Question regarding sending money to spouse

[In Gods Hands 0]

Salaam

Maybe this was already addressed but I can't find it...

If money is sent to spouse "beneficiary or petitioner" "male or female".. should receipts also be brought to interview? I read somewhere that beneficiary (female) brought in receipts of money sent to her by husband. This seemed to please interviewer.. along with other documents presented. I forgot what exactly was said.. but it was positive. Do you think this is "positive and good evidence" only when finances are being sent to beneficiary.. or "female" beneficiary.. or it doesn't matter whether it's beneficiary/petitioner/male or female???

Just wondering... B)

Edited July 1, 2007 by AhmadGwen4evr

[Mononoke28 135]

I send money to my husband in Colombia on a monthly basis and I plan on taking the receipts to the interview just in case they do any good. We'll see what happens.

Does anybody have any opinions on this issue?

[Yodrak 7]

AhmadGwen4evr,

A possible double-edge sword. What is the purpose of sending the money? What is the money being used for? The visa applicant was getting along before the petitioner came into their life, why do they now need or want money from the petitioner?

Yodrak

Salaam

Maybe this was already addressed but I can't find it...

If money is sent to spouse "beneficiary or petitioner" "male or female".. should receipts also be brought to interview? I read somewhere that beneficiary (female) brought in receipts of money sent to her by husband. This seemed to please interviewer.. along with other documents presented. I forgot what exactly was said.. but it was positive. Do you think this is "positive and good evidence" only when finances are being sent to beneficiary.. or "female" beneficiary.. or it doesn't matter whether it's beneficiary/petitioner/male or female???

Just wondering...

[edp333 9]

AhmadGwen4evr,

A possible double-edge sword. What is the purpose of sending the money? What is the money being used for? The visa applicant was getting along before the petitioner came into their life, why do they now need or want money from the petitioner?

Yodrak

Personally, I use the comment line to write in things like: for passport, living expenses, medical, etc.

[rika60607 215]

I think I've read somewhere that GC fraud may be suspected if "money changed hands" ..

Now, money changes hands between husband and wife all the time, no?

I would be careful if it was beneficiary sending money to the USC.

This could be considered suspicious

Rika

AhmadGwen4evr,

A possible double-edge sword. What is the purpose of sending the money? What is the money being used for? The visa applicant was getting along before the petitioner came into their life, why do they now need or want money from the petitioner?

Yodrak

Personally, I use the comment line to write in things like: for passport, living expenses, medical, etc.

[Mononoke28 135]

I agree, it's one thing for the beneficiary to send money to the petitioner since that could be seen as a form of payment. But i don't see anything wrong seeing it from the petitioner to the beneficiary.

[Mrs. Irish 0]

I think I've read somewhere that GC fraud may be suspected if "money changed hands" ..

Now, money changes hands between husband and wife all the time, no?

I would be careful if it was beneficiary sending money to the USC.

This could be considered suspicious

Rika

What if the petitioner has two kids with the beneficary and lived with them in their country for 2+ years and only moved home to start the immigration process? Do you think they would still consider it suspicious for them to be sending money then? Especially if it is some place where the currnecy exchange is more than the dollar?

[MargotDarko 0]

I think I've read somewhere that GC fraud may be suspected if "money changed hands" ..

Now, money changes hands between husband and wife all the time, no?

I would be careful if it was beneficiary sending money to the USC.

This could be considered suspicious

Rika

What if the petitioner has two kids with the beneficary and lived with them in their country for 2+ years and only moved home to start the immigration process? Do you think they would still consider it suspicious for them to be sending money then? Especially if it is some place where the currnecy exchange is more than the dollar?

No, that would not look suspicious. The concern would be for a less established couple that the beneficiary is paying off the petitioner for their help for a GC. In your case, it would be clear that wasn't what was happening.

[Mononoke28 135]

[In Gods Hands 0]

Hope I'm not going way off the topic..if I am..4give plz.

I just wanted to share a little of what is probably common among relationships between an american and 3rd world country individuals.

I am planning to help share the costs for everything that has to do with the visa process, keeping contact and travel. My husband is relluctant to accept the financial help I offer (and have sent), but we both know how different the pay wage is there (Jordan) compared to even the minimum wage here in Texas. It is so crazy and incredible to me how a man can work 10-16 hours a day and get paid average 6-8JD a day. Economy/Cost of living is not balanced definately. Poor stay poor.. or maybe can get their head a little above the water (maybe bobbing up and down). The life is simple.. never do I hear a complaint.. always Alhumdullah and Inshallah. Very rich in other things..but not in the costs involved in a long distance relationship and visa journey to be reunited with the love of your life. My husband shows so much effort, initiative, intention, and drive. He is a very good honorable man. When we first met (and fell head over hills in love)my thinking was a bit trained to think.. "Let the man be the gentleman.. he pays, he calls first, etc.." Well, my husband was and is still the most respectable, considerate, responsible, gentleman I have ever met... although not financially the richest. My thinking has expanded... especially when I look at the whole man, his heart, intentions, attitude, personality, background, beliefs, upbringing and living conditions. As for sharing our expenses.. I explain to my husband this.. I understand, agree and accept that he wants to and will take care of me and himself as my husband...but we are One.. we help each other all the way. What makes the difference is he is trying and I know his heart and mind frame. For now we are doing what we can together in this.. It just happens that I will need to at times carry a little more of the financial load at this time. One day in our future he will (the way he truly wants to). We walk this road together.. and thru thick and thin.. rich and poor.. sickness and good health. We are bestfriends, confidantes,lovers and husband and wife. We have no problem helping the other when in need..especially to reach a goal we both are striving for.

Soooo.. all of that.. just because I wanted to paint a picture of why some of us (female petitioners) are helping their (male) beneficiaries financially

I just wasnt too sure how it would be looked upon by interviewers. Not sure if they have the common point of view of many people that I've known here in America or is it different. Whats their basis?

[sakurasama 0]

Gwen,

My fiance lives in India. Years ago I gave him a credit card in his name with the bills going to me. Probably a lot of women do it but we don't talk about it!!!

Yodrak asked, "What is the purpose of sending the money? What is the money being used for? The visa applicant was getting along before the petitioner came into their life, why do they now need or want money from the petitioner?" and my answer is quality of life. Contributing to someone's financial support in a developing country costs next to nothing. It doesn't diminish my quality of life but it contributes greatly to his quality of life in India. And if you can't baby your baby, who can you baby?

[In Gods Hands 0]

Gwen,

My fiance lives in India. Years ago I gave him a credit card in his name with the bills going to me. Probably a lot of women do it but we don't talk about it!!!

Yodrak asked, "What is the purpose of sending the money? What is the money being used for? The visa applicant was getting along before the petitioner came into their life, why do they now need or want money from the petitioner?" and my answer is quality of life. Contributing to someone's financial support in a developing country costs next to nothing. It doesn't diminish my quality of life but it contributes greatly to his quality of life in India. And if you can't baby your baby, who can you baby?

WoW!!! You will be blessed in so many ways. Its having a strong foundation that matters the most... things you do now, make a big difference for your future. I wish you both the best in your future together and may your marriage prosper (beyond what you can ask or think)from all the good that both of you have sown into it. Alhumdullilah!!! Thanks to God!

for you

Edited July 4, 2007 by AhmadGwen4evr

[sakurasama 0]

Oh, and back to your original question, I did include a copy of the credit card in his name and the bills in my name in our paperwork to illustrate that we are financially intermingled because I thought it would help convince someone of the validity of our relationship as much as phone records and love letters.

[Yodrak 7]

AhmadGwen4evr,

What you write is quite reasonable. Consular officers know their post - if what you say is correct then your financial contributions for the expensive immigration related items will be expected.

Yodrak

Hope I'm not going way off the topic..if I am..4give plz.

I just wanted to share a little of what is probably common among relationships between an american and 3rd world country individuals.

I am planning to help share the costs for everything that has to do with the visa process, keeping contact and travel. My husband is relluctant to accept the financial help I offer (and have sent), but we both know how different the pay wage is there (Jordan) compared to even the minimum wage here in Texas. It is so crazy and incredible to me how a man can work 10-16 hours a day and get paid average 6-8JD a day. Economy/Cost of living is not balanced definately. Poor stay poor.. or maybe can get their head a little above the water (maybe bobbing up and down). The life is simple.. never do I hear a complaint.. always Alhumdullah and Inshallah. Very rich in other things..but not in the costs involved in a long distance relationship and visa journey to be reunited with the love of your life. .....

[Captain Oates 911]

The secret of a good marriage - 'keep your mouth shut and your wallet open ' - groucho marx