mother in law planning wedding!!!! OMG...lol

[sutton 0]

ok..................My fiance (chris) will be here in 12 days for a visit..............thank god!!! it has been 3 months since seeing each other.

Anyway, i had mentioned about visiting chris in mississippi and now i am seriously thinking about it. i love his mom to death BUt she is planning a wedding. Besides not wanting her to have the responsibility...........me and chris want a small wedding, nothing extra.......

when i go through POE is it a ggod idea to tell them i am going down to mississippi to make wedding arrangements. And besides it looks like it will be another 5 months or so for interview and chris has no holidays left, it would be more convienient for me to go there..

i have bills, bank statements and pay stubs for proof..........BUT i recently got laid off from work becase i am having nose surgery in july. So really i am unemployed for the moment, is that going to be problem?

[Flames9_RN 358]

I sure wouldn't tell them about making wedding arrangements!! Only answer tehir questions!! Dont tell ur life story. Be confident with ur responses, and be brief!!! I never offered up anything unless I was asked!!

[sutton 0]

I sure wouldn't tell them about making wedding arrangements!! Only answer tehir questions!! Dont tell ur life story. Be confident with ur responses, and be brief!!! I never offered up anything unless I was asked!!

so best thing to say is "i am going to visit my fiance.

[Flames9_RN 358]

THey would ask me "business or for pleasure" I would respond "for a holiday (or pleasure) and returning on such a such date, ot u could say fiance. Always tell the truth, but dont blab away,lol Be confident, look them in their eyes! They are looking for people that are lying (very nervous) Doont travel with a lot of luggage or job resumes (in case u get searched)

[Jashley820 0]

THey would ask me "business or for pleasure" I would respond "for a holiday (or pleasure) and returning on such a such date, ot u could say fiance. Always tell the truth, but dont blab away,lol Be confident, look them in their eyes! They are looking for people that are lying (very nervous) Doont travel with a lot of luggage or job resumes (in case u get searched)

Be really careful with this situation. I tried to visit my fiance (at the time) and they asked me what I did for a living. I told them I was unemployed. I got hauled into secondary, spent two hours in questioning, and ultimately got sent back to Canada because I didn't have proof that I had a reason to go back. It sucked!! Plus, they said if I tried to cross again, I would be banned for 10 years. Not fun. Scariest day of my life.

Flames is right- answer truthfully and be confident, but bring as much evidence that you can to show you're going back!! Don't mention a wedding!!

[vanee 13]

I understand about not giving more information than necessary, but I remember reading here that planning a wedding is considered a valid reason to go to the US to visit your fiance. Of course they still want all the evidence of ties to your country. But if they already know that you're engaged, what's the problem in telling them that you'll be working on wedding plans for a wedding that will take place after your K-1 is approved? That is, as long as you bring all your K-1 application paperwork to show that you're planning on doing things the legal way.

[vanee 13]

BUT i recently got laid off from work becase i am having nose surgery in july. So really i am unemployed for the moment, is that going to be problem?

Ah, that might be a reason not to mention wedding planning. But I don't know.

I'm self-employed, so I can't bring a letter from an employer. I did bring a letter from my landlady and some household bills (phone, cable, etc.), and they may have helped. If you have a lease or mortgage, those documents could help too. But there are no guarantees.

[Lance27 19]

I was refused entry last year the first time I was hauled into secondary. They told me that if i could prove enough ties to Canada I might be let accross but its not a guarantee. So I got together all my documents and went down to the border again a couple weeks later and crossed and I had no problems the second time. The last visit was in April when I went down to join my wife and we headed off to Greece.

As long as you can show sufficient ties to Canada you should be good.

THey would ask me "business or for pleasure" I would respond "for a holiday (or pleasure) and returning on such a such date, ot u could say fiance. Always tell the truth, but dont blab away,lol Be confident, look them in their eyes! They are looking for people that are lying (very nervous) Doont travel with a lot of luggage or job resumes (in case u get searched)

Be really careful with this situation. I tried to visit my fiance (at the time) and they asked me what I did for a living. I told them I was unemployed. I got hauled into secondary, spent two hours in questioning, and ultimately got sent back to Canada because I didn't have proof that I had a reason to go back. It sucked!! Plus, they said if I tried to cross again, I would be banned for 10 years. Not fun. Scariest day of my life.

Flames is right- answer truthfully and be confident, but bring as much evidence that you can to show you're going back!! Don't mention a wedding!!

[sutton 0]

I was refused entry last year the first time I was hauled into secondary. They told me that if i could prove enough ties to Canada I might be let accross but its not a guarantee. So I got together all my documents and went down to the border again a couple weeks later and crossed and I had no problems the second time. The last visit was in April when I went down to join my wife and we headed off to Greece.

As long as you can show sufficient ties to Canada you should be good.

THey would ask me "business or for pleasure" I would respond "for a holiday (or pleasure) and returning on such a such date, ot u could say fiance. Always tell the truth, but dont blab away,lol Be confident, look them in their eyes! They are looking for people that are lying (very nervous) Doont travel with a lot of luggage or job resumes (in case u get searched)

Be really careful with this situation. I tried to visit my fiance (at the time) and they asked me what I did for a living. I told them I was unemployed. I got hauled into secondary, spent two hours in questioning, and ultimately got sent back to Canada because I didn't have proof that I had a reason to go back. It sucked!! Plus, they said if I tried to cross again, I would be banned for 10 years. Not fun. Scariest day of my life.

Flames is right- answer truthfully and be confident, but bring as much evidence that you can to show you're going back!! Don't mention a wedding!!

thanks for info..........................All my bills are sent to my canadian address and i may be able to get a letter from work stating i am still emplyed with them. i also have doctor appointments schedules as well. Do you think that will be enough. I plan on crossing in halifax. Do you know how long i can stay for. Would i be pushing if i say 1-2 months.

[Glady 0]

ok..................My fiance (chris) will be here in 12 days for a visit..............thank god!!! it has been 3 months since seeing each other.

Anyway, i had mentioned about visiting chris in mississippi and now i am seriously thinking about it. i love his mom to death BUt she is planning a wedding. Besides not wanting her to have the responsibility...........me and chris want a small wedding, nothing extra.......

when i go through POE is it a ggod idea to tell them i am going down to mississippi to make wedding arrangements. And besides it looks like it will be another 5 months or so for interview and chris has no holidays left, it would be more convienient for me to go there..

i have bills, bank statements and pay stubs for proof..........BUT i recently got laid off from work becase i am having nose surgery in july. So really i am unemployed for the moment, is that going to be problem?

I'm currently in the US visiting my wife while Iwaite for an Interview. Just answer their questions. Bring bank statements, JOb letter and pay stubs, Bring a mortgage orlease if you have one and that should be good. i've been doing this for almost three years this way. A few times i was pulled into secondary but they let me go anyway. stick to fact that you are visiting and will be returning. If you have information on you that suggest you are going there to plan for a wedding then let them know because they might search your luggage if they pull you into secondary. If not there is no need to shar that information. Good luck.

[sutton 0]

ok..................My fiance (chris) will be here in 12 days for a visit..............thank god!!! it has been 3 months since seeing each other.

Anyway, i had mentioned about visiting chris in mississippi and now i am seriously thinking about it. i love his mom to death BUt she is planning a wedding. Besides not wanting her to have the responsibility...........me and chris want a small wedding, nothing extra.......

when i go through POE is it a ggod idea to tell them i am going down to mississippi to make wedding arrangements. And besides it looks like it will be another 5 months or so for interview and chris has no holidays left, it would be more convienient for me to go there..

i have bills, bank statements and pay stubs for proof..........BUT i recently got laid off from work becase i am having nose surgery in july. So really i am unemployed for the moment, is that going to be problem?

I'm currently in the US visiting my wife while Iwaite for an Interview. Just answer their questions. Bring bank statements, JOb letter and pay stubs, Bring a mortgage orlease if you have one and that should be good. i've been doing this for almost three years this way. A few times i was pulled into secondary but they let me go anyway. stick to fact that you are visiting and will be returning. If you have information on you that suggest you are going there to plan for a wedding then let them know because they might search your luggage if they pull you into secondary. If not there is no need to shar that information. Good luck.

yes i have bank statements, pay stubs and i think i can get a letter saying i am still working for my empoyer.........i do not have rent statement though because i stay with my mom. Do you think they will have a problem if i stay for a month. I may need to have surgery in august so do you think a doctor note stating my appointment for surgery would be good as well.....................thanks

[Misty1979 0]

I think stating that you are staying for a month is fine. I usually stay for 6-8 weeks whenever I go, and I've been fine so far. I usually just bring pay stubs since I as well don't have mortgage payments, etc.

Also, as far as my experience goes, crossing the border by land or water seems to get you less harassment. They are more inclined to ask more questions when travelling by air these days due to security I'm guessing.

However, if you don't have the option of avoiding the flight scene, just go along with what everyone else said about only answering what they ask, and not volunteering extra info.

[thermophile 0]

my 2 cents. when they ask the purpose of your trip, I'd say "visiting my fiance we're in the K1 process would you like to see our application?" Usually Flames is right on, but this time I totally dissagree (and it may just be the male/female difference) but the one time that I said that I was "visiting friends" instead of "visiting my boyfriend" I was had to talk to immigration for 45 minutes because the customs officer in the little box thought that my answer was dishonest.