Why I Have A ‘No New White Friends’ Rule

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https://web.archive.org/web/20201212152208if_/https://www.scarymommy.com/no-new-white-friends-rule/

 

This explains so much and something we all can do.

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As a general rule and life philosophy, I do not make new white friends. It’s not a new rule. I’ve tried to live by it for a few years and frankly, it’s never steered me wrong. Every time I break it, I regret.

I’m full up on white people, thanks. I have spent approximately four decades making white friends, and quite frankly, I’ve had enough.

It’s nothing against you — or at least nothing personal. It’s just that I’m so tired.

I’m so tired of white folks — white men especially, but I rarely friend men because my quota of male friends is full, too — so this is mostly directed to white women. It requires so much energy, emotional labor, and investment — and years, really, to determine if you’re a white person who is trustworthy.

The way some of you take up so much space and make everything about you and your feelings — trust me. It’s in your best interest not to be friends with me.

 

 

[Ban Hammer 13,489]

with that attitude, i'm surprised she has any friends.

[Dashinka 24,736]

What a bigot/racist.  I don’t think I would want to be this writers friend regardless of the color of my skin.

[laylalex 7,300]

I'm just curious why Boiler is going on scarymommy.com.  

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2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I'm just curious why Boiler is going on scarymommy.com.  

Looking for new friends.

[laylalex 7,300]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Looking for new friends.

Well, at least VJ isn't suggesting Ashley Madison to find a new friend like it did for me last year.

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4 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I'm just curious why Boiler is going on scarymommy.com.  

When your world is crumbling down around you, safe spaces with dumb libs is like a pint of Cherry Garcia and a bottle of Ripple in word form.

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1 minute ago, laylalex said:

Well, at least VJ isn't suggesting Ashley Madison to find a new friend like it did for me last year.

This is why I hang out on VJ. To meet ladies. I hear like half of the people here are women who are looking for serious reationships.

[laylalex 7,300]

1 minute ago, moxy said:

When your world is crumbling down around you, safe spaces with dumb libs is like a pint of Cherry Garcia and a bottle of Ripple in word form.

Like the Palmer Report??  I prefer Coolhaus Dirty Mint and a decent bottle of sauvignon blanc though.

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Just now, laylalex said:

Like the Palmer Report??  I prefer Coolhaus Dirty Mint and a decent bottle of sauvignon blanc though.

So you understood what that meant?

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8 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Well, at least VJ isn't suggesting Ashley Madison to find a new friend like it did for me last year.

The VJ gods know the members needs and wants.

[laylalex 7,300]

4 minutes ago, Boiler said:

So you understood what that meant?

I was guessing. I thought:

 

"safe space with dumb libs" = Palmer Report

 

"Cherry Garcia" = ice cream, but I prefer mint to cherry

 

"Ripple" = booze, but I prefer something not so gross

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17 minutes ago, laylalex said:

I was guessing. I thought:

 

"safe space with dumb libs" = Palmer Report

 

"Cherry Garcia" = ice cream, but I prefer mint to cherry

 

"Ripple" = booze, but I prefer something not so gross

Not sure I have heard of any of those.

[laylalex 7,300]

Ice cream and booze? Oh wow, that is sad to have not heard of those.