WHO PAYS FOR ALL THE PLANE TICKETS

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Im not even going to go there with is it possible for a woman to DECIDE to marry someone else that fast - Im saying, legally, religiously whatever, you can get married again that fast? Craziness!

The waiting period is three months, not a year, so I am well within that period of time. The reason for the law was to make sure the women is not pregnant when she remarries. I think when you said how can you get married again so fast, Craziness. What is a good time to wait? I married my first husband even faster and really that lasted 24 years. So not sure if time factor is of great importance. I could be wrong have been wrong many times, but I have some experience in long long term relationships, I think being with someone for 24 years is a long time, so I am not in to quickie relationships. I made a mistake, but I am human, did I make another mistake, only time will tell. I surely hope not, but I have learned that life sometimes does not turn out like you want it too. I know what it takes to have a long term marriage, and it is hard work so I am not blind either to the hardships. I have been there and done it, so I do have some knowledge. I am not saying I am an expert, but I think my track record speaks for itself. How many women here have been married for 24 years? Yes I am proud that I have that under my belt, it helps in knowing some of the things to expect. Does it assure me a great next marriage, NO, does it help, of course. Chaishai, you meant to say the craziness did not mean me, than yes I apologize, but it sure likes you were saying getting married so quickly a year, is crazy, and that is me.

I do not think its the marriage. Its the fact you are complaining about plane tickets from someone else when you are already with someone else.... Thats what I think opened the floor for debate.

I mean thats like me complaining about paying an ex s credit card from 2 years ago. Yes it sucks you got stuck with the bill, but you are getting them paid now so just stop whining LOL

( um my hormones are raging if I am a little blunt)

[ya falaha! 0]

Oh me too...love World Market! They have a TV stand and coffee table that I've been eyeing. Can't wait for that tax return!

I saw a nice, neutral, inexpensive area rug on the World Market website that I may go check out after work.

I World Market -- I bought my family room rug there. And they are having a furniture sale right now.... I bought a headboard there this week for half price

Nooooooo comment on husbands breaking things.....

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Oh me too...love World Market! They have a TV stand and coffee table that I've been eyeing. Can't wait for that tax return!

I saw a nice, neutral, inexpensive area rug on the World Market website that I may go check out after work.

I World Market -- I bought my family room rug there. And they are having a furniture sale right now.... I bought a headboard there this week for half price

Nooooooo comment on husbands breaking things.....

I like IKEA stuff cause I used to live in Sweden. I have a big beautiful danish slate table with teak chairs and another teak table but I just cannot afford the stuff right now

[I love Ashraf 0]

I did not know about world market until now window shopping and really liking it.

[one love 0]

I have something to say about this topic ..... Are you getting mad because you feel you are buying a husband .? are you feeling upset because you are supporting your love ?.... Ok !!!

I would like to say to those that the feel its already a scam... MOVE ON . Why are u still beeing with your love ? OR U cant , huh ? Let me just tell you something ... You have no respect for your love for your man .. because other wise you will not get amd at the whole situation from the begining and you still even seen how he will react once he will have a stabe work and a stable salary ... you are getting mad at a situation you put your self onto it .. and no one forced you to buy a ticket or send money .. SO i would like to say move on because your mariage will not lust .. Move on because it will be always a fight and always putting him down like he is a small ###### walking this earth .. You are buying a husband thats what you think .. . Oh dear that is a very bad way of thinking and u r already just in the begining ... I can tell ya why he dont wanna talk to you as much as before .. because he doesnt need a reminder each time of beeing a small insect needs help from you or beeing like a cat walking around your legs waiting to get food ...

I would like to mention That the right ... Supporting a husband that he doesnt have a job ... It's a sign of a good wife , caring and a loving one .... AMEN

Think about your husband as he is a part of you . Think about supporting him as you putting your mony on your saving account .. because no man will forget what his wife will do for him ... and let me tell you ... you Probably didt spend more than $ 10.000 , and if you gonna put your husband down because of that then i am sorry i wish i can know who is your husband so i can tell him find a way to get what you spent on him and give it back to you and then move on ... we might be from a poor countries .. but our pride is priceless .

[SaadBell 0]

Wow, I don't even know where to start with this, but I will give it a shot. First off, where was this man when my mother had to go to the hospital, did he call, did he write a message, NO. Where was he when I was -$100 in my checking account, did he even know about this, of course not, cause he never asks or even bothers to write to see how I am doing. Marriage is a two way street, and I do have some experience in marriage, I was married 24 years, how long you been married? I need a partner not a baby. I have my daughter in University and work long hours to pay for bills. Poverty is here in America, wake up and take a ride to the bad side of town and see little kids who go to bed hungry, but yet you want me to work 5 jobs to support a grown man and pay for all the costs, cause he can't work or what. What about the one's that make it out without the help or support of anyone. My husband was in America all on his own before, and didn't need someone to pay for it, he figured it out, worked hard and got out of Egypt. I need someone who has the intelligence to improve their situation and not wait for outside help. I am too old to support and raise a grown man, if I want to support someone I will support a foster child here in my country. I know of people who go hungry in this country everyday, babies, women, veterans, but screw them, send your money to a man half way across the world, who is a healthy adult, so they can go to the cafes and chat. Sorry, but I am way too old for that #######. I say to these men, learn from other successful men, how did they do it, what is it about others that they can pull themselves out of poverty to become successful. Much easier to just sit on your butt and wait for someone to save you. Guess what, if you didn't do so well there, what makes you think you will be successful here? I sure wish you could get that money back for me, I have some kids in the system right now, that need some things, like FOOD, and if I got that money back that is what I would do with it. So don't even try to think you understand, cause really, you have no idea what the real story is.

[GlenAndLisa 0]

Just a quick question for all the American women, did you pay for your plane ticket over to see your love, or did he pay for you? I understand they are from poor countries, but I am not that rich either, and not a sugar mama. Just really interested, because I have a husband in Egypt, whom I never talked to, but I paid for the plane ticket to see him and now i am paying all of this off working myself to an early grave. I guess I am a little old fashion and would like the man to take care of some of this, but maybe that is not the way things work. So please share with me who pays for what and did you feel kinda of mad if you have to pay all the bills, is it almost like buying a husband. That is how i feel now.

What an awful situation! I'd probably bail, considering you have such little communication. It just doesn't sound good. Anyone who feels like they are "buying a husband" really needs to do something to change their circumstances.

As far as what works for us, I've paid most of the expenses for our visits and Visa costs, but not because Glen wouldn't. It's simply because I'm the one that has the full bank account. Glen has a steady, good job, but unfortunately the cost of living in England is crazy and it just makes more sense for me to pay the costs so that he won't go into debt.

Because we're getting married, we feel that we share everything. Glen has never once taken advantage of my kindness, and I know without a shadow of a doubt, he'd do the same for me if the tables were turned.

I have never kept track of how much he "owes" me. It makes no difference to me because we are building a marriage/partnership based on love and commitment.

This is just how I feel. I know other couples like to have "my money," "your money," and I've seen that work out very well. My parents do that, and it keeps them from fighting!! Each couple needs to do what works best for them. The most important thing is respect. And if someone is feeling taken advantage of, something is definitely wrong, and needs to be worked out.

[Hanna&Mohamed 0]

I guess I am still in shock, how can everyone else have these wonderful experiences and I have a nightmere. I am now broke with credit card bills from my trip to Egypt. I may I have to get another job, so that way I will work two jobs to pay off this mess. I always heard that arab men love to take care of women, he was a police officer in Egypt and stepped down, cause he was a captain and could not apply for visa and be married to american while on the police force. All I know is that now i don't trust no man, I can't tell you how i feel, it is like i am a joke to my family and friends, they all ask what happened to him. I am embaressed and heartbroken and now poor as hell. So no I am not a troll, I am a real person who feels like I have been robbed and raped. I hate feeling this way and I am afriad I will be come really bitter now, oh well wonder what today will bring. Sorry about ranting I am just really devasted here. I really not sure if i would ever do that again, pay for a man.

I am really sorry what has happened to You.I thank Allah every day for giving me a wonderful egyptian man that i will soon marry when he gets his visa.I payed for my plane tickets I have been there 3 times!I never payed for anything when I went to Egypt.He always payed and took care of me.He has payed for things he needed for his visa.He would never allow me to pay for anything!He has never asked me for money.We have so much love together!We talk all day on internet we always have .Now we have a baby together.I pray soon he will be here with us! Im really sorry u are had alot of problems!Take Care!

thats really a terrible situation. but unfortunately, you are not the only one who's had this kind of experience. some don't even talk about it...but believe me, there are plenty of women who go through bad situations with their foreign spouse (and men too!) i know it must be hard to walk away from someone you invested so much time (and money) but i think its for the best. find a man here who will cherish you and not take advantage of your kindness. good luck!