Fiance visit to meet future father-in-law

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PS: still reading through all your input.

I would say ignore all the naysayers and take the chance! Immediately someone mentions Nigeria here what they get is the same old tired mention of fraud and this and that and Nigerians don’t get visas yadda yadda yadda. 

 

My belief and experience tells me getting approved for a visitor visa from a developing country is akin to playing the lottery. You give it a shot, it’s only $160. Remember he who doesn’t play the lottery has exactly zero probability of winning.

 

Ghana my original country and Nigeria are essentially in the same fraud category and yet my unmarried brother (at the time) and unmarried auntie (whose earnings were a grand total of about $150/month as a petty trader) both got five year multiple entry visas to come visit me on the second and first try respectively. He came for my graduation, she on a “vacation” 🤣😂🤣. I nearly choked when she called me that dawn to inform me she’d been approved, I had totally written her off. 

 

As one “great” 🤔🤔 outgoing American president would say, what do you have to lose! A paltry $160.

 

Good luck.

Edited November 29, 2020 by Ray.Bonaquist

[Crazy Cat 42,033]

33 minutes ago, Ray.Bonaquist said:

 

I would say ignore all the naysayers and take the chance! Immediately someone mentions Nigeria here what they get is the same old tired mention of fraud and this and that and Nigerians don’t get visas yadda yadda yadda. 

 

My belief and experience tells me getting approved for a visitor visa from a developing country is akin to playing the lottery. You give it a shot, it’s only $160. Remember he who doesn’t play the lottery has exactly zero probability of winning.

 

Ghana my original country and Nigeria are essentially in the same fraud category and yet my unmarried brother (at the time) and unmarried auntie (whose earnings were a grand total of about $150/month as a petty trader) both got five year multiple entry visas to come visit me on the second and first try respectively. He came for my graduation, she on a “vacation” 🤣😂🤣. I nearly choked when she called me that dawn to inform me she’d been approved, I had totally written her off. 

 

As one “great” 🤔🤔 outgoing American president would say, what do you have to lose! A paltry $160.

 

Good luck.

So, in your opinion, what are the odds of her fiance winning this "lottery"?  More than 50% or less than 50%? 

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5 minutes ago, Lucky Cat said:

So, in your opinion, what are the odds of her fiance winning this "lottery"?  More than 50% or less than 50%? 

Somewhere between 40%-60% according to the most recent adjusted refusal rate which is a crude proxy for such estimates. Those are more than decent odds for $160.

[Cathi 5,782]

13 minutes ago, Ray.Bonaquist said:

Somewhere between 40%-60% according to the most recent adjusted refusal rate which is a crude proxy for such estimates. Those are more than decent odds for $160.

Considering Nigeria isn't even scheduling interviews for B visas at this time, these odds are just a wee bit off.

[coforever 40]

2 hours ago, Model4Life said:

Thank you all for your feedback. 

We have met so many times and am currently in Nigeria with him. We were friends for years before our friendship progressed to relationship. 

 

Between I am a Nigerian-American.

 

Also we don't accept bride price in my family.

 

I have met with his parents and they approved of our relationship leading to marriage. They want to meet my family. All my family reside in the U.S. Therefore flying my father in is not visible. I want all my family to grace my wedding. They are all married with children. They all can't leave the U.S and come to Nigeria. It's cost effective to have the ceremony in the U.S. 

 

PS: still reading through all your input.

since you are Nigerian American it makes it easier for the marriage rites. Your family must have roots in Nigeria,i mean someone from your fathers kindred that is currently in the US. He can assist your dad with the investigation of the man's family and your dad makes decision from his assessment. I personally applied twice for a visitors visa as a well to do banker in Nigeria but was out rightly refused with the CO telling me that we should consider a K-visa since we know we wanna be serious. Lol.  I felt bad and spent a lot of money on 2 B visa application. My then fiancé family were all in the US but they sent their Nigerian kinsmen to see my family.  After all that we went ahead for k1 and I got my visa on the 7th month of the application. I hope this helps. 

[Model4Life 13]

10 hours ago, Lucky Cat said:

Have you thought about marrying in Nigeria, then having a 2nd celebration later in the US?

I cannot marry without my father's presence, so is my mom as well. 

Marrying in Nigeria is not an option. 

 

The only reason I can go with CR1 is if we can marry in the US on a tourist visa which will enable my parents to grace the occassion and he returns home after the wedding. And we will commence the CR1 while he is back in Nigeria. I don't know if people marry on tourist and the consulate won't find an issue with it when they receive our CR 1 packet. 

[Model4Life 13]

9 hours ago, Ray.Bonaquist said:

 

I would say ignore all the naysayers and take the chance! Immediately someone mentions Nigeria here what they get is the same old tired mention of fraud and this and that and Nigerians don’t get visas yadda yadda yadda. 

 

My belief and experience tells me getting approved for a visitor visa from a developing country is akin to playing the lottery. You give it a shot, it’s only $160. Remember he who doesn’t play the lottery has exactly zero probability of winning.

 

Ghana my original country and Nigeria are essentially in the same fraud category and yet my unmarried brother (at the time) and unmarried auntie (whose earnings were a grand total of about $150/month as a petty trader) both got five year multiple entry visas to come visit me on the second and first try respectively. He came for my graduation, she on a “vacation” 🤣😂🤣. I nearly choked when she called me that dawn to inform me she’d been approved, I had totally written her off. 

 

As one “great” 🤔🤔 outgoing American president would say, what do you have to lose! A paltry $160.

 

Good luck.

Awwww so happy to read that your brother and aunt were granted visas. Wow@$150 monthly income. Who would have thought she would be granted?

 

My brother, I hear you. The way people make it sound like all Nigerians are always denied at the embassy make me chuckle. To me, living life itself is a gamble. If you don't request for something, you won't know if you are getting a "yes" or a "no"

 

Plus the visa fee is not that expensive. 

 

Thanks for your input.

 

 

[Model4Life 13]

9 hours ago, Cathi said:

Considering Nigeria isn't even scheduling interviews for B visas at this time, these odds are just a wee bit off.

It's not an immediate need, meaning not applying right now. Plus the US embassy in Nigeria is not scheduling interviews for any type of visa at the moment due to covid not just B visas. 

[Model4Life 13]

8 hours ago, coforever said:

since you are Nigerian American it makes it easier for the marriage rites. Your family must have roots in Nigeria,i mean someone from your fathers kindred that is currently in the US. He can assist your dad with the investigation of the man's family and your dad makes decision from his assessment. I personally applied twice for a visitors visa as a well to do banker in Nigeria but was out rightly refused with the CO telling me that we should consider a K-visa since we know we wanna be serious. Lol.  I felt bad and spent a lot of money on 2 B visa application. My then fiancé family were all in the US but they sent their Nigerian kinsmen to see my family.  After all that we went ahead for k1 and I got my visa on the 7th month of the application. I hope this helps. 

Thanks for sharing your experience.

 

Do you know that am a female and not male.  The male families visit the female family not the other way round. 

 

For my parents, you show up with your family, tender your intentions and it's a goal from there. 

 

Per kinsmen, we are not into extended families. And am not ready to expose my life journey to them. Mine and my siblings life center around our parents.

 

My joy would be full if my future parents-in-law can travel to the US to meet my parents before the wedding and for the wedding.  

[Model4Life 13]

8 hours ago, coforever said:

since you are Nigerian American it makes it easier for the marriage rites. Your family must have roots in Nigeria,i mean someone from your fathers kindred that is currently in the US. He can assist your dad with the investigation of the man's family and your dad makes decision from his assessment. I personally applied twice for a visitors visa as a well to do banker in Nigeria but was out rightly refused with the CO telling me that we should consider a K-visa since we know we wanna be serious. Lol.  I felt bad and spent a lot of money on 2 B visa application. My then fiancé family were all in the US but they sent their Nigerian kinsmen to see my family.  After all that we went ahead for k1 and I got my visa on the 7th month of the application. I hope this helps. 

Congratulations on your visa. I hope you are enjoying your new abode and everything U.S has to offer! 

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47 minutes ago, Model4Life said:

I cannot marry without my father's presence, so is my mom as well. 

Marrying in Nigeria is not an option. 

 

The only reason I can go with CR1 is if we can marry in the US on a tourist visa which will enable my parents to grace the occassion and he returns home after the wedding. And we will commence the CR1 while he is back in Nigeria. I don't know if people marry on tourist and the consulate won't find an issue with it when they receive our CR 1 packet. 

Yes, we understand. But B visas (toruist visas) are NOT guaranteed. And there may be a chance that your fiance may never recieve one. This is why we say for you to have a back up plan for your parents to meet in another country that will allow him to travel to.

 

I have seen a story of a guy get denied a visitor visa 7 times.

[Model4Life 13]

I will take the gamble and if approved fine. If it goes the other way, we will opt for K1 visa and he can meet my parents as soon as he arrives and we can move on from there for the wedding ceremony. 

[Model4Life 13]

7 hours ago, Unlockable said:

Yes, we understand. But B visas (toruist visas) are NOT guaranteed. And there may be a chance that your fiance may never recieve one. This is why we say for you to have a back up plan for your parents to meet in another country that will allow him to travel to.

 

I have seen a story of a guy get denied a visitor visa 7 times.

I know B visas are not guaranteed. Reasons for denials varies. 

And just cos Mr. A gets denied or Ms. A gets denied doesn't mean that Mr. C or Ms. C will get denied. 

 

As you've seen a story of a guy get denied 7 times, I have read about people who have traveled to other countries get denied at the U.S embassy despite the well-traveled records while on the other hand, someone who has never traveled got approved on the first trial. 

Also I have seen applicants denied the first time got approved the second time around. 

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1 minute ago, Model4Life said:

I know B visas are not guaranteed. Reasons for denials varies. 

And just cos Mr. A gets denied or Ms. A gets denied doesn't mean that Mr. C or Ms. C will get denied. 

 

As you've seen a story of a guy get denied 7 times, I have read about people who have traveled to other countries get denied at the U.S embassy despite the well-traveled records while on the other hand, someone who has never traveled got approved on the first trial. 

Also I have seen applicants denied the first time got approved the second time around. 

True. Hence the overall consensus is all he can do is try and see.

 

We just caution people not to bank everything on an approval.

[coforever 40]

27 minutes ago, Model4Life said:

I will take the gamble and if approved fine. If it goes the other way, we will opt for K1 visa and he can meet my parents as soon as he arrives and we can move on from there for the wedding ceremony. 

This is a good choice. Please do well to update us in the future of how it went. There is always a lesson to learn from people's experience be it good or not good.  Wish you all the best dear.