What happens if my fiancé becomes pregnant during the K-1 Visa process?

[mushroomspore 3,043]

4 minutes ago, Frebeni said:

I know ... I’m 25 with 0 debt other than my mortgage . By any means , I’m not rich . I don’t even make a lot of money . I do have a healthy savings account . I just want her because she seems to be a humble girl , not about luxuries . I mean I’m going to try , I don’t know if it’s going to work out . I do hope So 

All the more reason to slow down. The immigration process is an investment. Blindly going through with this process will result in wasted time, money and emotions. It is a matter of wisdom to meet your international significant other BEFORE making the decision to bring them into a whole new country where they know nobody (except you) and have no support system. That alone is extremely stressful and a major risk and gamble. It's good that you're doing research, but the fact you have never even met your girlfriend in person yet means you are not going into this with your eyes wide open. 

[carmel34 3,585]

5 hours ago, Frebeni said:

She lives in venezuela ... minimum wage is like 2 dollars a month . She wants to get out of it

This comment is what has prompted many to give the "slow down" advice, which I echo.  She wants "out" of Venezuela, we understand why, it is a mess there.  So spending more time to truly get to know her and her real motivation for wanting a serious relationship with you would prevent potential problems down the road if her desire for a relationship with you is to get out of her country.  We see many relationships based on that premise fall apart once the beneficiary arrives in the US and the stress of life happens.  So be very careful and take things slow.  How does she react when you ask if she would be okay with making a life together in Venezuela or another South American country?  Taking your time and making multiple visits to be together in person will help both of you find out if the virtual relationship has the potential to be a real one, and will avoid lots of heartache and pain in the future.  Not to mention that traveling right now is going to be difficult, especially to Venezuela or anywhere really, with the pandemic and restrictions.  Good luck!

[Chocobo 196]

I don't think you're going to listen to anything any of us say about love being blind, slow down, etc., so I'll just put this here, do with it what you will - pregnancy SUCKS.  And, having gone through it w/my last one while my husband was still living in Canada, it sucked.  If you really want to have a family, think really long and hard how you feel about missing the doctor appts, the ultrasounds, feeling the baby kick, being there for the birth, etc.  How will she feel about going thru the morning sickness alone (whoever says it is just like the flu underestimated it by like a million), the fatigue (again, no other fatigue compares to it, even AFTER baby is born and is waking you up all night), not having you there to share all the fun/weird/interesting stuff like cravings, baby movements, etc.  You'll never get that time back.  

[Marieke H 2,417]

1 hour ago, Frebeni said:

I’m planing To see her for atleast a week

So you will spend a week with her, and you believe that is enough to really get to know each other, to decide if you want to get married, to propose to her, to get all documents you need from her to file the petition, and then also make a baby?

Seriously, dude. I repeat, slow down.

[Frebeni 5]

14 minutes ago, Marieke H said:

So you will spend a week with her, and you believe that is enough to really get to know each other, to decide if you want to get married, to propose to her, to get all documents you need from her to file the petition, and then also make a baby?

Seriously, dude. I repeat, slow down.

I know .. I understand everybody’s point . It is not a guarantee that it would work out . anyways , I’m going to keep everyone updated . 

[eggybreadb78 57]

You CANNOT know someone truly, and well enough to marry them in one week and through FaceTime. That just doesn't happen. As most people have said, it's clear you're not going to listen but I'm gonna second everyone's comments on SLOW DOWN! There is no rush, if she's the right one, she'll still be there after a couple more meetings. A relationship and immigration petition needs to be for more of a reason than she wants to get out. Don't find yourself being used as a ticket out of somewhere she doesn't want to be. Again, get to know this person properly. You are clearly incredibly naive to this process (and perhaps in this 'relationship'), which is okay, no one is all-knowing, but take the time to educate yourself. Highly suggest you don't petition or try for a baby with this person for a while. Again, take your time! I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.

[neca 166]

51 minutes ago, Chocobo said:

I don't think you're going to listen to anything any of us say about love being blind, slow down, etc., so I'll just put this here, do with it what you will - pregnancy SUCKS.  And, having gone through it w/my last one while my husband was still living in Canada, it sucked.  If you really want to have a family, think really long and hard how you feel about missing the doctor appts, the ultrasounds, feeling the baby kick, being there for the birth, etc.  How will she feel about going thru the morning sickness alone (whoever says it is just like the flu underestimated it by like a million), the fatigue (again, no other fatigue compares to it, even AFTER baby is born and is waking you up all night), not having you there to share all the fun/weird/interesting stuff like cravings, baby movements, etc.  You'll never get that time back.  

Came here to say something like this.

 

I'll add too that on top of missing all of those milestones with someone carrying your child, you also will be choosing to miss out on the experience of living alone, just you and her. Children can be wonderful, but they're also a lot of work, and who you are as a single person is not who you're going to be as a parent. I understand wanting to have kids; I'm the same way, really chomping at the bit, but being able to get used to being physically present with my spouse just the two of us is a time that I am going to cherish for the rest of my life.

 

More cud to chew 😄

[Chocobo 196]

2 minutes ago, neca said:

Came here to say something like this.

 

I'll add too that on top of missing all of those milestones with someone carrying your child, you also will be choosing to miss out on the experience of living alone, just you and her. Children can be wonderful, but they're also a lot of work, and who you are as a single person is not who you're going to be as a parent. I understand wanting to have kids; I'm the same way, really chomping at the bit, but being able to get used to being physically present with my spouse just the two of us is a time that I am going to cherish for the rest of my life.

 

More cud to chew 😄

^^ So much this!!!  Children are WONDERFUL and a blessing, and you will NEVER have the same life again after they are born.  It is good to spend time living on your own before you get married, so that you can grow as a person, etc.  It is good to spend time living with only you and your spouse so that you two can grow together, get used to each other, your mannerisms, quirks, etc.  Enjoy the time of just the two of you to dote on each other, be in love, spoil each other with attention, etc.  

 

 

[NandV 87]

How about you get pregnant when she is at the medical stage. It will match up your timeline perfectly and you will have a much better idea if you want to be together. Currently, you seem a bit naive on what is needed for the K1 and timelines for everything. In the meantime, I recommend getting a pet. It is not reasonable to get her pregnant and have her raise the child on her own while waiting for the paperwork. Does she have family? How do they feel about that

[JeanneAdil 6,402]

you need to understand that spending just a week and applying for a person in a country that immigration considers High Fraud will probably get a denied K1 visa

USCIS (immigration) expects to see 2 people have spent quality time together which can mean several visits or 1 or 2 long ones

i spent the month of june with my fiancee and his family and still K1 was denied and i returned to marry

and the following site shows both the countries you have to deal with are high fraud / not that she is but immigration has seen many cases that constitute the country as being listed  in that category

 

if you want a family,  meet,  discuss with her family as you need their approval  ,  come back to the US and return at a later date to marry. you stand a better chance at a spousal visa 

and for God's sake don't think you going to visit with her and her family and they will allow you to sleep with her as that shows us you have no idea of her culture's values

 

https://mypathtocitizenship.com/which-countries-are-on-the-uscis-high-fraud-list/

[payxibka 10,045]

1 minute ago, JeanneAdil said:

you need to understand that spending just a week and applying for a person in a country that immigration considers High Fraud will probably get a denied K1 visa

USCIS (immigration) expects to see 2 people have spent quality time together which can mean several visits or 1 or 2 long ones

i spent the month of june with my fiancee and his family and still K1 was denied and i returned to marry

and the following site shows both the countries you have to deal with are high fraud / not that she is but immigration has seen many cases that constitute the country as being listed  in that category

 

if you want a family,  meet,  discuss with her family as you need their approval  ,  come back to the US and return at a later date to marry. you stand a better chance at a spousal visa 

and for God's sake don't think you going to visit with her and her family and they will allow you to sleep with her as that shows us you have no idea of her culture's values

 

https://mypathtocitizenship.com/which-countries-are-on-the-uscis-high-fraud-list/

What is the significance of the "list" considering the uscis petition approval rate is quite high? 

 

Doesn't seem to have affected your or many others from being approved. 

[TBoneTX 44,868]

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[TBoneTX 44,868]

OP, you've gotten consistent and wise advice thus far.  Here's more, kindly meant, but in your face.

 

1.  I have incontrovertible personal knowledge that anyone in Venezuela who has any potential avenue to leave that country will say and do anything to take it.  Absolutely anything, including roping you in emotionally by intentionally not asking for money when the real payoff will be so very much bigger.

 

2.  Your plans and their timing will not get past a consular officer if the relationship makes it as far as the visa interview.  You lack "face time" (time together in person) to legitimatize this relationship.  Just picture a 221g or outright refusal of the visa when your girlfriend has a newborn infant that you're many miles from, or she's 99.44% pregnant and you're helpless to react because of the visa situation.  And what if it's twins?

 

3.  There are 3 phases to beginning a relationship:  e-mail, phone/video, and in-person.  The first two can go swimmingly well, but if the third features any hiccups or incompatibilities, alarm bells should ring.  Then, the analysis should begin.

     First, is this person genuinely available to you?  Geographically, situationally, emotionally?  You can't know this without spending considerable time together.

     Next, people are a mixture of positive & negative, or palatable & distasteful, qualities.  You can't expect to change negative or distasteful factors.  It's like a "blue plate special" in a restaurant:  if you want the roast beef, it comes with the peas -- no substitutions.  Does the person have a list of positive attributes as long as your arm, but one negative attribute that you can't compromise your standards or thoughts or emotions to accommodate... and never mention or worry about it again?  That person isn't right.  You can't possibly know this without spending considerable time together.

     Third, what reflection of yourself do you get from this person consequent to spending time with them?  (This is unrelated to how you feel about them or they about you.)  Do you feel like a million bucks, like two cents, somewhere between, or it varies from one to the other depending on situations and over time?  You can't possibly form an accurate judgment of this without spending considerable quality time in each other's presence.

 

Everyone here can acknowledge the excitement of finding a beautiful, apparently available young lady, but only fools rush in when the "life stakes" are this high.  Marry in haste, repent in leisure... and with a drained bank account, alimony, and child-support payments for years and years.

[JeanneAdil 6,402]

On 3/2/2021 at 10:43 PM, payxibka said:

What is the significance of the "list" considering the uscis petition approval rate is quite high? 

 

Doesn't seem to have affected your or many others from being approved. 

It did affect me

i applied for K1 and was denied

applied for CR1 and denied

appealed and after the court took a year to decide , they said marriage bona fide ,  reapply

that's a lot of fees and a lot of money to be able to pass the 2 year requirement 

in total % trips before visa spending 6 months there and over $35, 000 to prove things to immigration

i think that's a big affect

[payxibka 10,045]

18 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

It did affect me

i applied for K1 and was denied

applied for CR1 and denied

appealed and after the court took a year to decide , they said marriage bona fide ,  reapply

that's a lot of fees and a lot of money to be able to pass the 2 year requirement 

in total % trips before visa spending 6 months there and over $35, 000 to prove things to immigration

i think that's a big affect

No it didn't.  The USCIS approved your petitions, so I fail to understand how any kind of alleged USCIS "high fraud" list affected you. You seem to have forgotten it was the Department of State not the USCIS that denied the visa.