k1 sponsorship (merged)

[powerpuff 6,747]

23 minutes ago, Cl&Ha said:

Well im sorry but going from talking HOURS daily to barely talking  is kind of tough.  We are together cuz we re in love not to secure something... so yeah

Sounds like you're saying that I wasn't with my husband for love but rather for financial security but I'm gonna let that slide because you clearly have quite a naive perception of immigration  and marriage and what they entail. It is a serious matter and whether you like it or not, the US immigration looks very closely at finances and whether or not the sponsor can actually sponsor not just for the immigration process itself but for the life here in the US. And looking at your situation they can easily deduct that there is a good chance you might become a public charge and deny your visa at the consulate (your fiance is making way below the threshold, they know you can't work for a long while, AOS is expensive, life in US is expensive etc etc.) PLUS Tunisia is a tough consulate. If you want to keep talking for hours and hours a day then don't start this immigration process. Keep having a long distance relationship. If you want to pursue it then either keep the situation the way it is  right now and hope for the best when time comes for the interview OR have her find abetter job to have more chances at a) passing the interview; and if you get the visa, then b) at adjusting status when you get the US where you have to file another affidavit of support and c) not put pressure/burden on your relationship because of lack of finances.

 

Being in love is nice and all but when you're making a such a serious decision to get married and you add immigration on top, you have to be realistic and responsible. And that also includes ensuring you are financially stable and able to sponsor your spouse/fiance. It is what it is. 

Edited July 10, 2021 by powerpuff

[Cl&Ha 3]

Im sorry if it seemed like I meant that , because I did not .... no offense meant  . It's just that I pointed out that it would be a tough decision to make.... that's why I asked about the joint sponsor,  of which we have 2 , her parents and my friend in the US who both more than qualify...

[JeanneAdil 6,609]

you asked this question before 

answers here may be slightly different but most the same

chances of a K1 visa in Tunisia are already slim 

and even with a joint sponsor the CO can still deny

you think living with her parents while you wait more than a year for the AOS to happen will be the best thing?

it will be boring along with other issues

No joint apartment lease as lives with parents

no joint utility  bills as parents pay them

part time means she does not have full health insurance 

she needs full time health care to be able to add you after marriage

not saying this to discourage the relationship 

but she should join VJ and understand the visa and AOS process 

and you said she has a vocational education and there are plenty of jobs out there that are full time 

she needs that or a 2nd job as your chances for a successful K1 at this point are slim

[Ontarkie 14,413]

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[SalishSea 18,080]

5 hours ago, Cl&Ha said:

Thing is she can have a full time job and make well above the required sur. But that would me we will not talk for more than à year except for weekend.  8am to 5pm for her is 5pm to 2am for me..... 

Very strange priorities if the goal is to be approved for an immigrant visa.

[SalishSea 18,080]

5 hours ago, Cl&Ha said:

Well im sorry but going from talking HOURS daily to barely talking  is kind of tough.  We are together cuz we re in love not to secure something... so yeah

So she would choose to spend HOURS  talking on the phone, over taking working enough to sponsor you?  You guys sound young.

[chlaamizrae 0]

On 7/10/2021 at 12:26 PM, powerpuff said:

Are you seriously saying that she doesn't want to find a better job to sponsor you because you wont be able to talk often? Wow, that's a new one for me. My now husband was/is working 6 days a week for 10 hours a day while we had an 11 hour time difference for all of our K-1 journey. Still managed to talk every day and make time. We knew that financial stability and being able to show that he can sponsor me was one of the main priorities. Not to sound harsh but I suggest you rethink yours. 

What works for some relationships doesn't always work for others.

[chlaamizrae 0]

On 7/10/2021 at 6:26 PM, Jorgedig said:

So she would choose to spend HOURS  talking on the phone, over taking working enough to sponsor you?  You guys sound young.

Not everyone is the type of person who is okay with maintaining a relationship based off of talking 2 days a week. Just looking for answers to some questions before making decisions, but thanks for input. We are young, which will be great for whichever application we choose : )

Edited July 12, 2021 by chlaamizrae
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[powerpuff 6,747]

21 minutes ago, chlaamizrae said:

What works for some relationships doesn't always work for others.

 

10 minutes ago, chlaamizrae said:

Not everyone is the type of person who is okay with maintaining a relationship based off of talking 2 days a week. Just looking for answers to some questions before making decisions, but thanks for input. We are young, which will be great for whichever application we choose : )

You/your SO asked us a question if joint sponsorship would be ok/not okay in your situation and we answered. You asked for opinions - we  gave you our realistic opinions. Now whether or not our suggestions work out for your relationship is not something we can help with since that is between you two. 

[chlaamizrae 0]

3 minutes ago, powerpuff said:

 

You/your SO asked us a question if joint sponsorship would be ok/not okay in your situation and we answered. You asked for opinions - we  gave you our realistic opinions. Now whether or not our suggestions work out for your relationship is not something we can help with since that is between you two. 

Yes, that is what was asked. I appreciate honest answers to the question that was asked. How we should spend our time, how naïve we are, or old we seem, is also between us two.

[powerpuff 6,747]

24 minutes ago, chlaamizrae said:

How we should spend our time, how naïve we are, or old we seem, is also between us two.

If that’s between you two then don’t tell us (on this very public forum) your age and reasons as to why our advice doesn’t suit your relationship. Good luck with the process. I’m out 

Edited July 12, 2021 by powerpuff