I129F denied due to 2 year meeting requirement, next steps for person with flying phobia? (merged)

[Blackbeekeeper 12]

On 7/23/2020 at 1:06 PM, devusr said:

Yeah, I just realized that yesterday.

 

Looks like I will temporarily stay there for about an year and file the CR1.

Ive been reading through your thread. If you’re that rich have you considered flying a chartered flight? That might be more bearable🤷🏾‍♀️

[devusr 41]

Sorry, one more question.

 

Although I originally filed the I-129F, I got an RFE to provide more evidence for the doctor's letter. When I got the RFE, I hired a lawyer and he included a "Form G-28 - Notice of Entry of Appearance or Accredited Representative". 

 

When I write the letter to withdraw to USCIS, does my lawyer need to send OR can I send? The lawyer is the one who received the denied letter.

 

[Just Paul 4,595]

1 hour ago, devusr said:

Sorry, one more question.

 

Although I originally filed the I-129F, I got an RFE to provide more evidence for the doctor's letter. When I got the RFE, I hired a lawyer and he included a "Form G-28 - Notice of Entry of Appearance or Accredited Representative". 

 

When I write the letter to withdraw to USCIS, does my lawyer need to send OR can I send? The lawyer is the one who received the denied letter.

 

You can send the letter, but you hired a lawyer so he can and should do it.

[kiwibean 45]

I really get that this is your real life, and we are giving advice only based on a snippet.  But I think you should go the "move to Sri Lanka" route.  Immigration wants evidence that you have a "real" marriage, and living with someone for a long period of time and being around their extended family is about a real as it gets.  Also, travel is so much more difficult in these times.  If your job will let you go to Sri Lanka, go.  Be with your love and be together.  You don't know what might happen with getting in/out of Sri Lanka, the US or the Bahamas.  Regulations are changing all the time, and none of us can predict what might happen next.  At least if you're stuck, you're stuck together.  

 

Dealing with US immigration is pretty shocking for your average American who isn't used to it.  We understand your frustration!  It's not "fair" sometimes.  And you have no choice but to deal with their sometimes arbitrary boundaries.

 

I realize a lot of the advice you're getting isn't the answers you were looking for.  But please know we are giving you our best advice based on our own experiences. For what it's worth, I married someone I'd been dating (in person) for over 5 years.  I'd known him for many more.  And the first year of marriage/living together was SO hard as we adjusted to living together.  If your love is as strong and true as you think it is, then it can face the scrutiny of a bunch of strangers.  Take the time to think about the advice and turn it over in your mind. If something is eliciting strong reactions from you, maybe there's a reason.

[Viking 142]

On 7/22/2020 at 10:51 AM, devusr said:

Yes, if one has unlimited money or a rich uncle , we can go to Sri Lanka by spaceship. No amount of medication can help this type of phobia, all it does is calm a person down a bit by reducing blood pressure....the anxiety is still there. Only a person with this condition can understand.

 

If I'm going to Sri Lanka, will a 3 week stay just once be enough?

How about addressing the fear itself-

there are many good courses to overcome Fear of flying - getting a basic understanding of what goes on - UP there - what the noises sounds sensations etc are and perhaps try it in a controlled environment have helped many passengers- contact your airline for additional information about finding help to overcome fear of flight. Where are you based ??

[Boiler 45,462]

I am wondering how the OP managed to travel from Sri Lanka to the US in the first place.

[Kerib86 0]

Be careful with sending that kind of money, my lawyer explicitly told me not to send any money or accept any money from my fiancée due to fraud, its a huge red flag. Also not meeting is another, they honestly don't care about your reasons. You cant look at these guys to have any sympathy. You need to satisfy their needs and wants at all costs, if you want to ensure your visa approval. Best of luck to you. I hope you can figure it out

Edited August 10, 2020 by Kerib86
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[Viking 142]

On 8/5/2020 at 11:39 PM, Viking said:

How about addressing the fear itself-

there are many good courses to overcome Fear of flying - getting a basic understanding of what goes on - UP there - what the noises sounds sensations etc are and perhaps try it in a controlled environment have helped many passengers- contact your airline for additional information about finding help to overcome fear of flight. Where are you based ??

@ devusr Did you give this any Thought.... I may be able to point you into the right direction.

Edited August 18, 2020 by Viking

[Rosemichelle 69]

On 7/22/2020 at 10:53 AM, devusr said:

I have severe flying phobia and even with medical evidence and the financial support I had given (30K+ USD), they denied my I-129F application. The beneficiary's family are long time friends of us and lives in Sri Lanka. Now I will file a CR1 but I cannot fly, especially since going to Sri Lanka from USA requires minimum 16+ hours and 3 flight changes. Only a person with flying phobia can understand.

 

I looked up somewhere where we can both meet. It looks like Montserrat (Caribbean islands) and Bahamas doesn't have any VISA requirements for Sri Lankans and I can also go there through a Cruise/Ferry. It looks like to marry you have to wait 24 hours of landing in the Bahamas.

 

Is this a good route? Will USCIS accept the marriage in Bahamas?

I'm a person that i should I say is or was afraid of heights. I have problems driving across bridges; whether it be over water or not. I drove to Tibee Island years ago and I had a very serious panic attack. 

 

I still have phobias with height. Especially when it came to fying on planes. But, when I meet my husband on a Christian prayer page years ago; I had to meet him. I went to spend time with him and his family.  My mom went with me. I was on connecting flights (3). Even, when we landed in Togo, Lome.

I had to walk across a building with glass windows.  I turned around and a military officer turned me around. I think with a gun. So a gentle and his wife grabbed my hand. My mom was in a wheelchair, so they pushed her.

 

But, I'm stating this because nothing could keep me from going to spend time with my then fiancee. I have been back I believe 4 times since 2018. I am one person that is afraid of flying, but for love I did it. I would not change a thing. My Pastor, my church,  my husband,  and his family prayed without cease for me. I would not have changed a thing. I love flying now as a result of it. I have done my last past visits to Nigeria alone. Because,  I miss him so much. I hope this helps you. It really depend on the size plane if you will really feel anything in my opinion...

[MoroccanEscape 31]

I promise I'm not meaning this in a rude way. But I've followed this thread for 10+pages now. I have to ask this ------- are you serious ? I read some of the things you've done and said and expect and my mind is blown. This isn't like inviting someone to come visit you on vacation ----this is PERMANENT IMMIGRATION ! How could you ever expect things to be simple and easy ? Especially now in the middle of a worldwide pandemic and with a President who is absolutely bent on ensuring that immigration is difficult, at best ! As someone many pages ago said, We've all been through this ----when I petitioned for my husband to come on a CR1 from Morocco --our petition was about 8 inches thick ! We made sure every single aspect of our relationship was covered ----and that was even with me living in Morocco for over a year. You're going to have to suck it up, I'm sorry to say. IF this is a legitimate relationship AND you truly want to live together in the US you will have to be willing to make any/all sacrifices to make that happen. You need to be trying every single avenue available to get over this "fear of flying" you have. And relying on the excuse that "unless you have it, you wouldn't understand" isn't going to mean anything to an immigration officer looking at your case. They literally will not care. My advice is to not ask for advice from a group of people who have risked everything, including their health and futures to ensure their spouses were with them and expect some sort of special treatment. None of us got that and neither will you, especially now. You've already dealt your hand, now you're going to have to deal with what you end up with. Good luck !  (And I'm sorry if the issue has been resolved but I just couldn't read another page of comments) 

[Ontarkie 14,218]

~~I'm going to lock this thread the OP has made it clear his fear of flying is crippling to him. As he is now planning a cruise where the two of them can go to get married. Please focus on his next line of questions in a new thread and not muddy the waters with continuation of his fear.~~

~~@ devusr please start a new thread when you have questions about the process.~~