Foreign fiancee pregnant by someone else

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Look, let’s assume the best case scenario.  Let’s assume she got pregnant by an ex boyfriend who she was totally faithful to right before you met.  Maybe I’m being too generous, but I’ll go with that because I can’t assume anything here.  So she’s 45 days from giving birth.  That means she’s known she was pregnant for 4,5,6 months?

 

and how long did it take her to tell you?  I can tell you one very important thing about relationships.  They are built on open communication and trust.  You do not have that.  She kept that from you.  Regardless of her reason, she’s not mature enough for a loving relationship.  You are setting yourself up to be a victim with no recourse if you go through with it.  I would tell her that you are going to put things on hold.  Cancel the i129f and go see her.  Then reapply later.  When she freaks out and tries everything to manipulate you into moving forward, you’ll know what kind of person she is.  Best of luck

[Christy&J 837]

16 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

That's still to be determined.

I am sure as US citizen you are aware with it ... do not put your name on birth certificate. Once you were become the legal " father " you are hooked for 18 years for child support. She cheated on you before marriage, trust me once people cheat they will always cheat. 

 

 

[Marieke H 2,523]

13 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

From the limited information that I have been able to gather, she originally was going to terminate (and likely never tell me), however she has a few issues with her reproductive side of things, and her doctor essentially told her "It's a miracle you were even able to get pregnant, it's not likely to happen again". After hearing that she chose not to terminate and keep it from me for quite a long while, obviously.

 

I still don't know all the details, but suffice to say things aren't exactly looking promising.

If this is true, imagine how many times they had to try before this miracle pregnancy happened...

 

Seriously, run. You deserve much better. 

[SJordanS 343]

17 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

Going to try and keep this short, mainly looking for more information to see what kind of complications will arise.

 

USC male here, submitted i-129F back in Jan 2020, still in the waiting process.

 

Found out that my foreign fiancee is currently pregnant, and the child is definitely not mine.

I don't know much for details currently, as it led to a rather larger fight, as one might assume.

 

Providing we decide to move forward with our relationship and such, what kind of complications should I expect when it comes to getting approval for the K1 Visa?

 

Given the time frame of everything, unless the K1 is approved within the next 45 days or so (😂), child will not be born on US soil.

 

If we decide to continue to move forward and bring her child here, if she puts the father down on the BC, I know we would have to get a release from him to even be able to bring the child over, but what kind of things would be required on my part, short of a CRBA?

Just some reflecting here...since it was "so difficult" for her to even get pregnant, as she claims, and a "miracle" that she even conceived, for the sake of argument here lets go with her claim (even though none of us are buying that from her)...this was not a one time "thing" that happened with her and this man. Lets say it was an ex....as difficult as it is for her to get pregnant, there were many and I mean MANY hookups and tries. Please save yourself. You will find love again. Dont bear this responsibility. 

[Orangesapples 1,954]

3 minutes ago, SJordanS said:

Just some reflecting here...since it was "so difficult" for her to even get pregnant, as she claims, and a "miracle" that she even conceived, for the sake of argument here lets go with her claim (even though none of us are buying that from her)...this was not a one time "thing" that happened with her and this man. Lets say it was an ex....as difficult as it is for her to get pregnant, there were many and I mean MANY hookups and tries. Please save yourself. You will find love again. Dont bear this responsibility. 

That's not necessarily true. 

[SJordanS 343]

1 minute ago, Orangesapples said:

That's not necessarily true. 

True....but neither is her claim so...🤷‍♀️

[SJordanS 343]

28 minutes ago, Marieke H said:

If this is true, imagine how many times they had to try before this miracle pregnancy happened...

 

Seriously, run. You deserve much better. 

EXACTLY what I was saying.

[momofmeli 13]

I can’t imagine how one still can think to be with someone who cheated on him plus got pregnant, no way!. I would just stop all immigration process and broke up immediately.

[Soup Dragon 104]

Tell her you will move to Russia and see what her reaction is

[TT & R 6]

18 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

That's still to be determined.

Run away as fast as you can.

 

She just did you a favor being this early  

 

Vs 10 years down road with kids of your own. 

 

You deserve better dude.  

[Sarge2155 4,590]

1 hour ago, Christy&J said:

I am sure as US citizen you are aware with it ... do not put your name on birth certificate. Once you were become the legal " father " you are hooked for 18 years for child support. She cheated on you before marriage, trust me once people cheat they will always cheat. 

 

 

Although not necessarily true about once always a cheater, let's give people credit as they do have the capacity to change!! But in this case there is not that much love in the world to continue with this K1. I'm sure the OP loves her and that's what is talking now his heart, but trust me if he does it he will forever regret it later over the years especially if this is a ploy to get her GC then split then petition the baby daddy. Not saying that would happen, but at this point you have to put all the marbles on the table, you have to be aware of every out every avenue of approach. My advice to the OP is pick up your heart glue it together temporarily and haul butt. It'll only hurt for a little while!!!!

[Kittylovin 0]

I remember something about having to acknowledge that she is pregnant before the embassy will approve the visa.

[Cody&Razely 134]

OP, If you are into this sort of betrayal and lying, etc... Just grab anyone off of any online hook up site "Locally" skip the long distance and immigration. Honestly if your standards for your life are this low, you can literally just get into a relationship with any human being you've just met any where nearby you and get married with in a day or two to literally anyone you meet. Because in this situation you are on the fence about runs a higher risk in almost every conceivable way: health, Physical, emotional, mental, Financially, and anything else you can imagine, x 1,000 more than would marrying a complete stranger down the street from your house.

 

Yeah, she played you for a fool, it hurts, she lied and you extended trust it hurts, you want something out of this for all that you gave, but seriously. Just stop, there is nothing there, the character is not there and you are being lied to continually, any one who would do that is not someone for you guaranteed. Sorry you took a chance and this happened, but it doesn't matter if there is a chance for approval or not now. Just make a good choice for yourself and let it go, give it some time, re-asses what you want and need in a partner and maybe when you are over the pain, try again if that's your choice. Just my $0.02 (P.s. don't listen to the details anymore, or the sob story, or the I love you's or the but this, but that, etc.... the actions have already taken place, they speak volumes, just be glad you know before it is too late)

[lucardo3 220]

I only read the topic title and said '' No'' before even read actual content. There are approx 165 million women live in the US you can find one that is not a cheater and without all that immigration nonsense.

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

she sure seems like a master manipulator.