSC

08/31/06- received a new NOA1 email

09/01/06- touched AOS

09/15/06- AOS APPROVED!! got email saying welcome letter was sent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

09/20/06- welcome letter received!!! and approval email sent

09/21/06- touched and GREENCARD RECEIVED!!!!!

06/08/07- one year anniversary

06/08/08- two year anniversary

06/08/09- three year anniversary

Removal of Conditions

06/17/08- package sent to California

06/19/08- California receives package

06/19/08-NOA1

06/28/08-Biometrics appointment

07/28/08-touched

09/01/08-received non conditional green card

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I am so sorry to hear of your pain, i really am.

God bless you and keep you in his hands.

Melanie

K1

September 15 - 2005: NOA1

October: Waiting

November: Waiting

December: In Security checks

January 2006: Waiting

February: Waiting..Contacted Congress

March 4th: APPROVED

March 17th: NVC posted file to London

March 20th: London Receives file

March 29th: Receive package 3

April 13th: London Receives package

April 19th: Medical - June 13th: INTERVIEW......APPROVED!!!!

June 20th: ARRIVE IN USA

Time taken for whole process 9 Months

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AOS

October: 13th: Sent off AOS Package

November 3rd: NOA1

November 14th: Snail mail ~ NOA1 ~ Case moved to the CSC for faster processing.

November 14th : CSC has petition for me and my daughter.

December 14th: Biometrics completed.

January 17th: APPROVED AOS!

January 22nd: Green card arrives in the mail:))

Time taken for AOS - 3.5 Months

Finished for 2 years.

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o, hugs Tara! There's nothing I can say to make it better, but hang in there! Yours was a complicated situation that's probably taking a little longer to sort out.

Plus, remember what I've learned through observation: as soon as someone reaches the snappig point like this, NOA2 shows up within days.

Fingers crossed that this was your *last* rant required.

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God,

if you can listen to me right now, just let them have a sign from you about their papers and hold their hands, for me,please.

Hold our hands, because all we want is to be happy.

Hold our hands God...

Beautiful prayer! Well done! :thumbs:

"I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?"

merc its really sad when we have to feel that way!

Hahaha....yes it is! But when I think about it.....I'm so grateful to have met her and be the one she loves. I feel like it is my penance in a way to go through so much pain in order to have so great of a love. No contest.....I'd take it this way every time. The best things in life are sometimes the most difficult to attain but there is a sense of accomplishment and a bond that forms between you when it is done. That's something people in "normal" relationships don't understand. We are the fairy tales.......

merc... i am so proud to call you friend... what a beautiful way to express your feelings... you said exactly what i was thinking... and could not put into words... :thumbs:

God,

if you can listen to me right now, just let them have a sign from you about their papers and hold their hands, for me,please.

Hold our hands, because all we want is to be happy.

Hold our hands God...

Beautiful prayer! Well done! :thumbs:

"I felt more nervous asking permission from the gov't to marry Lucia than I did asking her parents for permission! How messed up is that?"

merc its really sad when we have to feel that way!

Hahaha....yes it is! But when I think about it.....I'm so grateful to have met her and be the one she loves. I feel like it is my penance in a way to go through so much pain in order to have so great of a love. No contest.....I'd take it this way every time. The best things in life are sometimes the most difficult to attain but there is a sense of accomplishment and a bond that forms between you when it is done. That's something people in "normal" relationships don't understand. We are the fairy tales.......

merc... i am so proud to call you friend... what a beautiful way to express your feelings... you said exactly what i was thinking... and could not put into words... :thumbs:

I must be reallllllllllly tired... forgot to tell Tara... i'm praying for ya girl... i know it is difficult... *hugs*... hang in there... and vent whenever you feel the need!

Tho' lovers be lost, love shall not... and death shall have NO dominion!

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My prayers are with you, too. I hope God brings you peace :luv:

Every single one of us knows exactly how it feels, and sometimes you just need to go nuts and rant. Let 'er rip tater chip, we're here to help :)

By the by... merc has hit the nail on the head. Other folks dont know half the pain we all go through in this process, but like I tell my fiance every day "You're so worth it".

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