Fiancee has been captured by police and being deported

[Nitas_man 3,100]

1 minute ago, ducks said:

Yes I will be speaking with a lawyer. I just need to figure out how to pay them. My brother has some money he's going to loan me and sometimes they let the people being processed use Zoom but I need to figure out how that works. It's all so overwhelming. And I know I was dumb for waiting for so long, people keep saying this and I agree. But I think HOPE! marrying her before they can deport her would be better because then they would have to make a decision to divide a married couple for 10 years. I think that would be a hard decision for anyone to make against two people in love. I just need to figure out how.

They divide parents and children.  They aren’t going to think twice about you getting married after y’all got caught.  Way it is.  
 

You pay attention to that lawyer and what he/she has to say.

[ducks 7]

1 minute ago, Nitas_man said:

They divide parents and children.  They aren’t going to think twice about you getting married after y’all got caught.  Way it is.  
 

You pay attention to that lawyer and what he/she has to say.

That's solid advice about the lawyer, thank you.

[SalishSea 18,054]

12 minutes ago, ducks said:

I think that would be a hard decision for anyone to make against two people in love.

Being naive about this process may help you cope, but it won't change the reality of it.

 

US immigration isn't about anyone's feelings.

[ducks 7]

13 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Being naive about this process may help you cope, but it won't change the reality of it.

 

US immigration isn't about anyone's feelings.

I just want to be back together with my fiancee and continue our life journey together just like everyone else here. It's not fair that one little thing changes everything in a minute but I am committed to fixing it. I owe it to her at least.

Edited June 2, 2021 by ducks

[flicks1998 1,044]

I try to show as much empathy as possible since being on this board and with the entire COVID situation.  However, for some reason, I dont have any empathy at all for the OP.  As far as I understand from the quick read of the thread, the OP's fiance or gf has overstayed for 2 years, which would be the entire length of this pandemic.  Canada has not been closed.  For the longest of time, you could have flown into the country but not crossed overland.  There were ways to get back.  Im mainly in the Philippines section and those couples (especially K1s) are going through pure h$ll.  Many of those couples have not seen their significant other for 16+ months, many others are over the two year mark now.  They have followed the rules, they have put their relationships on the line with the distance, the inability to even see each other with that country basically closed off to most foreigners.  I converted to Buddhism about 25 years ago and that red light to me is called karma.  Hopefully, though, things will eventually work out for the OP.  

[SalishSea 18,054]

1 minute ago, flicks1998 said:

I try to show as much empathy as possible since being on this board and with the entire COVID situation.  However, for some reason, I dont have any empathy at all for the OP.  As far as I understand from the quick read of the thread, the OP's fiance or gf has overstayed for 2 years, which would be the entire length of this pandemic.  Canada has not been closed.  For the longest of time, you could have flown into the country but not crossed overland.  There were ways to get back.  Im mainly in the Philippines section and those couples (especially K1s) are going through pure h$ll.  Many of those couples have not seen their significant other for 16+ months, many others are over the two year mark now.  They have followed the rules, they have put their relationships on the line with the distance, the inability to even see each other with that country basically closed off to most foreigners.  I converted to Buddhism about 25 years ago and that red light to me is called karma.  Hopefully, though, things will eventually work out for the OP.  

Yeah, we had three years apart, and a 15 hour flight.  Many here have it much, much worse.  Separation, as part of the immigration process, is just a thing.

[Boiler 45,880]

Overstaying is hardly a little thing.

 

Wonder if she has a valid drivers license.

[ducks 7]

5 minutes ago, flicks1998 said:

I try to show as much empathy as possible since being on this board and with the entire COVID situation.  However, for some reason, I dont have any empathy at all for the OP.  As far as I understand from the quick read of the thread, the OP's fiance or gf has overstayed for 2 years, which would be the entire length of this pandemic.  Canada has not been closed.  For the longest of time, you could have flown into the country but not crossed overland.  There were ways to get back.  Im mainly in the Philippines section and those couples (especially K1s) are going through pure h$ll.  Many of those couples have not seen their significant other for 16+ months, many others are over the two year mark now.  They have followed the rules, they have put their relationships on the line with the distance, the inability to even see each other with that country basically closed off to most foreigners.  I converted to Buddhism about 25 years ago and that red light to me is called karma.  Hopefully, though, things will eventually work out for the OP.  

I know I have a good life (or had) and I know a lot of people are suffering probably more than me. And maybe those people deserve to be happier than me, I don't know. All I know is that one red light changed the course of our lives together drastically and tonight I'm sleeping in bed by myself and I will be waking up by myself. I don't know how anyone can be happy about two people who love each other more than life itself being forced apart but it's breaking my heart and I'll do whatever I need to do to fix it for her. And this will be a lesson learned. I was stupid to wait so long, you guys are right. Not much I can do about that right now except try to figure out how to pay for a lawyer and how we can get married before they deport her. It's a lot of stress on both of us and I'm sure she's even a little mad at me for not putting my foot down and just doing it.

5 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Overstaying is hardly a little thing.

 

Wonder if she has a valid drivers license.

Nope

[ducks 7]

We live in a lot of farm country and almost never see a cop and she doesn't drive a lot but this time she needed some stuff in town and that's where it all fell apart.

[retheem 568]

29 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Being naive about this process may help you cope, but it won't change the reality of it.

 

US immigration isn't about anyone's feelings.

I always say here time and again that lack of forethought gets people into unnecessary trouble. These are the consequences...

[Sunya and Tim 55]

Overstay is no joke and it makes the process a lot more complicated. My husband had a 4 hour overstay due to a flight delay. It is 8 years later and he still gets pulled to secondary by customs agents some times when we fly. Every immigration form and interview he has to explain it again.  Ours was only 4 hours and it has still made this process painful.  A 2 year overstay really does need a good immigration lawyer. If this really is your person then do the right thing going forward and be honest with your lawyer so they can have all the details to give you the best advice. Best of luck to you both. 

[mushroomspore 3,044]

16 minutes ago, ducks said:

We live in a lot of farm country and almost never see a cop and she doesn't drive a lot but this time she needed some stuff in town and that's where it all fell apart.

Sorry but it fell apart the minute she decided to overstay and do nothing about her status here. She broke federal laws. That is the only thing governments care about.

[Strawberrymermaid 346]

I really feel for you and I’m sorry you’re going through this, but getting married as a Hail Mary last ditch effort will have the opposite impact of what you are hoping for. 
 

also, I looked at your previous posts, it looks like you are the one originally from Canada and were driving to the US at one point with your things? Is that this same relationship or an older one? Trying to follow 

[Lemonslice 4,942]

Some already posted about it, but you should also consider the steps needed to move to Canada.  Compare and see what's better for you two...

[Riversong 420]

The situation you guys are in really sucks, but like some have said, you may be better off looking at moving to Canada. An overstay of 2 years? That's a ban on re-entry to the US. Especially if she is being deported and not a voluntary leave. Ouch, this sucks and I feel for you. Hopefully you guys can sort it out and have a decent lawyer. Sending good vibes to you two