IR-1/CR-1 Montreal DQ'd private message group goes public CONTINUED

[Hawk Riders 814]

...everyone is having a personal (and often frustrating) process with immigration, but the government bureaucracies in question are not personal, do not take actions imbued with emotion, and follow policy directives. Have compassion for people in other visa categories as well as IR1/CR1 couples and try not to anthropomorphize agencies/consulates/departments as a whole.

We'll all get there, eventually.

[irisheyes123 66]

9 minutes ago, darth vader said:

I am losing hope for CR1/IR1 interview dates for June. They are clearly prioritizing adoption/parents/K1 now since those have been on hold for a while. Worse yet, there is more than a year worth of F category backlog. CR1/IR1 folks can see their timelines pushed a LOT further. We may have to wait a lot longer. Stupid administration would just re-prioritize categories and make us envy each other rather than just increasing their processing volume. Even simple instructions like relaxing "subjective" criteria during pandemic would be helpful. But no, I don't expect them to act like humans.

 

Sorry folks to break your optimism but prepare for a slowdown, I see it coming. They are coming after us now, because we were the only category that was allowed so far and now they must have their revenge.

This is so pessimistic. Fair enough, you do you, but try not to bring others down. I'm gonna play Obi-Wan and refuse to join the dark side. Sorry, Vader. 

[aurmorr 270]

16 minutes ago, irisheyes123 said:

This is so pessimistic. Fair enough, you do you, but try not to bring others down. I'm gonna play Obi-Wan and refuse to join the dark side. Sorry, Vader. 

That’s not really fair. Everyone handles life differently and I don’t have any intention of hiding the fact that I am actively processing feelings of grieving and loss right now. You don’t have to join the dark side, but I do think that you should respect what others are experiencing. 
I’m genuinely happy for you that you’re NOT experiencing these feelings of despair and abandonment, I’m glad this isn’t making you sick to your stomach so you can still eat and sleep normally. It’s just as damaging to be brazenly optimistic in hard times as it is to be pessimistic; you invalidate the experiences, feelings, and personal stories that everyone is navigating. 
i try not to be too dark on the forum because there are hopeful people, like you, who I don’t want to make feel the way I do, but I also find it very cathartic to see others feeling the same way I do. It makes me feel like I’m not frickin crazy and it helps me stay grounded. So like, if you see a sad post, maybe just skip it next time? That’s what I usually do with overly positive ones. I can’t relate and they make me feel worse. They’re not for me, and not every post is for everyone- so just skip the post like a track on Spotify. Even though I have disagreed with stuff @darth vader has posted on here, I feel the same way they do about letters maybe not coming out for us this month and it’s a sad sort relief to see they are on the same wave length- cathartic.

 

edit: this was made before the post they made directly below me and I don’t own kinship with that lol I’m just here to defend emotional honesty, vulnerability, and to try and be like hey sure some people could lighten up bht sometimes others need to dim down too

Edited May 18, 2021 by aurmorr

[darth vader 133]

3 minutes ago, Hawk Riders said:

...everyone is having a personal (and often frustrating) process with immigration, but the government bureaucracies in question are not personal, do not take actions imbued with emotion, and follow policy directives.

Sorry @Hawk Riders, but I am tired of this argument as if the "policy directives" were etched upon the DOS manuals by god. It is abundantly clear to ANYONE with a working brain that U.S. administration is showing no interest in expediting family reunification in these tough times. Worse yet, they are not even bothering to be transparent. The government bureaucracies don't operate in a vacuum, their directives come from the elected leaders and those directives are driven  by emotion (what is vote/mandate if not emotion of an electorate?). Case in point multiple "government bureaucracies" that did a 180 policy reversals when the new administration took over. U.S. stands out in the entire civilized western, developed worls where family reunification is so archaic and slow. If it were only due to legislation, one would at least understand. But, the truth is we suffer primarily due to policy paralysis and apathy from the executive branch who would trip over themselves to pass executive orders for other immigration matters, much likely to be challenged and struck down by courts. Truth is we simply are not on their radar. To them, we at least have a path to reunited with out spouses, who cares how long it takes, why are we crying like spoiled brats, just wait your turn.

 

11 minutes ago, Hawk Riders said:

Have compassion for people in other visa categories as well as IR1/CR1 couples and try not to anthropomorphize agencies/consulates/departments as a whole.

I absolutely have compassion for all other categories, hence what I want to see not a re-prioritization of the categories, but an overall increase in processing volumes. Which would address everyone's problems.

 

13 minutes ago, Hawk Riders said:

We'll all get there, eventually.

Cmon, we all know this. This is just below the belt. Would you like to volunteer to wait 10 years. You'll get there eventually (in 10 years) won't you? May be you can, but we all can't put our lives, careers on hold indefinitely. It is just getting ridiculously painful.

 

I respect you and your contribution to this forum a lot, but hope you can see that we are being treated cruelly by an unfair, non-transparent system.

[Tofu 343]

1 hour ago, Prairiegirl3 said:

So for future reference, the original lady trying to process my licence at the DMV was unequipped to handle a issuing a DL to someone who has not yet received their Green Card. Once she handed it off to a more experienced employee I was able to have it processed. Once everything was then completed, the original lady insisted that if I ever need to renew my license and don't yet have my actually green card in hand, I'll need my I-94. Thank you to those who contributed, informing that this is not something green card holders have. I tried to tell her that, but she insisted. But at least now I know, and hopefully this can be helpful to others in the future.

And no, I have not yet received my green card. 

Thanks @Prairiegirl3 & @Hawk Riders 1 & 2.  In NY state, it appears you need to exchange your license within 30 days of establishing residence so waiting for green card / booking an appointment would have been a tight! 

[mam521 2,062]

1 hour ago, Prairiegirl3 said:

So for future reference, the original lady trying to process my licence at the DMV was unequipped to handle a issuing a DL to someone who has not yet received their Green Card. Once she handed it off to a more experienced employee I was able to have it processed. Once everything was then completed, the original lady insisted that if I ever need to renew my license and don't yet have my actually green card in hand, I'll need my I-94. Thank you to those who contributed, informing that this is not something green card holders have. I tried to tell her that, but she insisted. But at least now I know, and hopefully this can be helpful to others in the future.

And no, I have not yet received my green card. 

Our greencards took 177 days.  Luckily, most of them have NOT been taking that long recently.  If it hits 90 days, you can inquire through MyUSCIS to find out where the GC is.  

 

As with so many things immigration related, many people are not prepared because they typically see "locals"!

[darth vader 133]

21 minutes ago, aurmorr said:

That’s not really fair. Everyone handles life differently and I don’t have any intention of hiding the fact that I am actively processing feelings of grieving and loss right now. You don’t have to join the dark side, but I do think that you should respect what others are experiencing. 
I’m genuinely happy for you that you’re NOT experiencing these feelings of despair and abandonment, I’m glad this isn’t making you sick to your stomach so you can still eat and sleep normally. It’s just as damaging to be brazenly optimistic in hard times as it is to be pessimistic; you invalidate the experiences, feelings, and personal stories that everyone is navigating. 
i try not to be too dark on the forum because there are hopeful people, like you, who I don’t want to make feel the way I do, but I also find it very cathartic to see others feeling the same way I do. It makes me feel like I’m not frickin crazy and it helps me stay grounded. So like, if you see a sad post, maybe just skip it next time? That’s what I usually do with overly positive ones. I can’t relate and they make me feel worse. They’re not for me, and not every post is for everyone- so just skip the post like a track on Spotify. Even though I have disagreed with stuff @darth vader has posted on here, I feel the same way they do about letters maybe not coming out for us this month and it’s a sad sort relief to see they are on the same wave length- cathartic.

 

edit: this was made before the post they made directly below me and I don’t own kinship with that lol I’m just here to defend emotional honesty, vulnerability, and to try and be like hey sure some people could lighten up bht sometimes others need to dim down too

Regarding your edit. As I said, I respect @Hawk Riders and their incredible hard work on this forum, a tonne. Nothing personal against them at all. If anything I thank him for his active participating on this forum. It has made this process easier for countless people. But just like you I am really bugged when people try to tell us to just wait our turn. We are doing just that. I was merely sharing my opinion on the timelines, which I agree was pessimistic. Folks can choose to not believe in that. Just like you I ignore some of the overtly positive posts. Some of us have hit a personal low. Seeing others react the same way is indeed cathartic. If you would talk to family, they have no clue how tough this process is. So if it weren't for folks like you on this forum also losing it. I would think I was the only one going  bonkers.

 

I'll end this on a positive note though. We will all get there. I just hope the lows are not as bad as the current one. Peace.

Edited May 18, 2021 by darth vader

[Purrikitty 50]

I think if I start telling myself there won't be letters this month it might help my nerves. That way, when they do send them, I can be pleasantly surprised instead of crushed every morning...

[darth vader 133]

3 minutes ago, Purrikitty said:

I think if I start telling myself there won't be letters this month it might help my nerves. That way, when they do send them, I can be pleasantly surprised instead of crushed every morning...

My approach is exactly the same!         

[Kai G. Llewellyn 837]

Just now, Purrikitty said:

I think if I start telling myself there won't be letters this month it might help my nerves. That way, when they do send them, I can be pleasantly surprised instead of crushed every morning...

Yeah, that's where I'm at right now. I've basically given up on getting an interview in June at this point. If it happens, great, if not then we'll just have to keep waiting. The fortunate thing is that those of us expecting IL's this month won't have to wait long once MTL decides to do its job again.

 

I'm just gonna bury myself in my hobbies and try and take my mind off this for now. I'm too frazzled to get beat up by it. I've called out sick from work today because I'm just so burnt out, pandemic, immigration and trying to keep up a face of normality at work is too much now. 

 

If you're struggling right now, take a day off sick from work if you can and give yourself some TLC, it'll help.

 

[aurmorr 270]

3 minutes ago, Kai (CanadaDude) said:

Yeah, that's where I'm at right now. I've basically given up on getting an interview in June at this point. If it happens, great, if not then we'll just have to keep waiting. The fortunate thing is that those of us expecting IL's this month won't have to wait long once MTL decides to do its job again.

 

I'm just gonna bury myself in my hobbies and try and take my mind off this for now. I'm too frazzled to get beat up by it. I've called out sick from work today because I'm just so burnt out, pandemic, immigration and trying to keep up a face of normality at work is too much now. 

 

If you're struggling right now, take a day off sick from work if you can and give yourself some TLC, it'll help.

 

 

9 minutes ago, Purrikitty said:

I think if I start telling myself there won't be letters this month it might help my nerves. That way, when they do send them, I can be pleasantly surprised instead of crushed every morning...

That’s where I’m at- I think yesterday really did me in and at this point, it really is easier to believe we are closer to June letters than May 😞💕. I hope you all have a way to take care of yourselves right now, I’m rooting for everyone with September DQ to get their letters ASAP.

[Azatra 4]

1 hour ago, Purrikitty said:

I think if I start telling myself there won't be letters this month it might help my nerves. That way, when they do send them, I can be pleasantly surprised instead of crushed every morning...

Today is extremely hard. The daily dejection is too much, everytime there is no IL email. Now reading IR5s got interviews for June? This is ridiculous!! All I can do at this point is cry. 

[irisheyes123 66]

My old embassy, Dublin, sent out their IL today at about 4pm Irish time. I left that embassy and got transferred to Montreal because they were the most unorganized crowd I've ever come across. October DQ's. UGH!

[Shumai84 157]

seems like there is no IL from London either today so far. 

[Riversong 420]

3 hours ago, Tswiftlover said:

i'm taking this as they are continuing to send out IL for June, including today and potentially this week so i think it's just a matter of time until ours come out!

I really hope so. I am at an all time low today, as I am sure many of us are.