Foreign fiancee pregnant by someone else

[SalishSea 18,102]

7 hours ago, Solaris81 said:

If you get married to a pregnant woman and the baby isn't yours, whose name goes on the birth certificate... And why wouldn't you put yours? 

 

So much no.

[SalishSea 18,102]

7 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

I know I don't want to be legally responsible,

You will be though, if you bring them over and provide the affidavit of support.  

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[SalishSea 18,102]

2 hours ago, payxibka said:

Of course they can,  however,  it is rare.  In 15 years on this site, I think i have read about one turn around. 

@payxibka, was that the fellow who joked to CBP about maybe not getting married?

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3 hours ago, geowrian said:

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4 hours ago, Darlyn25 said:

You also have to think about do you really want to be tied to her for Ten years?

Or it can potentially last longer than that: "Support under the Form I-864 lasts until one of the five Terminating Events defined by federal statutes and regulations. Until one of these five events happens, the Form I-864 sponsor is bound by the contract and required to provide support when needed." http://www.i-864.net/how-long-does-the-i-864-support-last

[Daria Parkinson 43]

This is painful to find out.

Supporting you and sending you energy with all my heart.

[Unlockable 7,315]

This likely happens a whole lot more than we hear about it on this forum. I vaguely remember a couple of cases in the pass that were along the lines of the OP. This is an extremely difficult and embarrassing situation. I admire the courage of the OP to come here and discuss his options. But it also makes me wonder if he did it to get the 

 

I want to share a phrase I learned that should help you decide on what to do.... "Don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."

 

You may love her, desire her, and she has a lot of things you want in a wife. But she may not be for you. You can love someone without being with them. There is no governing, spiritual, or physical law that states you HAVE to marry someone because your love them. Some times people are not good for each other no matter how they feel about each other. I'm all for giving someone a chance if they make a mistake. But this may be something that is beyond restoration in my opinion.

 

Here are things to consider:

• You will be responsible for her and the child, even if you two divorce later. It is in the affidavit that you will sign for her.
• The bio father may want to be in the child's life and could very well have the right to say whether of not the child can leave the country.
• Having a child is stressful for any relationship. You two would be going from young loving newlyweds to a full family with huge responsibility and trust issues. You will not have given your marriage enough time to develop.
• The baby will multiply your financial expenses 10 fold.
• You don't seem the know the true nature of your fiance and the biofather's relationship. From your follow up post it seems you have little information about him. She may had some serious feelings for him now. Obviously, she has some feelings with him if she produced a child with him. But it could very well be more than a fling.
• This situation will put an extremely negative variable in your relationship. Immigration issues, assimilation issues, and financial issues are already waiting to put a burden on your relationship. Now you have to deal with trust and uncertainty.

To answer your question, it is possible for you to go through with the K1. But there may be some tough questions during the interview. If you are there during the interview (and I HIGHLY suggest you be at the interview if you move forward with this), she will need to be 100% truthful. The interview is not the time for surprises to pop up. And those officers may ask some really tough questions.

 

 

18 hours ago, GregAntillian said:

31m/32f

At 31 y/o, you have to realize that life is just now starting for you. Don't start it off on the wrong foot. You have a choice to direct the path you want to take. You can start a successful business or backpack around the world if you wanted to. You can still care for her and be there as a friend to her. 

 

If you do decide to continue... at least make the choice to delay the interview. Tell her you need some time before move forward. Give yourself a few months or even a year before finishing the process.

 

I truly wish you the best of luck. And if I knew you personally, I would have a case of whatever your favorite beverage waiting for you.

Edited July 23, 2020 by Unlockable

[Sparkle Sparkle 914]

Some have reported being asked straight questions like are you pregnant at the K1 Interview.... What will your pregnant fiance say when she claims she has seen you 1 year+ ago but she is 6months pregnant? (her medical will show that)  she is then asked who is the father?  The question is what's really in this relationship for you?  She is pregnant for another so it can't be a true relationship. 

[African Zealot 1,456]

Why are people so concerned/surprised about this? These days don’t we hear about polyamory all the time? Faithfulness is no longer a necessary requirement in relationships.To each his own and whatever floats his boat. 😂😁😂

 

VJ never disappoints, tales of the green card indeed! Maybe one should start thinking about writing a novel, more than enough material here.

Edited July 23, 2020 by Ray.Bonaquist

[Redheadguy03 505]

Look man you have to do what's best for you, but she already cheated once. (only time you actually know of) It's not going to get better. I'm not saying people can't change, but you deserve better.

 

When I started dating my wife who is from the Philippines my parents were automatically on edge. Due to them both being ex military and my dad having visited the Philippines and knowing about lots of prostitutes. (mom knew about tons of Filipinas who cheated and only wanted a green card) So they were genuinely concerned. Then they met her and was like wow she's an angel and how did I get so lucky.

What kind of impressions is your fiance going to make on your family when she got pregnant by another guy while engaged to you? Just something to think about, I know it's hard to leave relationships, especially if you've invested time, but you can do better! 

[Redheadguy03 505]

Just now, Ray.Bonaquist said:

Why are people so concerned/surprised about this? These days don’t we hear about polyamory all the time? To each his own and whatever floats his boat. 😂😁😂

 

VJ never disappoints, tales of the green card indeed! Maybe one should start thinking about writing a novel, more than enough material here.

People like 90 day fiance. I'm sure a book would sell. I'm imagining a chicken soup for the soul type book, but different. I don't know lol. 

[Ncornejo7 236]

8 hours ago, Ncornejo7 said:

Good luck with the relationship.

 

[Angela & Brendon 160]

I would dodge this bullet while you still see it coming dude. 

[TheKingmaker 153]