How did your spouse make you feel welcomed when you arrived?

[kaylahm23 16]

Hey all,

I was looking for some ideas about the best way to make my hubby feel welcomed when he arrives in the states! What were somethings you did or your partner did that made you feel welcomed? Did you give gifts? Did you clean out a dresser? Did they make sure the house was clean? What was something that made your transition easier and also made you feel loved?  I think it'd be nice to have a positive topic with some cool arrival stories. 

[mbssss 108]

I know you sort of mentioned this in your post but maybe making some room for his clothes, toothbrush in the bathroom and just making sure that he has room for all his things in general would be a good idea. I know that would make me feel welcomed and appreciated!

 

 

[rlogan 2,036]

This is a man.   Feed him and have sex every day.  

 

Apparently my wife and I are still off the charts 13 years after marrying.  We can't figure out what's wrong with people.   Use it or lose it, lol!

[kaylahm23 16]

17 minutes ago, mbssss said:

I know you sort of mentioned this in your post but maybe making some room for his clothes, toothbrush in the bathroom and just making sure that he has room for all his things in general would be a good idea. I know that would make me feel welcomed and appreciated!

 

 

Thanks! I have an obscene amount of clothes. I tried cleaning out a drawer, but it's still full. Lmao. I can keep trying! Do you think a welcome banner or gift would help too? 

[kaylahm23 16]

1 minute ago, rlogan said:

This is a man.   Feed him and have sex every day.  

 

Apparently my wife and I are still off the charts 13 years after marrying.  We can't figure out what's wrong with people.   Use it or lose it, lol!

Lol we haven't  seen each other in person since two years ago so obviously that's gonna happen at ton! 😂 I got that part sorted! I just wanted see of anyone did anything special. He is a man but men need love and surprises too!

[mbssss 108]

9 minutes ago, kaylahm23 said:

Thanks! I have an obscene amount of clothes. I tried cleaning out a drawer, but it's still full. Lmao. I can keep trying! Do you think a welcome banner or gift would help too? 

Welcome banner would be nice! You know him best obviously so go with your gut feeling but I love that stuff personally!

 

Good luck and congrats on your husband coming soon!!! 

 

[Lady A 51]

19 minutes ago, rlogan said:

This is a man.   Feed him and have sex every day.  

 

Apparently my wife and I are still off the charts 13 years after marrying.  We can't figure out what's wrong with people.   Use it or lose it, lol!

This is hilarious! 🤣

[KULtoATL 1,551]

My husband, then fiance, picked me up from the airport after work at night, welcomed me into our home with a banner hanging in the living room and cooked us dinner. After dinner, we drove to Walgreens to get me some toiletries (I'm picky so he knows not to buy anything beforehand). He gave me half the closet space but I didn't unpack till days later because we pretty much got busy trying to get me/us set up (i.e. getting my SSN, a joint checking account and our marriage license) the day after my arrival. 

 

Honestly, main thing is to make space and get the important stuff done sooner rather. You can worry about the rest later. All the best

[kaylahm23 16]

4 minutes ago, KULtoATL said:

My husband, then fiance, picked me up from the airport after work at night, welcomed me into our home with a banner hanging in the living room and cooked us dinner. After dinner, we drove to Walgreens to get me some toiletries (I'm picky so he knows not to buy anything beforehand). He gave me half the closet space but I didn't unpack till days later because we pretty much got busy trying to get me/us set up (i.e. getting my SSN, a joint checking account and our marriage license) the day after my arrival. 

 

Honestly, main thing is to make space and get the important stuff done sooner rather. You can worry about the rest later. All the best

Thank you for sharing! And that seemed like a good transition! I feel like the first day he will be exhausted so maybe we can plan more for later. 

[KULtoATL 1,551]

8 hours ago, kaylahm23 said:

Thank you for sharing! And that seemed like a good transition! I feel like the first day he will be exhausted so maybe we can plan more for later. 

 

I'm not sure where he's flying from but you are right, he will probably be exhausted. I know I was

[carmel34 3,633]

In our case, I bought a new house, furnished it tastefully, printed and framed favorite photos of us together and hung them in our bedroom, cleaned and organized the house, made space for his clothing and other stuff, filled the refrigerator and freezer with food and drinks he likes, that sort of thing.  The first few weeks and months are a big adjustment for the arriving spouse, so preparation helps.  I travelled with him to the USA so did not do a welcome sign or things like that, but if you are waiting at an airport it would be a nice touch, maybe flowers too.  Good luck!

Edited April 5, 2021 by carmel34

[Skyman 323]

Banner at home is good, some airport welcome sign is also a nice touch, and it's not wrong to give the guy some flowers unless you know him and it wouldn't be a bad idea.  It's a long travel time for him so I wouldn't want to follow that with a long drive home so if it is kind of long consider a night in a hotel near the airport.

 

After a long trip I want 1, 2, or all 3 of these.  Sleep, food, or you know.  If those 3 are covered he knows you care about him.  In case he's hungry, have food in the car or a good restaurant arranged near the airport.  If you're going straight home then besides something in the car, have something ready at home that doesn't take long to prepare but realize it may end up being lunch the next day.  Don't be insulted if he just wants to shower and pass out.  I would avoid welcome parties and meeting people for a couple days unless he feels ready. Family and friends should be understanding of jet lag, even if he may not.  I would also avoid bringing up any serious conversations for a couple days unless he wants to talk about them.  Unless they are really pressing.  Most stuff like immigration, driver's licensing, etc. can wait. 

 

Definitely he'll need some closet space and drawers.  If you can't clear him drawers, consider another chest.  There's a lot of free or cheap stuff on fb Marketplace, or at Goodwill if cost is a problem.

[Adventine 3,196]

What a great idea for a forum topic!

 

Here are some things my spouse does to make me feel more at home:

 

- cooks my favorite local dishes (he learned the recipes when we lived in my native country)

- takes me to the international market so I can stock up on my favorite comfort food

- asked me to teach him one word a day in my native language. He actually does use what he's learned when he talks to me!

- he's not religious but he looked up local churches that immigrants from my country usually go to, so I can meet other expats from my country

 

[Marieke H 2,512]

My husband made a serious effort to clean the house before I arrived, he emptied part of the closet for me, and brought flowers when he picked me up from the airport. During my first few weeks here, we spent a lot of time driving around town, he showed me some of the "tourist attractions", but also pointed out any shops, restaurants, yoga studios, cafes, etc, that he thought I might be interested in. We bought a bike for me so I could get around town independently without a driver's license while he was at work.

[retheem 566]

15 hours ago, rlogan said:

This is a man.   Feed him and have sex every day.  

 

Apparently my wife and I are still off the charts 13 years after marrying.  We can't figure out what's wrong with people.   Use it or lose it, lol!

And all the men say Aaameeen😂😂😂