Wife came to the US and left me 3 days later

[Tim360 2]

I married a Brazilian girl 3 years ago, I waited for her to come here for 2 years, she kept stalling saying that she has family issues and she uploaded her papers to the NVC website when it was close to our 2 year marriage anniversary. 

she passed her interview and got her visa, arrived here one month after our 2 year anniversary, stayed here for 3 days, all of a sudden she started fighting with me and took her stuff and left.

this was 8 months ago, I was trying to find her ever since but I have no idea where she is, her green card never arrived here so she probably changed her address.

She only answers to my emails, no matter what I say she replies with something like "you are a terrible abusive person"

She told me to file for divorce and said that if I won't then she will.

What can I do? should I report her for fraud to ice? how can I do that? how can I prove that? 

I am afraid to report her because I don't want them to think that I was a part of her plan, I also don't want my parents to get into trouble because they wrote letters saying that our marriage was great. 

 

[aaron2020 11,651]

Sorry.

 

You know that you got used for a green card.

 

She timed it perfectly so she would get a 10 years green card.

 

Divorce, protect yourself, and move on.  

[Tim360 2]

1 minute ago, aaron2020 said:

Sorry.

 

You know that you got used for a green card.

 

She timed it perfectly so she would get a 10 years green card.

 

Divorce, protect yourself, and move on.  

So I can't report her?

You see that it's fraud so maybe they will too?

Edited July 29, 2020 by Tim360

[aaron2020 11,651]

1 minute ago, Tim360 said:

So I can't report her?

You see that it's fraud so maybe they will too?

You can report her to USCIS if you want.

 

While I can see it, you need solid proof.  Otherwise, it's her words vs. yours.  Save yourself from a lot of grief and let it go.  Move on with your life and forget about her.  

[Tim360 2]

Just now, aaron2020 said:

You can report her to USCIS if you want.

 

While I can see it, you need solid proof.  Otherwise, it's her words vs. yours.  Save yourself from a lot of grief and let it go.  Move on with your life and forget about her.  

Her leaving after 3 days is not a good proof?

[aaron2020 11,651]

Just now, Tim360 said:

Her leaving after 3 days is not a good proof?

No, it's not.

 

Maybe you beat her and that's why she left.  See how easy it is to leave up to interpretation?  

 

You are not he first person that his has happened to.  Search on VJ and you will find lots of cases.  The best advice is for you to divorce, protect yourself, move on, and forget about her.  

[Stein 276]

You were used for a green card.  You can divorce her but remember you will be on the hook to support her for 10 years (40 quarters) if she stays in the US.  She knew how to game the system so I'm sure she knows this rule as well.

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3 hours ago, Tim360 said:

I married a Brazilian girl 3 years ago, I waited for her to come here for 2 years, she kept stalling saying that she has family issues and she uploaded her papers to the NVC website when it was close to our 2 year marriage anniversary. 

she passed her interview and got her visa, arrived here one month after our 2 year anniversary, stayed here for 3 days, all of a sudden she started fighting with me and took her stuff and left.

this was 8 months ago, I was trying to find her ever since but I have no idea where she is, her green card never arrived here so she probably changed her address.

She only answers to my emails, no matter what I say she replies with something like "you are a terrible abusive person"

She told me to file for divorce and said that if I won't then she will.

What can I do? should I report her for fraud to ice? how can I do that? how can I prove that? 

I am afraid to report her because I don't want them to think that I was a part of her plan, I also don't want my parents to get into trouble because they wrote letters saying that our marriage was great. 

 

Sounds like she had it all planned out. If, and I do mean IF, she did scam you...she knew what she was doing. Seems like she knew more about immigration than you did. Because she only came here after the 2 year mark. This makes the marriage seem more legit. When you were doing the immigration for her, did you understand the risks involved? Did you know the difference between the 2 year conditional green card and a 10 year green card? Do you understand that you are still responsible for her financially even if you two separate or divorce per the Affidavit of Support you signed?

 

 

3 hours ago, Tim360 said:

So I can't report her?

You see that it's fraud so maybe they will too?

You can try but it may be futile. You spent all of your efforts proving that the marriage was real. Also, you even said your own parents wrote affidavits claiming that the marriage was real. No you want to turn around and say it is not? Look at it this way, you stayed married to her for 3 years, your family knew about her and welcomed her. It is really difficult to prove that it is 100% fraud. 

 

 

3 hours ago, Tim360 said:

Her leaving after 3 days is not a good proof?

That alone is not going to do it. In fact, how do you know that she is not going through culture shock by moving away from her family in her country? Or how do you know that she may have been unhappy in the marriage and the move here pushed her over the edge? I'm not saying these things happened, I'm saying that those are arguments that can be made on why it's NOT fraud. 

 

I'm sorry you are going through this. But we see things like this happen. You definitely will not be the last. The best advice for you now is to protect yourself. Make sure she doesn't have access to your bank account or credit card in case. Be sure you document everything that involves any interactions with you (calls, text, etc). I know you want to find her to get the answers you want but don't go too deep in searching for her. It can easily turn into a harassment or stalking case against you if you do too much. And don't waste you efforts on trying to get her deported. It is likely not going to happen. It would take a mound of undisputed evidence with her practically admitting in court to have frauded you.

 

ICE is not going to track her down. I repeat, ICE, or immigration is NOT going to track her down nor deport her. If you look at how ICE operates, they focus more on hard criminals and illegal workers. Not failed marriages. Even if the spouse moves out after only 3 days of living together, it is not enough to warrant a search and detainment.

 

You have to accept that she is here to stay. You have to move on and take care of yourself. If anything, you can learn from this experience. 

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Divorce and move on, you were played.

[Stein 276]

If you do try to keep in contact with her keep it on email.  She MAY say something that can be used later against her.  Just don't get caught up in it and say something that can be used against YOU.

[Daria Parkinson 43]

How often I’m seeing such topics over here...

I am sending you strength. I really want you to stay sane and take care of yourself.

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

8 hours ago, Stein said:

You were used for a green card.  You can divorce her but remember you will be on the hook to support her for 10 years (40 quarters) if she stays in the US.  She knew how to game the system so I'm sure she knows this rule as well.

Or life if she chooses not to work. 

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9 hours ago, Tim360 said:

I married a Brazilian girl 3 years ago, I waited for her to come here for 2 years, she kept stalling saying that she has family issues and she uploaded her papers to the NVC website when it was close to our 2 year marriage anniversary. 

she passed her interview and got her visa, arrived here one month after our 2 year anniversary, stayed here for 3 days, all of a sudden she started fighting with me and took her stuff and left.

this was 8 months ago, I was trying to find her ever since but I have no idea where she is, her green card never arrived here so she probably changed her address.

She only answers to my emails, no matter what I say she replies with something like "you are a terrible abusive person"

She told me to file for divorce and said that if I won't then she will.

What can I do? should I report her for fraud to ice? how can I do that? how can I prove that? 

I am afraid to report her because I don't want them to think that I was a part of her plan, I also don't want my parents to get into trouble because they wrote letters saying that our marriage was great. 

 

She waited for 2 years coz she knew she will be an IR1. Forget about her and move on. On a side note, I have seen lots of cases like that; you will be surprised to know that most of those people never progress well afterwards. Life has a very funny way of teaching one a lesson

[geowrian 22,337]

9 hours ago, Tim360 said:

So I can't report her?

You see that it's fraud so maybe they will too?

You can report, but don't expect them to do anything about it.

Believing it was probably fraud upon hearing one side's story is a lot different than proving it was fraud when they have the chance to defend themselves.

 

Now if she tries to - for example - divorce then bring over a spouse from her home country (a common fraud scheme), I would expect them to scrutinize the history at that point because she's applying for a new benefit.

They may or may not scrutinize her if she tries to naturalize. My money is no, but it has happened.

In the end, the best thing to do now is to take care of yourself, not focus on her.