Minors

[aaron2020 11,651]

1 hour ago, fathoy said:

his employer petitioned him. he is currently a PR. 

Okay.

 

Your husband's employer petitioned for him.  He is currently a PR.  He filed for follow to join for you and his kids as derivative beneficiaries, right?  Please confirm if this is correct.

 

Here's the bottom line.  Your children can not immigrate without your permission.  The US Embassy probably already has this permission if you are in Administrative Processing.  You've had your visa interview at the US Embassy, right?  Please confirm if this is correct.

Your husband is trying to pull a fast one.  He got your written permission for the kids to immigrate by promising that you could go with them. Now that it's the final step before visas are issued, he wants you to withdraw your petition, right?  Please confirm if this is correct.

 

 

[fathoy 0]

1. Yes, he is a PR and we three are derivaties.

2. yes, done with interview and were under administrative processing.

3. yes, now that were on the last step, he wants me to withraw my application. 

[aaron2020 11,651]

Just now, fathoy said:

1. Yes, he is a PR and we three are derivaties.

2. yes, done with interview and were under administrative processing.

3. yes, now that were on the last step, he wants me to withraw my application. 

You are in control.  He's not.

 

Tell him no you, then no kids.

Tell him that you will burn the kids' passports and visas if you are removed from the case.  

 

 

[fathoy 0]

5 hours ago, aaron2020 said:

You are in control.  He's not.

 

Tell him no you, then no kids.

Tell him that you will burn the kids' passports and visas if you are removed from the case.  

 

 

thank you all so much for answering, you just lifted me up. i feel very terrible that I am being abused miles away

[Mollie09 1,543]

10 hours ago, aaron2020 said:

Tell him that you will burn the kids' passports and visas if you are removed from the case.  

 

 

OP this is terrible advice, don't do this. Passports belong to GOVERNMENTS not people. Threatening to burn passports is not only childish and manipulative, it's illegal since they're not yours to destroy.

 

Just say no, you won't be withdrawing your application since you want to go. And that you won't be allowing the children to go without you.

 

Side note, I'm surprised you got this far in the process while being separated from your husband and not wanting to be with him in the future. Not really what family reunification visas are for.

Edited October 13, 2020 by Mollie09

[fathoy 0]

Actually, I am very much surprised of the withrawal thing. I thought everything was clear and running smoothly. I wasted so much time processing these visas, we travelled 14hours away from home for the medical and interview and went through 14days quarantine when we got back to our town. i spent money, time and effort for the 25days of waste. oh dear🙁

[fathoy 0]

PS i wont burn our passports, my kids and I will need it for tour around the globe😊

[SusieQQQ 11,587]

On 10/12/2020 at 7:00 PM, fathoy said:

yes thats it. thing is, i want better opportunity for my kids too but since they dont want to leave without me, i think i know exactly what to do

He can petition them again in the future when they are adults if they decide at that stage they want  to go. 

[SusieQQQ 11,587]

12 hours ago, fathoy said:

Actually, I am very much surprised of the withrawal thing. I thought everything was clear and running smoothly. I wasted so much time processing these visas, we travelled 14hours away from home for the medical and interview and went through 14days quarantine when we got back to our town. i spent money, time and effort for the 25days of waste. oh dear🙁

You can contact the embassy and tell them you and the kids are all withdrawing your applications. If the embassy has your passports, ask it to return them. 

[JonSeattle 202]

I don't know the legal complications, but another option is to proceed with the visas, and when you get to the US, file for divorce. When that happens, perhaps you can get alimony and child support payments enforced. The father will get visitation rights, and so you will have to live close enough to him for that to happen. The risks and expense of that plan could be considerable, so the father may be willing to agree to settle things amicably to avoid that.

[fathoy 0]

so there, after the tedious processing of our visas. My ex is telling me to let my visas expire and to not use it all. I cannot travel to US coz he can just file divorce when I get there, with PR status, i will get deported. So now, Id like to file domestic abuse. How can I do that even if Im far away? 

[Boiler 46,025]

You need to file a restraining order? That would be done in the local courts assuming there is such a thing in PI.

 

Sounds like you need the services of a local Family Lawyer.

[milimelo 4,550]

37 minutes ago, fathoy said:

so there, after the tedious processing of our visas. My ex is telling me to let my visas expire and to not use it all. I cannot travel to US coz he can just file divorce when I get there, with PR status, i will get deported. So now, Id like to file domestic abuse. How can I do that even if Im far away? 

Wait, what? If you have immigrant visas you can go to the US and get your green cards. He won’t be able to deport you. Heck, even if he files for divorce when you get there you can file for child support and alimony. 

[aaron2020 11,651]

3 hours ago, fathoy said:

so there, after the tedious processing of our visas. My ex is telling me to let my visas expire and to not use it all. I cannot travel to US coz he can just file divorce when I get there, with PR status, i will get deported. So now, Id like to file domestic abuse. How can I do that even if Im far away? 

Who told you that you would get deported?  If he did, then he's is a liar.  

Once you enter the US with an immigration visa, you become a LPR with a 10 years green card since you've been married for more than 2 years.  If you divorce, nothing happens to you.  You still get to keep your green card.  He has nothing to do with your 10 years green card once you get it.  NO WAY for him to take it from you or for you to get deported simply because you divorced. 

Do you currently have an immigration visa?  What is the expiration date?

Your idiot husband filed one I-130, so you are the primary beneficiary and your kids are derivatives.  This means the kids can not use with their visas without you using your visa. 

After you get your green card and your husband files for divorce, you can ask the court for custody of the 9 years old and financial support for you and your child.  

DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR HUSBAND.  HE IS A LIAR.

Edited January 11, 2021 by aaron2020

[Boiler 46,025]

I can think of no end of practical issues, but not immigration ones.