Second i751 interview

[Statebriga 8]

Had interview last year in Oct, very short 5 min pointless interview filling jointly, went with my wife.
Now got interview scheduled again next month. I am pretty sure it will be stokes interview..
Do you guys have any advices? we been really living for 6 years already together. I get really nervous at interview, and freeze, i am about to start taking ADHD meds so hopefully that helps, as i am gonna most likely get prescribed by my psychiatrist...  
I am kinda worried that my wife is out of state now for 2 months, almost 2 and a half.. Her sister got 3 kids, newborns are twins, so she needed help? Will that look bad? Other than that only times we lived apart is when i went to my home country 3 times, in 2016 and 2017 (my father had cancer) after he passed away i didnt go back and spent every day with my wife besides these 4 times..
is it worth taking lawyer?  Its been already almost 3 years since i filled, RFE > interview canceled > interview > interview 2 .... 
I am going literally nuts from wait, depression and anxiety it caused to me.. I feel a lot of you guys feel the pain..

Edited May 19, 2021 by Statebriga

[USC4SPOUSE 506]

37 minutes ago, Statebriga said:

Had interview last year in Oct, very short 5 min pointless interview filling jointly, went with my wife.
Now got interview scheduled again next month. I am pretty sure it will be stokes interview..
Do you guys have any advices? we been really living for 6 years already together. I get really nervous at interview, and freeze, i am about to start taking ADHD meds so hopefully that helps, as i am gonna most likely get prescribed by my psychiatrist...  
I am kinda worried that my wife is out of state now for 2 months, almost 2 and a half.. Her sister got 3 kids, newborns are twins, so she needed help? Will that look bad? Other than that only times we lived apart is when i went to my home country 3 times, in 2016 and 2017 (my father had cancer) after he passed away i didnt go back and spent every day with my wife besides these 4 times..
is it worth taking lawyer?  Its been already almost 3 years since i filled, RFE > interview canceled > interview > interview 2 .... 
I am going literally nuts from wait, depression and anxiety it caused to me.. I feel a lot of you guys feel the pain..

My best advice to you would be to attend the interview with your wife, and bring as much evidence as you can with you - since the date of your marriage. Second interviews are almost always Stokes Interviews. They will likely expect you to regurgitate details and dates. 

 

I would make sure to draft a detailed timeline of your entire relationship. You should both be very familiar with it. You would be surprised how differently two people can recall the same events or dates. 

 

Focus on the money trail. Joint finances. I would even include a Health Care Directive and/or Power of attorney. 

 

All the best,

 

USC4SPOUSE

[RamonGomez 271]

Definitely take a good lawyer with you to the interview. I would've taken one to the first interview, but I tend to lean on the side of being safe rather than sorry if USCIS tries to pull a fast one - it's your word vs. theirs unless you have a lawyer present taking notes.

[StuTor 51]

Do you remember what happened at your first interview? I know you said it was quick, but any details might help. 

[retheem 564]

22 hours ago, Statebriga said:

Had interview last year in Oct, very short 5 min pointless interview filling jointly, went with my wife.
Now got interview scheduled again next month. I am pretty sure it will be stokes interview..
Do you guys have any advices? we been really living for 6 years already together. I get really nervous at interview, and freeze, i am about to start taking ADHD meds so hopefully that helps, as i am gonna most likely get prescribed by my psychiatrist...  
I am kinda worried that my wife is out of state now for 2 months, almost 2 and a half.. Her sister got 3 kids, newborns are twins, so she needed help? Will that look bad? Other than that only times we lived apart is when i went to my home country 3 times, in 2016 and 2017 (my father had cancer) after he passed away i didnt go back and spent every day with my wife besides these 4 times..
is it worth taking lawyer?  Its been already almost 3 years since i filled, RFE > interview canceled > interview > interview 2 .... 
I am going literally nuts from wait, depression and anxiety it caused to me.. I feel a lot of you guys feel the pain..

Prepare for it like you would be preparing for your SAT or GRE exam. 

[wagner17 24]

You don't need to get every question.  People told us that it would be natural for a real couple to get some questions wrong and it might look too rehearsed if your answers match exactly.  Of course, my wife was horrified when she realized after the interview she got some of the answers wrong and didn't feel good until she was approved a month later.

 

We got asked some specific question like "What color is the laundry basket for dirty clothes?"

Also we presented credit card statements as evidence and they asked my wife about stuff in the credit card statement.

[Sukie 1,460]

Also - be SURE to know about your spouse's family, and make sure your spouse knows about yours.  Also employment history. 

 

Sukie in NY