California authorities rescue girl, 12, from pedophile who once ran for Congress

[laylalex 7,293]

3 minutes ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

This freaking guy again????? Yes, he is one of our own and quite a weird one at that. I have spoken to him and his wife at length. Quite frankly his former wife is pretty happy now that she is far away from him. Yes, she is still living in the USA after the divorce which is good to here

That is really, really good to know that she's safe and happy. I read some terrible things this evening about him, above and beyond this poor girl being kidnapped. Thank you for the update.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

5 minutes ago, laylalex said:

That is really, really good to know that she's safe and happy. I read some terrible things this evening about him, above and beyond this poor girl being kidnapped. Thank you for the update.

Yeah I really tried to understand him and figure him out. Then I was talking to his ex because he asked me to and she is good overall now. 

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

6 hours ago, Ban Hammer said:

i knew that name sounded familiar.

The collective memory of VJ is long, as you know. Some posts and stories are such outliers that they sear themselves into memory. This was one of them.

1 hour ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

Yeah I really tried to understand him and figure him out. Then I was talking to his ex because he asked me to and she is good overall now. 

I'm relieved to read this. There are some spouses or fiancés of particularly vile or clueless posters that you wonder about, since they rarely post the other side of the story. She was one of them. 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

On 12/19/2020 at 3:16 PM, Burnt Reynolds said:

Yeah. We want to avoid being helicopter parents.. god knows kids are already smothered in this age and prevented from actually experiencing life. But two months not to know who one's child is communicating with? 

I think being a helicopter parent offline is bad but there are too many dangers online for parents to not actually monitor online activity and have some kind of parental control program installed on all devices that their children can access, plus limiting their screen time. Humans haven't evolved to grow up in a digital world and they're not naturally adjusted to it. I'm all for giving kids freedom and autonomy to go out and play and explore, not for giving them unlimited access to porn or online predators. 

[Boiler 45,659]

Isn't this guy a member of the LGBQTI+ community?

[Burnt Reynolds 5,058]

1 hour ago, Orangesapples said:

I think being a helicopter parent offline is bad but there are too many dangers online for parents to not actually monitor online activity and have some kind of parental control program installed on all devices that their children can access, plus limiting their screen time. Humans haven't evolved to grow up in a digital world and they're not naturally adjusted to it. I'm all for giving kids freedom and autonomy to go out and play and explore, not for giving them unlimited access to porn or online predators. 

Well said. The smarts to navigate the digital landscape, to me, and understand this social environment is just as vital as the people-facing one because it has demonstrated to be as consequential. The worst thing we (wife and I), I think, as parents, could do to our children is to shun an environment they're likely to experience rather than teach. Doing so renders them ignorant of potential dangers and also makes them more susceptible to influences that likewise can put them in harms way if they don't know how to deal with it. It also robs them of an education surrounding platforms in general which is learned from exploring. So for us it's not about eliminating the digital platform entirely or locking it down to being virtually unusable, but educating about dangers and ensuring we and our kids are aware of the time they've spent on it, who they're spending time with, and so on. I say this because in talking to other parents regularly (I volunteer at the charter schools she attends) they don't seem to understand that you can be informed/aware but not lock everything down or hover.

 

47 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Isn't this guy a member of the LGBQTI+ community?

Dunno?

Edited December 21, 2020 by Burnt Reynolds

[Orangesapples 1,954]

4 minutes ago, Burnt Reynolds said:

Well said. The smarts to navigate the digital landscape, to me, and understand this social environment is just as vital as the people-facing one because it has demonstrated to be as consequential. The worst thing we (wife and I), I think, as parents, could do to our children is to shun an environment they're likely to experience rather than teach. Doing so renders them ignorant of potential dangers and also makes them more susceptible to influences that likewise can put them in harms way if they don't know how to deal with it. It also robs them of an education surrounding platforms in general which is learned from exploring. So for us it's not about eliminating the digital platform entirely or locking it down to being virtually unusable, but educating about dangers and ensuring we and our kids are aware of the time they've spent on it, who they're spending time with, and so on. I say this because in talking to other parents regularly (I volunteer at the charter schools she attends) they don't seem to understand that you can be informed/aware but not lock everything down or hover.

 

Dunno?

I think it's best to give access to kids to screens for a limited time during the day and have them on safe mode and with certain sites blocked. Also, having the ability to see what kind of sites they access and what kind of apps they use. And of course teach them about online safety. But kids spending too much time online is an issue. You don't want to snoop on their private conversations with their friends but you don't want to let them be groomed by predators or watch hard core porn. 

[Prizm123 1,086]

On 12/19/2020 at 10:10 PM, Cyberfx1024 said:

Yeah I really tried to understand him and figure him out.

there are people who are literally not worth the effort to understand or figure out. they are just garbage.

this guy being exhibit a. (the subject of the thread, not you) i wanted to clarify that in advance so there isnt a misunderstanding.

 

i am too old to waste my time with garbage people. thankfully my cow manure meter is well tuned and i can see it a mile away from certain people

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

5 hours ago, Prizm123 said:

there are people who are literally not worth the effort to understand or figure out. they are just garbage.

this guy being exhibit a. (the subject of the thread, not you) i wanted to clarify that in advance so there isnt a misunderstanding.

 

i am too old to waste my time with garbage people. thankfully my cow manure meter is well tuned and i can see it a mile away from certain people

Honestly I initially started talking to him because he was on some of the subs talking about Filipinas and how he was led to believe that "that all subservient to their husbands" only to find out that they are actual people with feelings as well. Not to mention it was like he needed someone to talk to because he couldn't find a job and was stuck at home. So he wanted to be the SAHH while his wife worked and thought nothing was wrong with that. Only to find out later that he wat bat shirt crazy