Ugh!

[Melyssa 0]

Is there anyone at all going through the visa process who doesn't get accused by someone that they are just marrying for American citizenship? Never thought it would happen to me... but it hurt a lot when I heard that someone said that! I wouldn't be planning on moving to the U.S. if it wasn't for my fiancé's job, which he loves and I don't want him to have to give up if it's not necessary... I love my family and Canada and he does too!

[Emancipation 2]

Was it someone you know well?? I don't think I was ever accused of that by someone who wasn't joking Most of my friends & family know me back home and would KNOW that's not what I'm after. I wondered if the person who said that was just someone you are an aquaintence with.. in which case- put them on IGNORE!

[TennCAN 1]

Is there anyone at all going through the visa process who doesn't get accused by someone that they are just marrying for American citizenship? Never thought it would happen to me... but it hurt a lot when I heard that someone said that! I wouldn't be planning on moving to the U.S. if it wasn't for my fiancé's job, which he loves and I don't want him to have to give up if it's not necessary... I love my family and Canada and he does too!

When deciding who is going to relocate both have to weigh out what the best decisions are based on jobs and family. If someone is looking to use the process to leave their home Country with that motivation than the relationship is built on sand. In the end what really matters is being together for all the right reasons. A person that makes a comment like that isn't worth the time to respond if they really know you both and your relationship.

Dale

Tennessee bound from PEI

[Allie 5]

Others can think or say what they want and yeah sometimes it hits home and is hurtful. You know why you're making the move and that's all that matters. If they had a brain at all they would realize you're already leaving one great Country which has everything you need and going to another which also is great and has everything too including your fiance

TennCan is right, everything is weighed out on making the decision of relocating and in the end both you and your fiance know the decision is the right one

Those accusations are as worthless as those who make em don't worry about them.

[ramos96 1]

Wow, sorry to hear someone was that insensitive to you.

Sincerely,

Ramos

[Chica Yeyé 41]

My dearest Melyssa,

People say what people say. Let them choke. It's your decision, not theirs. Quick tip: always think that what other people think of me is really non of my business. If I (or you in this case) are so important to occupy their thoughts, feel flattered and don't give much importance to it. People like that need to get a life or be at least knowledgeable of all the sh!t we have to go through to get to the US.

Hugs to you, L.

[Melyssa 0]

Was it someone you know well?? I don't think I was ever accused of that by someone who wasn't joking Most of my friends & family know me back home and would KNOW that's not what I'm after. I wondered if the person who said that was just someone you are an aquaintence with.. in which case- put them on IGNORE!

It's a really long story... not really something I want to get into on a public forum. But everyone who really knows me well knows that there's no way either of us would want to commit immigration fraud, and that we want to do everything according to the law (and most importantly God's law, which demands that we do things according to the law as long as they are not sinful)... that's why we're in this crazy process in the first place. Sigh! I guess it's just hard to have to go through this process in the first place and then have to face other foundationless accusations in addition to it...but I know that what this person said holds no weight simply because it is just not true. I guess I was just venting.

Edited July 3, 2007 by Melyssa

[Melyssa 0]

When deciding who is going to relocate both have to weigh out what the best decisions are based on jobs and family. If someone is looking to use the process to leave their home Country with that motivation than the relationship is built on sand. In the end what really matters is being together for all the right reasons.

I totally agree!

[Melyssa 0]

Others can think or say what they want and yeah sometimes it hits home and is hurtful. You know why you're making the move and that's all that matters. If they had a brain at all they would realize you're already leaving one great Country which has everything you need and going to another which also is great and has everything too including your fiance

TennCan is right, everything is weighed out on making the decision of relocating and in the end both you and your fiance know the decision is the right one

Those accusations are as worthless as those who make em don't worry about them.

Yes, Canada is a great country and we both know I am giving up a whole lot by moving to the U.S.! He is too since he really loves my family and we won't be able to visit as easily at first (having to wait for AP, etc.)!

[~Nini~ 2]

That sucks to hear. Through the process you unfortunately get to hear a lot of insensitive remarks made by people that are quite frankly blowing out of their butts, and this is to be taken on the sheer amount of stress and suffering that this process puts us through. I know I have heard a lot of comments (both good and bad) and the most important thing is that you know what's best for you. After all, who are you going to be living with 20 years down the road?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

It's a really long story... not really something I want to get into on a public forum. But everyone who really knows me well knows that there's no way either of us would want to commit immigration fraud, and that we want to do everything according to the law (and most importantly God's law, which demands that we do things according to the law as long as they are not sinful)... that's why we're in this crazy process in the first place. Sigh! I guess it's just hard to have to go through this process in the first place and then have to face other foundationless accusations in addition to it...but I know that what this person said holds no weight simply because it is just not true. I guess I was just venting.

VENT AWAY!!! That's what we're here for. We know you and we know of your journey, and we're here for you.

As for those giving you a hard time you can tell them that I said :ranting: :ranting:

Peace, L.

[Mephys 2]

I got out of school 4 years ago. When I met my husband I had just got done with putting my life on track. Means I had a good job for 4 years, new car for 3 years, I had just got done with having an appartment of my own with all MY stuff in it, all new, etc, etc. I worked hard for all that stuff. But hell, had to give/sell everything, go back to my mom's for a while, get rid of my car that I thought would last me 10 years and quit my job where all my friends were working and where I had just started to have a really good salary. Its not easy to start all over again from scratch when you are just finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I had to put a lot of projects aside too, specially one that I've had in my heart since I was a kid and I was getting close to it, own my horse and take riding lessons.

And since I can have a bad temper everyone knew to STFU!!! I had absolutely NO reasons to want to move to the USA, other than for my husband to stay with his kids. Career speaking We both had job jobs but we could both make the move, Canada or US wise. But I did it for the kids. Nothing can replace that and I would never take a father away from his kids. So everyone on my side understood that nothing would change my mind to be with the love of my life. And no one in his family ever dared to say shuch a thing because they understood how much I loved him and when they saw us together they all agreed that they had never seen him so happy since his teenage years ( long story but they all hated his ex). Instead they all told us just to get married right away and be done because they thought I would get citizenship right away (a classic).

That said i will never ever get why poeple would say that about Canadians immigrating to the US. Its not to blame other countries, but Canada is developped, there is good job opportunities, good life, etc, for most of us. I hear the GC reason more often about brides from India or Russia on VJ because it is a fact that its not easy to live in those countries. But why even bother saying that about Canadians....

My only Amreican dream is my husband. period. And no I would not dare to post this in other forums than Canada.

[Emancipation 2]

I got out of school 4 years ago. When I met my husband I had just got done with putting my life on track. Means I had a good job for 4 years, new car for 3 years, I had just got done with having an appartment of my own with all MY stuff in it, all new, etc, etc. I worked hard for all that stuff. But hell, had to give/sell everything, go back to my mom's for a while, get rid of my car that I thought would last me 10 years and quit my job where all my friends were working and where I had just started to have a really good salary. Its not easy to start all over again from scratch when you are just finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I had to put a lot of projects aside too, specially one that I've had in my heart since I was a kid and I was getting close to it, own my horse and take riding lessons.

And since I can have a bad temper everyone knew to STFU!!! I had absolutely NO reasons to want to move to the USA, other than for my husband to stay with his kids. Career speaking We both had job jobs but we could both make the move, Canada or US wise. But I did it for the kids. Nothing can replace that and I would never take a father away from his kids. So everyone on my side understood that nothing would change my mind to be with the love of my life. And no one in his family ever dared to say shuch a thing because they understood how much I loved him and when they saw us together they all agreed that they had never seen him so happy since his teenage years ( long story but they all hated his ex). Instead they all told us just to get married right away and be done because they thought I would get citizenship right away (a classic).

That said i will never ever get why poeple would say that about Canadians immigrating to the US. Its not to blame other countries, but Canada is developped, there is good job opportunities, good life, etc, for most of us. I hear the GC reason more often about brides from India or Russia on VJ because it is a fact that its not easy to live in those countries. But why even bother saying that about Canadians....

My only Amreican dream is my husband. period. And no I would not dare to post this in other forums than Canada.

GREAT POST!

Totally feeling it this week... all the above.. I had such a wonderful job - was "on top" of my game, was making great money etc. I do have a great job now money wise, but i feel so DUMB at it.. the "normal" that I am used to in Canada is so different here, the basic "ways' of doing business seem very very different now. I dunno I'm just really discouraged professionally this week, and feeling very "dumb" at work. I didn't do this move for any other reason but the love of my husband.

[lynamon 0]

A guy at my fiance's workplace made a comment like that ... he just totally laughed in his face. Canada has everything the US has and much much more (free health care for one really big one!!). The only way that a comment would come out of someones mouth is out of pure ignorance. Just take if from where it comes from

[Ron/Sharon 0]

Melyssa, just one thing to say to those people when they make their comments, "Take to my as$, my head hurts" they don't deserve any better.

Edited July 3, 2007 by Ron/Sharon