Is my online Moroccan boyfriend lying to me? (merged)

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

he has said he wants to marry u since meeting in January???

and he wants you to have children by him?? 

and he has no education so how is this man going to support you after kids are born ?

 

La (that is the word for No in Arabic)  learn it 

[SalishSea 18,062]

5 hours ago, Annonymus said:

He just got a passport the moment I agree with meeting each other but he doesn’t have a visa for usa so we agreed to meet in a different country instead of Morocco. and has been trying to meet with me. But I keep changing the plans due to Covid. He is actively trying to meet me... applying for a different visa to a different country so we can meet and see if we are a good match to each other. this time I thought it would be easier if I take a mini vacation. 

You just may be his ticket out of a bad financial situation.  The red flag alarms going off in your mind are there for a reason.

[beasty 8]

i wouldn't trust it 1min..

 

 

but then again, he could be a nice person ..

he could be a stand up guy..

 

but he isn't realistic for sure, coming up with all those marriage talking..

 

Different country's , different mentality's..

 

 

 

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

Understand this:

If you were a Moroccan divorced woman,  he would not even consider a relationship with u at all

Divorced and widowed women are doomed to be just that in his country

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

Looks like u ,  yourself from Tuvalu came here on a visa for marriage/  how did that work out?

[SalishSea 18,062]

1 hour ago, neca said:

Adding another vote to the "ask if he'd be cool with you moving there" scenario.

 

Love means love regardless of geography, and should reflect as much.

THIS.  There are SO many VJ marriages that would not be happening if the US immigrant visa component were removed from the scenario.

[beasty 8]

32 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

Looks like u ,  yourself from Tuvalu came here on a visa for marriage/  how did that work out?

o_O maybe her parents came when she was a baby ? 

[Nat&Amy 623]

This is a disaster waiting to happen. OP, the big question you have to ask yourself is: would this guy be this nice if the possibility of getting a green card was off the table? You don't seem to be aware of the lengths people are willing to go to move to the United States. Here on VJ we see bitter spouses complaining they were used for a green card EVERY DAY. Many of us here have already advised you to tell him you want to move to Morocco to see how he will react to it. If he really wants you, he will want you in Morocco or in any other place. This is the only thing that matters at this point.

[Mary Lou 681]

1 hour ago, Annonymus said:

The picture was of him with his father. Is it still meaningless? What could I ask for? Advicesss please .... I always think or the fact that I’m older than him. Not sure.. at first he said he wants to enjoy with me for a year before having kids, then he said 5 years. And then he always tells me he wants me to have his children. 

You haven't even met this person and he's planning a family with you??? He isn't thinking you will meet as friends. The more you reveal, the more red flags appear. You admit you are vunerable because of your divorce, and he is taking advantage of the fact. Your age that you are a little older means nothing at the moment. 

You've been given lots of good advice, it's up to you to take it or not. 

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

17 minutes ago, beasty said:

o_O maybe her parents came when she was a baby ? 

then she would consider herself as an american and post the US flag

[SalishSea 18,062]

3 minutes ago, Saifur Rahman Kha said:

Better you could recommend someone who really looking for a dedicated soul! He is such a cool and trustworthy, understoold talked with him. 
And better if you believe that he is honest, you should invite him. No need to go there. But talked with his parents. if you thought its legit, you may go.

 

 

YIKES.

[Lady A 51]

1 hour ago, Annonymus said:

Yes. He always uses to tell me he wants my divorce to finalize completely before he meets me. Which is why we are not meeting until June. Then he always say... I want you as a wife and ask me if I want to meet his family. So I ask, how can you marry a stranger? You can’t love through the internet? It’s impossible! He said, I don’t know why or how but i feel that I could marry you. I just like the fact that you care for me. Still, we agreed in no marriage until we meet. He has agreed too, we will meet and see how things work, and That we will not marry if we don’t get along or don’t like each other. I ask him today to show me more about himself. He showed me picture or his father and brother. Is that a good sign? He also said he will call me more often to make me feel more comfortable with him. Most of the times we text and talk over the phone only sometimes. And only one time video call.

Sis this gets worse by the second. Only one time video call? I truly fear for you. Please run. This is all happening too quick. You have everything to lose here. 

[Annonymus 6]

1 hour ago, Lady A said:

All the red flags flying high! She shouldn’t do it to avoid heartache. But it’s up to her to protect herself. This story already sounds like a disaster waiting to happen 

Yes. I thank everyone for your advices. 

[JeanneAdil 6,606]

1 minute ago, Annonymus said:

Yes. I thank everyone for your advices. 

glad you are still here and read them

and some of us married to a Moroccan are very happy

best to u

[.yana 598]

32 minutes ago, Saifur Rahman Kha said:

Better you could recommend someone who really looking for a dedicated soul! He is such a cool and trustworthy, understoold talked with him. 
And better if you believe that he is honest, you should invite him. No need to go there. But talked with his parents. if you thought its legit, you may go.

 

 

Looks like OP's "boyfriend" found his way on this site.