Patriarchy’s post-election end days

[laylalex 7,284]

It's been a while since I checked my Google alert for patriarchy, and I found this today, which brings together that topic AND the election.  

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So as 2020 draws to a close, it’s hard to ignore a flashing caution light: unless we acknowledge the connection between those groups’ brutish expression of patriarchy and its white collar counterpart, represented by the likes of Mitch McConnell and Brett Kavanaugh, rather than hearing patriarchy’s last gasp, we’ll be supplying it with fresh oxygen.

“The culture is changing and becoming in some ways more like [former vice president Joe] Biden,” Jackson Katz, creator of a new documentary called “The Man Card: Presidential Masculinity from Nixon to Trump,” told the Washington Post. But is it changing quickly enough?

“Trump still clearly has a large appeal to men who understand the more traditional appeal of aggression, physical strength, the willingness to authorize violence,” Katz says.

While Trumpists at best reflect Archie Bunker 20th-century masculinity, Biden offers “a more complex 21st-century version …” Katz believes. “It’s compassion and empathy and care and a personal narrative of loss.”

 

https://www.recorder.com/my-turn-okun-PatriarchyPostElection-37118960

[Burnt Reynolds 5,058]

I Believe Tara Reade. I’m Voting for Joe Biden Anyway.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/06/opinion/tara-reade-joe-biden-vote.html

 

[laylalex 7,284]

Err, okay then! 

 

Well, I do find a lot of this opinion piece on the hyperbolic side. But I am curious to see what having a woman in the second seat of leadership will do for us as a country in how women are treated. Maybe it will have a positive effect on misogyny in this country, or not. 

[Burnt Reynolds 5,058]

Positive effect on what misogyny?

[Boiler 45,501]

What about misandry?

[Dashinka 24,494]

3 hours ago, laylalex said:

Err, okay then! 

 

Well, I do find a lot of this opinion piece on the hyperbolic side. But I am curious to see what having a woman in the second seat of leadership will do for us as a country in how women are treated. Maybe it will have a positive effect on misogyny in this country, or not. 

Doubt it.  Many of the EU countries are way more misogynistic then the US, and several had women in the first seat.

[laylalex 7,284]

So we were driving back from being unexpectedly caught in an election celebration parade of sorts, and my husband asked me to stop in at a gas station so he could pick up a snack (it had been all of 90 minutes since lunch, so it was snack time 🙄). I pulled into one of the fueling bays to use the squeegee on the windshield and rear window, which were a bit dirty. I realized as I am struggling to pull the squeegee across the windshield (I am on the short side), stepping on my tiptoes, etc., he is back in the car, legs up on the dashboard, watching me intently and eating a Snickers bar. I said, "You're just going to watch me struggle with this?" He said, licking chocolate off his fingers, "Mmmm, yes. This is Biden's America now. I don't give you agency, you are capable of doing anything you want in this brave new world. Don't miss that bit under the blade there, sweetest."

 

So I have answered my own question, it seems.

[Dashinka 24,494]

4 minutes ago, laylalex said:

So we were driving back from being unexpectedly caught in an election celebration parade of sorts, and my husband asked me to stop in at a gas station so he could pick up a snack (it had been all of 90 minutes since lunch, so it was snack time 🙄). I pulled into one of the fueling bays to use the squeegee on the windshield and rear window, which were a bit dirty. I realized as I am struggling to pull the squeegee across the windshield (I am on the short side), stepping on my tiptoes, etc., he is back in the car, legs up on the dashboard, watching me intently and eating a Snickers bar. I said, "You're just going to watch me struggle with this?" He said, licking chocolate off his fingers, "Mmmm, yes. This is Biden's America now. I don't give you agency, you are capable of doing anything you want in this brave new world. Don't miss that bit under the blade there, sweetest."

 

So I have answered my own question, it seems.

Kind of off topic, but a front passenger with their feet up on the dashboard are asking for it in the event something bad happens such as a frontal accident or rollover.

[laylalex 7,284]

1 minute ago, Dashinka said:

Kind of off topic, but a front passenger with their feet up on the dashboard are asking for it in the event something bad happens such as a frontal accident or rollover.

We were parked.  I may be a woman but even I can't clean a windshield while it is traveling. 

[Dashinka 24,494]

1 minute ago, laylalex said:

We were parked.  I may be a woman but even I can't clean a windshield while it is traveling. 

I understand that, but in my experience when front seat passengers are apt to prop their feet up on the dash, they do it fairly regularly regardless of the way the vehicle is being used.  It is one of my pet peeves when I see it while driving down the road.  The wife and I drove to Cuyahoga Valley NP today, beautiful weather in the Midwest the past few days, and I saw no less than four passengers with their feet up on the dash.  My other pet peeve is seeing people jump back into their cars while refueling.

 

Again, off topic, but I feel safety in motor vehicles are also the responsibility of the end users.

[laylalex 7,284]

Just now, Dashinka said:

I understand that, but in my experience when front seat passengers are apt to prop their feet up on the dash, they do it fairly regularly regardless of the way the vehicle is being used.  It is one of my pet peeves when I see it while driving down the road.  The wife and I drove to Cuyahoga Valley NP today, beautiful weather in the Midwest the past few days, and I saw no less than four passengers with their feet up on the dash.  My other pet peeve is seeing people jump back into their cars while refueling.

 

Again, off topic, but I feel safety in motor vehicles are also the responsibility of the end users.

Completely agree -- and I never, ever let that happen in my car. (I suspect he was doing it to dig at me a bit more in his teasing.) I am also super careful at gas stations in general. It drives insane that I still see people SMOKING at gas stations! What? Insane.

[Burnt Reynolds 5,058]

9 minutes ago, laylalex said:

So we were driving back from being unexpectedly caught in an election celebration parade of sorts, and my husband asked me to stop in at a gas station so he could pick up a snack (it had been all of 90 minutes since lunch, so it was snack time 🙄). I pulled into one of the fueling bays to use the squeegee on the windshield and rear window, which were a bit dirty. I realized as I am struggling to pull the squeegee across the windshield (I am on the short side), stepping on my tiptoes, etc., he is back in the car, legs up on the dashboard, watching me intently and eating a Snickers bar. I said, "You're just going to watch me struggle with this?" He said, licking chocolate off his fingers, "Mmmm, yes. This is Biden's America now. I don't give you agency, you are capable of doing anything you want in this brave new world. Don't miss that bit under the blade there, sweetest."

 

So I have answered my own question, it seems.

Hmm...

 

Odd story aside, I think the obvious problem was using a gas station squeegee. Those things are gross, dirty af, and with how most places take care of it, are more likely to make your windows dirtier rather than cleaner. I'd definitely recommend buying your own, some come with good (telescoping) extensions. Of course, I never did this myself either until moving to Canada where for vehicles parked outside we have to brush/scrape off snow and ice. Then the work to squeegee a window or two (or ten if driving through the prairies and having a vehicle covered in bug ish) is really minuscule in comparison. 

 

2 minutes ago, Dashinka said:

Kind of off topic, but a front passenger with their feet up on the dashboard are asking for it in the event something bad happens such as a frontal accident or rollover.

I imagine Bill can do Burnt level word walls talking about vehicle safety. 😂

 

There's actually been very, very few things the wife and I disagree about in our 10+ years of marriage, but of all the things, we've gone at it a few times on rear/front facing car seats. She used to take the paranoid approach which bugged me to no end, insisting even though we could front face our oldest son that he should be rear facing for another year or two even though he not only was just fine front facing but preferred it to see people. I let her win initially but she eventually came around because she saw with her own eyes over time what I was saying (behavior psychology is my expertise, partially from my degrees, and partially from attention deficit), and she's gotten better about not being so over the top on safety. 

[Boiler 45,501]

1 hour ago, laylalex said:

So we were driving back from being unexpectedly caught in an election celebration parade of sorts, and my husband asked me to stop in at a gas station so he could pick up a snack (it had been all of 90 minutes since lunch, so it was snack time 🙄). I pulled into one of the fueling bays to use the squeegee on the windshield and rear window, which were a bit dirty. I realized as I am struggling to pull the squeegee across the windshield (I am on the short side), stepping on my tiptoes, etc., he is back in the car, legs up on the dashboard, watching me intently and eating a Snickers bar. I said, "You're just going to watch me struggle with this?" He said, licking chocolate off his fingers, "Mmmm, yes. This is Biden's America now. I don't give you agency, you are capable of doing anything you want in this brave new world. Don't miss that bit under the blade there, sweetest."

 

So I have answered my own question, it seems.

#Equality

[laylalex 7,284]

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

#Equality

That's what he said, so I told him he could be in charge of (ordering) dinner tonight.  

 

Sauces, geese, ganders.

[Boiler 45,501]

Sounds strenuous.

 

Has he had training?