Petitioning for an adopted child. Out of options?

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2 hours ago, Beegirl said:

 

Omg. The Hague/Orphan process is the most COMMON way to bring adopted children over. It was our BEST BET. It cannot be applied for after 16. So we missed our chance with that. My mother went ahead and fully adopted her anyway. BUT the immediate relative pathway is damn near impossible for a USC who is based and lives in the US to qualify for because of the residency requirement! Again that’s why The Hague/Orphan process was our best bet. I’m sure most adults can see the obvious difficulty/limitations in moving to another country for 2 years. 

 

Yes it does seem like our only option is DV and pray or student.

But, with respect, the situation which you describe of your mother is far from “common”. I was a foster parent in my homeland and applied to become adoptive parents with my former husband. We were hoping to adopt internationally. Most, if not all, people take the emotional and difficult road to adoption as they just want to parent a child, often a child that has no one else in the world. During our home study process to be approved to adopt we were questioned very intensively over how we intend to parent a child, how we will cope with a child who has had a traumatic start in life, emotional disorders, and so on. I’ve yet to hear of anyone adopting a child and not spending more than a brief visit/vacation with the child and continuing to reside in a different country. That would never fly with any adoption agency I’ve had involvement with. Your mother is the parent on paper only. 
 

Bringing adopted children here is, as far as the government is concerned, for the purpose of family building, not just to give people in another country a chance to live here. That’s why there is the residency requirement and the age requirement. It’s about parents and their children building a family life together. The government grants such visas to people who are actively parenting the child, not just sending western Union money every month. Otherwise what’s to stop people “adopting” children they have no intention of parenting and suddenly petitioning them when they turn 18 (so that even when they arrive the petitioner still doesn’t have to parent them - they are adults). Even the most naive person must recognize that this would be open to all sorts of shady business and abuse, pseudo adoption agencies opening in countries arranging sham adoptions and so on. And sadly children would then become a commodity. We can’t allow that to happen to anyone, let alone children, let alone children who’ve already suffered emotional pain and separation. 

 
So the rules are there for a reason. Personally I don’t see any need for your mother to have this child come live with her. She is not much more than a stranger to her. Why the sudden change of mind about wanting to be in her life? 

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4 hours ago, Beegirl said:

 

Omg. The Hague/Orphan process is the most COMMON way to bring adopted children over. It was our BEST BET. It cannot be applied for after 16. So we missed our chance with that. My mother went ahead and fully adopted her anyway. BUT the immediate relative pathway is damn near impossible for a USC who is based and lives in the US to qualify for because of the residency requirement! Again that’s why The Hague/Orphan process was our best bet. I’m sure most adults can see the obvious difficulty/limitations in moving to another country for 2 years. 

 

Yes it does seem like our only option is DV and pray or student.

Yes. Most adults can. Like I said, it depends how badly you want something. I know what I’d do for my own kids. Sorry you don’t like the options, but you keep on insisting nothing can be done for a family visa when that’s not true. However yes those are the only options you guys seem to have left your family, and I highly doubt a student visa would work with immediate family in the US, the immigrant intent angle would be extremely hard to overcome imo, so she’s down to a 0.5% chance of getting selected in an annual lottery.

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Obviously a lot more to this than the little we have had shared, presumably quite a back story.

 

I would not rule out Student whatever visa's, who knows?