The end.

[Morgan&Stacey 20]

Hey guys,

 

Very sadly our relationship did not survive the prolonged time apart and it’s with the heaviest heart I need some advice on how to withdraw K1 application. We have NOA2 and it’s currently sitting at NVC since March. 

 

I am beyond heartbroken and would appreciate if people will be kind in what they say about this, just the quickest and easiest way to do it please?

Thank you for everyone’s help in the past, especially you @Greenbaum ❤️

 

Good luck on everyone’s visas going forward. 

 

[Crazy Cat 42,032]

Be aware that any official communication sent to revoke a petition can not be reversed......I am sorry the relationship has broken.

Edited September 10, 2020 by Lucky Cat

[Morgan&Stacey 20]

2 minutes ago, Lucky Cat said:

Be aware that any official communication sent to revoke a petition can not be reversed......I am sorry the relationship has broken.

I understand that. She’s quite certain this is what she wants and I have tried to change her mind, but a person can only do so much. How is it I do it?

She is the US citizen, I am the British citizen. 

[Crazy Cat 42,032]

2 minutes ago, Morgan&Stacey said:

I understand that. She’s quite certain this is what she wants and I have tried to change her mind, but a person can only do so much. How is it I do it?

She is the US citizen, I am the British citizen. 

The US citizen can send an email to NVC and USCIS to withdraw a petition.  The beneficiary can simply allow a petition to expire.

[Nicola and Jordan 668]

I am so sorry. Please make sure she fully understands what Lucky Cat has mentioned above. Has she given some time to really think about it thoroughly? It is a really REALLY tough time being apart especially during these crazy times. I wish you both all the best whatever happens. 

[Morgan&Stacey 20]

5 minutes ago, Nicola and Jordan said:

I am so sorry. Please make sure she fully understands what Lucky Cat has mentioned above. Has she given some time to really think about it thoroughly? It is a really REALLY tough time being apart especially during these crazy times. I wish you both all the best whatever happens. 

I have tried to make her see that it’s all because of the time we have had apart. I had tickets booked to fly to dominican republic for 2 weeks then to fly to her for 2 weeks, i was supposed to be leaving September 23rd but I feel like she is pretty adamant about this. I’m tired of fighting and I have tried so hard but she just keeps saying ‘I can’t do this.’ 
I offered a break but she just keeps saying the same thing time and time again. It’s heart shattering. 

[Greenbaum 12,259]

3 hours ago, Morgan&Stacey said:

I understand that. She’s quite certain this is what she wants and I have tried to change her mind, but a person can only do so much. How is it I do it?

She is the US citizen, I am the British citizen. 

The petitioner and the beneficiary should write letters to USCIS Service Center and to the interviewing embassy/consulate, noting receipt and case file numbers, explaining your desire to cancel your visa. Be sure to hold onto a copy of your correspondence received in conjunction with this cancelation as you may need it in the future when and if you do reapply.

[Ann Blair 39]

So sorry to read this. LDRs are much harder than most people realize. I had no idea until I found myself in one. Looks like you already got some advice on how to handle the visa. Best to you. 

[SteveInBostonI130 3,477]

I am very sorry to hear of your situation.  Breakups are hard, and breakup with someone you were planning to marry even harder.

 

As others have said, once your US fiance revokes the petition, that is it.

 

A small glimmer of hope remains for the two of you.  If, after time, she changes her mind, you can always visit each other relatively easily (after Covid, that is).  And if things go well, you can marry and go for a CR1 visa and skip the fiance visa and AOS process.  An option.

[Sparkle Sparkle 914]

She does not have to withdraw it now and you don't have to do anything now... Wait for embassy to contact you meanwhile continue working on your relationship... Be friends... Do alot of talking 

[African Zealot 1,455]

It’s not the end of the world. Better now than down the road after you’re married then she pops the divorce question. Also no need trying to further convince her to stay in the relationship. 

 

Unlike others saying let the petition just die, I would suggest you ask her to withdraw the petition so everything is clean and you don’t have an immigrant petition hanging over your head.

 

You will smile again one day, actively work on making that happen sooner rather than later.

[Sparkle Sparkle 914]

11 hours ago, Morgan&Stacey said:

I have tried to make her see that it’s all because of the time we have had apart. I had tickets booked to fly to dominican republic for 2 weeks then to fly to her for 2 weeks, i was supposed to be leaving September 23rd but I feel like she is pretty adamant about this. I’m tired of fighting and I have tried so hard but she just keeps saying ‘I can’t do this.’ 
I offered a break but she just keeps saying the same thing time and time again. It’s heart shattering. 

Long distance relationships take alot of commitment and believe...i think it boils down to what foundation you both build your relationship on. ...lots of people here have been waiting years and they are still strong together ...you guys should ask @Dale what it means to be in a long distance relationship with a lot of uncertainty ...is your relationship built only on lets move to the states and live happily ever after of if push comes to shove will you both move somewhere else to be together....understand that both of you are the core or the relationship not where you both move to or circumstances around you.Family and friends support is also very essential!

[retheem 568]

16 hours ago, Morgan&Stacey said:

I have tried to make her see that it’s all because of the time we have had apart. I had tickets booked to fly to dominican republic for 2 weeks then to fly to her for 2 weeks, i was supposed to be leaving September 23rd but I feel like she is pretty adamant about this. I’m tired of fighting and I have tried so hard but she just keeps saying ‘I can’t do this.’ 
I offered a break but she just keeps saying the same thing time and time again. It’s heart shattering. 

Am so sorry to hear this. A relationship- that goes also for marriage, is for two people who want and are willing to make it work whatever the cost. Rather it happened now than later when she starts seeking for divorce. And who knows, it may be God's way to lead you to thee right person. Also, this trying time has tested relationships and marriages to the core. Only those which are based on the right foundation will survive this.

[retheem 568]

5 hours ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

Long distance relationships take alot of commitment and believe...i think it boils down to what foundation you both build your relationship on. ...lots of people here have been waiting years and they are still strong together ...you guys should ask @Dale what it means to be in a long distance relationship with a lot of uncertainty ...is your relationship built only on lets move to the states and live happily ever after of if push comes to shove will you both move somewhere else to be together....understand that both of you are the core or the relationship not where you both move to or circumstances around you.Family and friends support is also very essential!

Take two Budweiser beers on my bill tab!. This is the best advice I have seen in a while

[Morgan&Stacey 20]

5 hours ago, Sparkle Sparkle said:

Long distance relationships take alot of commitment and believe...i think it boils down to what foundation you both build your relationship on. ...lots of people here have been waiting years and they are still strong together ...you guys should ask @Dale what it means to be in a long distance relationship with a lot of uncertainty ...is your relationship built only on lets move to the states and live happily ever after of if push comes to shove will you both move somewhere else to be together....understand that both of you are the core or the relationship not where you both move to or circumstances around you.Family and friends support is also very essential!

We planned to move to the UK if needed in the future. I honestly don’t care where I am, i would live on a boat in the middle

of the atlantic for the rest of my life if needed. 
There is no question of my commitment to her and as far as I was aware there was no question on her part but the communication unfortunately broke down and depression got in the way. 

It’s nothing i can control and I don’t want to give up but I’m also not going to push her into something that she can’t be in right now. My heart is honestly in a million pieces right now and only time will tell, but as far as I am aware she’s done with this.