Wife came to the US and left me 3 days later

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

10 hours ago, Tim360 said:

I married a Brazilian girl 3 years ago, I waited for her to come here for 2 years, she kept stalling saying that she has family issues and she uploaded her papers to the NVC website when it was close to our 2 year marriage anniversary. 

she passed her interview and got her visa, arrived here one month after our 2 year anniversary, stayed here for 3 days, all of a sudden she started fighting with me and took her stuff and left.

this was 8 months ago, I was trying to find her ever since but I have no idea where she is, her green card never arrived here so she probably changed her address.

She only answers to my emails, no matter what I say she replies with something like "you are a terrible abusive person"

She told me to file for divorce and said that if I won't then she will.

What can I do? should I report her for fraud to ice? how can I do that? how can I prove that? 

I am afraid to report her because I don't want them to think that I was a part of her plan, I also don't want my parents to get into trouble because they wrote letters saying that our marriage was great. 

 

1.  Protect yourself both physically and legally through an attorney.

2.  File for divorce

3.  If you have solid proof of fraud, you can report it.

4.  Move on & Seek happiness for yourself.

 

Sounds like she planned this, BUT, you will have a difficult time proving fraud unless you have emails from her stating she used you.  YOU PROVIDED USCIS AND DOS WITH SUFFICIENT EVIDENCE THAT THE MARRIAGE WAS BONA FIDE.  Her statements of "You are an abusive person" are setting you up........Unfortunately, you are financially responsible for her for several years.  It is probably in your best interest for her to gain citizenship as soon as possible.  Let it go, and find happiness.......

 

I am tagging this thread for future reference  "Tales of the Green Card"

Edited July 29, 2020 by Lucky Cat

[Boiler 45,558]

38 minutes ago, retheem said:

She waited for 2 years coz she knew she will be an IR1. Forget about her and move on. On a side note, I have seen lots of cases like that; you will be surprised to know that most of those people never progress well afterwards. Life has a very funny way of teaching one a lesson

I have seen thousands but not sure I have seen any reports on how they have progressed, where do you get your information from?

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

43 minutes ago, retheem said:

you will be surprised to know that most of those people never progress well afterwards. Life has a very funny way of teaching one a lesson

Yes, I am surprised.  I don't believe this........

Edited July 29, 2020 by Lucky Cat

[Deagle 508]

When she left the house, did she take anything that belongs to you or something that you paid for? If yes, you should have at least file a police report for theft. That will help locating her.

[JFH 12,190]

ICE are not there to mop up after failed marriages. They are to protect the citizens and residents of this country from overseas criminal gangs, illegal workers, and other criminal activity. It’s possible she was using you. It’s also possible that “vacation you” was completely different to “at home you” and she wasn’t happy when she arrived. It’s often the case that people who have only spent time together in a vacation setting never see the real person. The relationship is great when it’s all hotels, nights out, restaurants, beaches, etc and then when reality hits and they are here and the spouse is gone all day at work and comes home tired and stressed it’s suddenly a lot less attractive. Since she left after three days she hardly saw anything of life here with you but maybe she saw enough? We only have your side of the story. 

 

You picked her. You brought her here. You spent a lot of money and countless hours putting together a case for the government that the relationship was real. It’s embarrassing to realise someone has made a fool out of you but that’s life. Divorce and move on. Protect your assets. Be thankful there are no children involved. 

[Just Paul 4,595]

I'm surprised that there weren't any other warning signs other that slowing down the process to insure her 10 year green card.

[Carpe Vinum 2,327]

8 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

I'm surprised that there weren't any other warning signs other that slowing down the process to insure her 10 year green card.

I'm sure there were. Love is blind. Semi-blind at best)

[Pelmeni 39]

Wow, I wouldn't agree to a divorce unless it specifically is written to your benefit like she gives up all rights to anything. Depending on your state you could try an annulment based on fraud or abandonment. It's more complicated and I don't know how that would affect her status if the marriage is annulled rather than a divorce. Annulments state that the marriage was not valid sort of thing from what I understand. 

[ZirZai 36]

Definitely report her. I heard of a case similar to yours.The guy applied for his spouse and she entered the country receiving the 10 years green card, but unlike your lady that spent 3 days she never came to her husband and landed somewhere else receiving her 10 years green card. The guy reports her and although they cant do anything about her while she was here they did say she was flagged (or green card was) and whenever she decided to leave the country for a visit and try to come back her green card would be taken away from her and she would have to face the immigration judge and stuff. So over all a good end.

[geowrian 22,337]

13 minutes ago, Pelmeni said:

Wow, I wouldn't agree to a divorce unless it specifically is written to your benefit like she gives up all rights to anything. Depending on your state you could try an annulment based on fraud or abandonment. It's more complicated and I don't know how that would affect her status if the marriage is annulled rather than a divorce. Annulments state that the marriage was not valid sort of thing from what I understand. 

She doesn't need his support to agree to a divorce.

An annulment itself does not change anything immigration-wise. A divorce and annulment are equal to USCIS - they both dissolve a marriage.

If there is a court finding of fraud, that may or may not be something USCIS would consider if they ever reviewed her file.

 

3 minutes ago, ZirZai said:

Definitely report her. I heard of a case similar to yours.The guy applied for his spouse and she entered the country receiving the 10 years green card, but unlike your lady that spent 3 days she never came to her husband and landed somewhere else receiving her 10 years green card. The guy reports her and although they cant do anything about her while she was here they did say she was flagged (or green card was) and whenever she decided to leave the country for a visit and try to come back her green card would be taken away from her and she would have to face the immigration judge and stuff. So over all a good end.

I'm not buying it, at least as described (I'm going to assume there was a lot of other details). CBP cannot "take your green card". They can refer you to an immigration judge if they have reason to suspect grounds for removal, although there would be no need to go through the whole CBP side of things. The same process (NTA -> court hearing) applies whether they do it in the US or at the border. Getting CBP involved is just adding complexity.

[mushroomspore 3,044]

On 7/29/2020 at 1:17 PM, SJordanS said:

 

Therr isn't much else to say to OP. He can report his ex but that action is not going to initiate an investigation. Ex already has her GC anyway so OP is still on the hook for I-864. Unless he gets physical proof in writing or recording of her admitting she only used him for the GC, he's got nothing. So the only thing to do is (wait for it) divorce and move on.

Edited July 31, 2020 by Penguin_ie
quoting removed comment

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

 

28 minutes ago, ZirZai said:

The guy reports her and although they cant do anything about her while she was here they did say she was flagged (or green card was) and whenever she decided to leave the country for a visit and try to come back her green card would be taken away from her and she would have to face the immigration judge and stuff. So over all a good end.

Nope.   Not possible.  It doesn't work like that.  CBP does not judge fraud.  

Edited July 29, 2020 by Lucky Cat

[Tim360 2]

27 minutes ago, ZirZai said:

Definitely report her. I heard of a case similar to yours.The guy applied for his spouse and she entered the country receiving the 10 years green card, but unlike your lady that spent 3 days she never came to her husband and landed somewhere else receiving her 10 years green card. The guy reports her and although they cant do anything about her while she was here they did say she was flagged (or green card was) and whenever she decided to leave the country for a visit and try to come back her green card would be taken away from her and she would have to face the immigration judge and stuff. So over all a good end.

I wish this was true but I doubt it, where did you hear about this?

[JFH 12,190]

34 minutes ago, Tim360 said:

I wish this was true but I doubt it, where did you hear about this?

Are you just looking for revenge at this stage? She’s been out of your life for 8 months. She’s nothing to you now except a bad memory. What does it matter to you whether she stays here or not (apart from the I-864, but you don’t seem to bothered about that). Would it make you feel better if she was stopped at the airport and sent back to Brazil? It’s very unlikely to happen, by the way. 

[Tim360 2]

Just now, JFH said:

Are you just looking for revenge at this stage? She’s been out of your life for 8 months. She’s nothing to you now except a bad memory. What does it matter to you whether she stays here or not (apart from the I-864, but you don’t seem to bothered about that). Would it make you feel better if she was stopped at the airport and sent back to Brazil? It’s very unlikely to happen, by the way. 

Yes it would make me feel better because she used me and she should not be here, if they call me when she applies for citizenship i will for sure tell them that she scammed me