Urgent please help!!!!

[TBoneTX 46,213]

8 hours ago, DAYEE28 said:

which countries is high risk or not?

Years ago, I asked an immigration lawyer -- who had served as a consul in 3 foreign posts -- this question.  He firmly replied, "ANY POOR COUNTRY."

 

32 minutes ago, DAYEE28 said:

is 10yrs consider a big age difference?

It can be, depending.  Which one of you is older, and can she still have children?

[SalishSea 18,170]

2 hours ago, DAYEE28 said:

Yeap!!!! The thing is from here to Liberia, plane tickets  is close to $2k and it will probably cost me  other 2-3k plus in expensive  when I get there.

Same airfare between Seattle and NZ.  That is one of the reasons the entire immigration process is so expensive.

 

We had like 6 long visits back and forth over the course of three years, and Auckland is a very, very low fraud consulate.  But marriage is a huge step, and I can't imagine ever being sure after 6 months of chatting online and one visit.

[Suze1 366]

8 hours ago, DAYEE28 said:

Unfortunately, I don’t see Liberia anywhere on there

Liberia is clearly on the map -

 

[Suze1 366]

Urgent please help!!!!

 

Why the rush?  What is so URGENT?

 

[TBoneTX 46,213]

The consular officers value, and look closely at, "face time" -- time spent together -- when evaluating the bona fide nature of a relationship.  Marrying NOT on the first visit, but rather on a later one, ESPECIALLY if the visits are long, will work in your favor.

 

So-called red flags, or problematic aspects of the relationship (age, child-bearing capability, previous visa attempts, cultural/religious considerations, et al.), should optimally be absent or at least few and as insignificant as possible.

 

Marrying during a brief first visit will almost certainly be a red flag.

Edited July 4, 2021 by TBoneTX

[SalishSea 18,170]

9 minutes ago, Suze1 said:

Urgent please help!!!!

 

Why the rush?  What is so URGENT?

 

Isn't every immigration case?  😅

[SusieQQQ 11,587]

1 hour ago, Suze1 said:

Liberia is clearly on the map -

 

I don’t think the map is accurate as a reference, the red includes countries with like 6-7% visa refusal rates which does not indicate high risk at all… it is also not an official source, just some arbitrary website. The B visa refusal rate document by contrast is from DoS. One or two other DoS documents occasionally mention high fraud countries by name. 

[Suze1 366]

Yes, aware not official. Just saying, Liberia IS ON THE MAP.

(Have actually lived a few countries away from it)

Edited July 4, 2021 by Suze1

[SusieQQQ 11,587]

🤷‍♀️ I can also get a map of Africa and color most of it in red and put it on the Internet. Meaningless. Anyway even if that map is irrelevant to the discussion, the DoS documents aren’t.

[DAYEE28 10]

4 hours ago, Suze1 said:

Urgent please help!!!!

 

Why the rush?  What is so URGENT?

 

I’m in love 

[DAYEE28 10]

5 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Years ago, I asked an immigration lawyer -- who had served as a consul in 3 foreign posts -- this question.  He firmly replied, "ANY POOR COUNTRY."

 

It can be, depending.  Which one of you is older, and can she still have children?

She is 24 n I’m 32

[DAYEE28 10]

4 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

The consular officers value, and look closely at, "face time" -- time spent together -- when evaluating the bona fide nature of a relationship.  Marrying NOT on the first visit, but rather on a later one, ESPECIALLY if the visits are long, will work in your favor.

 

So-called red flags, or problematic aspects of the relationship (age, child-bearing capability, previous visa attempts, cultural/religious considerations, et al.), should optimally be absent or at least few and as insignificant as possible.

 

Marrying during a brief first visit will almost certainly be a red flag.

Thank you

[nastra30 2,374]

1 hour ago, DAYEE28 said:

She is 24 n I’m 32

Op, nothing suspicious with this age gap if considered in isolation. As others have pointed out, it's the marriage on 1st physical sight that could potentially cause you some serious headaches down the road in terms of immigration because it will raise some red flags. You will want your petition to be bullet proof as much as possible, because those USEMs in West Africa don't play games at all.

[Mike E 11,742]

10 hours ago, DAYEE28 said:

Yeap!!!! The thing is from here to Liberia, plane tickets  is close to $2k and it will probably cost me  other 2-3k plus in expensive  when I get there.

If you can afford to import a spouse (which is the ultimate  luxury import) you can afford $4K to visit her 3 times a year for a couple years.  So $12K a year or $1000 a month on average.  Take it out of your entertainment budget.  If you were dating people regularly in the USA, you’d be looking at similar expenses.  
 

Rest assured, once she is with you in the USA, your expenses will go up by $1000 a month or more.   

 

Does she have family in Liberia? Often when someone  from an underdeveloped country moves to the USA, the family overseas puts pressure on the new American immigrant to send money.  You will either have to budget for this or come to an agreement with her that this won’t happen.  

 

3 hours ago, DAYEE28 said:

I’m in love 

Congratulations, truly.  It’s a great feeling. It’s exciting to fall hard for someone you discovered  online and the anticipation of meeting that person only adds to it.    The more in love you are, the tougher the heart break if it turns out the feelings aren’t truly mutual.

 

On the other hand it is wondrous when that first meeting goes well.  Well it is even better when subsequent meetings  go well.  

Edited July 4, 2021 by Mike E

[Crazy Cat 42,433]

13 hours ago, Jorgedig said:

Can you really afford to sponsor an immigrant, in that case?  

I think a lot more people should ask themselves that question before starting on the immigration process.  I once asked one of most knowledgeable members (still active) here "Are you surprised at the number of petitioners who should probably wait until their finances are more stable and sufficient?"  He said " I used to be".  

Edited July 4, 2021 by Lucky Cat