Withdrawing my affidavit of support and greencard

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

4 minutes ago, Demise said:

You can't withdraw an affidavit of support after a visa has been already issued.

She could have withdrawn the I-864 before the green card was approved.......but that is water under the bridge now.

[JFH 12,190]

5 hours ago, Lucky Cat said:

This is going to be very expensive for you....and possibly fruitless......unfortunately.  I would just move on with my life....while hoping he gains citizenship as soon as possible.

Or stays “playing house” with baby momma in the DR, therefore abandoning his residency. 

[JFH 12,190]

As others have said, your story is unfortunately by no means unique or unusual. USCIS receives dozens of calls or emails a week from disappointed or embarrassed spouses who went to a lot of trouble and financial effort to bring someone here, thinking he/she was the person of their dreams only for it to fall apart. That’s life. Your affidavit of support cannot be rescinded at this stage. If he’s been in DR since March and is playing happy families with his baby momma there you could be in luck that he decides to stay there permanently.  Every day that he is there is a day he can’t access public assistance here which reduces your risk of being sued by the government. And the longer he stays out of the country the more difficult it will be for him to convince authorities that he is maintaining residency here. If he does stay here, you want to hope he files for citizenship as soon as he is able to. 
 

There is a mistaken belief among people in your situation that an annulment will cancel out the immigration matter. But they are unaware of how difficult it is to get an annulment. Nothing of what you have said here suggests you have grounds for an annulment. You were of legal age when you married, you were of sound mind when you married, you married voluntarily, you have consummated the marriage willingly, he did not commit fraud that you can prove. Being a player and having girls on the side is not enough for an annulment. It’s absolutely enough for a divorce to be granted. And this should be your focus. 
 

Cut him out of your life for good and find happiness with someone else. 

[Unlockable 7,314]

1 hour ago, JFH said:

Or stays “playing house” with baby momma in the DR, therefore abandoning his residency. 

Interesting fact... in the DR, couples who live together routinely call each other husband and wife. Discovered this a while back. And over time I realize that some married couples I met were not able to obtain certain benefits as a married couple because they were not legally married. Many go for years as a "married couple" without ever having it legitimized.

 

I don't think this is the plan of the OP's husband. I think he has a long game plan to bring them over eventually. 

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

3 hours ago, JFH said:

If he’s been in DR since March and is playing happy families with his baby momma there you could be in luck that he decides to stay there permanently.

I believe the OP said he has returned, and he is now living with his sister inside the US.

[Sunnshine 7]

18 hours ago, Marcia27 said:

He threaten to file divorce under domestic violence. I was reading on here I reported him to USCIS just now. provided his new address. I wish I never met him. He has made my life a living hell. I even been on anxiety medication. 

I’m sorry this happened to you. I went through the same thing. My ex husband told me that he was going to say i was abusing him, in order for him to stay. I have so many text messages between him and the other woman planning for him to be with her. I divorced him, and he and the woman are excepting a baby. I even have conversations showing where he wanted to burn me up in my apartment and I sent it to USCIS....it was a mess. First thing is to protect yourself. Reach out to an attorney and seek advice. I spoke to one regarding the affidavit of support, and he was telling me that he hardly see it affect the US citizen. 

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

1 hour ago, ReneeJas said:

I spoke to one regarding the affidavit of support, and he was telling me that he hardly see it affect the US citizen. 

Maybe he hasn't personally seen it, but the I-864 is an enforceable, binding contract.  I-864s can be enforced by the government as well used as a consideration in some divorce proceedings....

[mushroomspore 3,044]

20 hours ago, Marcia27 said:

Unfortunately, yes I did. I was still under the impression we were a couple! before his final betrayal. 

 

 

Really sorry you are going through this. As others have pointed out, you have no control over his immigration status. He can still file RoC if he needs to and then become a citizen. But this also depends on him staying out of further trouble. The infidelity is awful but it has zero effect on his immigration. You would need solid evidence where he admits he only married you for the GC. USCIS does not initiate fraud investigations based off of tips from ex-partners or else they'd be engaged in a million wild goose chases. They need very hard proof to just begin the investigation. I also suggest talking to a therapist for your mental health and to navigate the complex feelings of betrayal and hurt. It may sound over the top but it's better to talk to a trained professional than allow the feelings to fester.

[Mezyan 149]

16 hours ago, JFH said:

Or stays “playing house” with baby momma in the DR, therefore abandoning his residency. 

How do you prove one has abandoned residency?

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

1 minute ago, Mezyan said:

How do you prove one has abandoned residency?

Length of time outside the US......

https://www.uscis.gov/green-card/after-we-grant-your-green-card/maintaining-permanent-residence

[Sunnshine 7]

21 hours ago, Lucky Cat said:

Maybe he hasn't personally seen it, but the I-864 is an enforceable, binding contract.  I-864s can be enforced by the government as well used as a consideration in some divorce proceedings....

I understand that, just saying what he told me. I’m in the same situation as she is, being attached to someone with the affidavit for someone that used me to get here