Guess what? I'm getting a divorce.

[Jasman0717 9]

I am sorry to hear of your situation, that really sucks!

[doodlebug 3]

I'm confused....why is everyone laughing saying HA? It's definitely not funny I'm sorry you have to go through this.

Homesick American

[FutureAmerican 2]

I'm extremely sorry to hear this, and my wife & I will be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. I hope that your return to life in Texas will help you return to happiness.

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

HA - my jaw dropped when I saw the title of this thread. Whatever you went through in England, I always had the impression you had a veryloving relationship with your husband - your posts about him were always so warm.

I obviously no nothing about the particulars, but, is it possible that in the face of such a MAJOR, imminent life change he is freaking out and saying things so he doesn't face such a change? Can this be the underlying issue or has this really been bubbling beneath the surface for some time? I know men can sometimes be terrible communicators sometimes and choose to lash out and hurt as a means of dealing with things.

[rebeccajo 14]

Wow! What a strange turn of events.

HA, I hope you can get your head around this before you leave. I guess you never saw it coming.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I am so sorry to hear this....

I hope thgis will not have any effect on your fear of flying, I know you said you were going through some major issues when the phobia began.

On the bright side, you are starting over freshly in a place you love surrounded by people you love and who love you unconditionally.

The fact you will be busy getting things together will make the breakup much easier, you will have mo time to brood on the situation.

Give him his pound of flesh, proceeds from the house, thank God you never had kids with him and look forward to your future!

[msu17 0]

I was really really hoping that was no the meaning of the title... I am SO sorry for you and I hope everything works out in the end! HUGS!!!!!!

[Sienna 0]

Firstly, sorry to hear your news HA. Must be a shock.

I wish everyone would remember there's 2 sides to every story though. This poor guy's been hung, drawn and quartered by a few on here for dropping this bombshell on HA. Maybe his timing was off, maybe he handled it wrong, but I'm sure he had his reasons and we've only heard HA's side.

HA - I presume yesterday you loved and cared for him and he was your husband. Today you want to kill him and he's a loser. If you didn't feel love and care for him, maybe it was you who was faking, as well as him? Anger is one part of a grieving process and I hope it's just one stage you will go through.

He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face. As I said in posts before, if you were that unhappy, why didn't you leave?

I'm not trying to be negative, it just gets to me when people can call others every name under the sun when they don't even know the circumstances. I know the words are said in support for HA, but please guys, name calling??

Helen

Frankly, the circumstances don't really matter as SHE is the one coming to us for support. Perhaps if he were on this forum and we'd gotten to know HIM, we might be a little less forthright about our direct support for HA. But no... we've come to know Homesick American through her posts on this forum. Why on EARTH would you want to throw little jabs like "He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face" when she is in such obvious distress and faced with a tremendous challenge in the coming days. Sheesh. Is it SO hard to give someone support without all these little nitpicky questions second-guessing what they might have done or didn't do wrong in their relationship?

HA... take the support you find here and find whatever solace in them that you can. But I certainly hope you don't feel the need to explain "both sides" or defend the fact that you're feeling a little less than warm and fuzzy to the man (and yes, I stick by my PANTY WASTE statement) who dumped on you a few days before coming back to America.

[rebeccajo 14]

Firstly, sorry to hear your news HA. Must be a shock.

I wish everyone would remember there's 2 sides to every story though. This poor guy's been hung, drawn and quartered by a few on here for dropping this bombshell on HA. Maybe his timing was off, maybe he handled it wrong, but I'm sure he had his reasons and we've only heard HA's side.

HA - I presume yesterday you loved and cared for him and he was your husband. Today you want to kill him and he's a loser. If you didn't feel love and care for him, maybe it was you who was faking, as well as him? Anger is one part of a grieving process and I hope it's just one stage you will go through.

He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face. As I said in posts before, if you were that unhappy, why didn't you leave?

I'm not trying to be negative, it just gets to me when people can call others every name under the sun when they don't even know the circumstances. I know the words are said in support for HA, but please guys, name calling??

Helen

Frankly, the circumstances don't really matter as SHE is the one coming to us for support. Perhaps if he were on this forum and we'd gotten to know HIM, we might be a little less forthright about our direct support for HA. But no... we've come to know Homesick American through her posts on this forum. Why on EARTH would you want to throw little jabs like "He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face" when she is in such obvious distress and faced with a tremendous challenge in the coming days. Sheesh. Is it SO hard to give someone support without all these little nitpicky questions second-guessing what they might have done or didn't do wrong in their relationship?

HA... take the support you find here and find whatever solace in them that you can. But I certainly hope you don't feel the need to explain "both sides" or defend the fact that you're feeling a little less than warm and fuzzy to the man (and yes, I stick by my PANTY WASTE statement) who dumped on you a few days before coming back to America.

Sienna,

I think Helen said things very well - and she really is right you know. We don't know both sides of the story. We can still offer support to HA without feeding HA's anger. I believe as a mature woman and a thorough thinker she will be able to accept that.

Becca

Edited June 21, 2007 by rebeccajo

[homesick_american 1]

Firstly, sorry to hear your news HA. Must be a shock.

I wish everyone would remember there's 2 sides to every story though. This poor guy's been hung, drawn and quartered by a few on here for dropping this bombshell on HA. Maybe his timing was off, maybe he handled it wrong, but I'm sure he had his reasons and we've only heard HA's side.

HA - I presume yesterday you loved and cared for him and he was your husband. Today you want to kill him and he's a loser. If you didn't feel love and care for him, maybe it was you who was faking, as well as him? Anger is one part of a grieving process and I hope it's just one stage you will go through.

He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face. As I said in posts before, if you were that unhappy, why didn't you leave?

I'm not trying to be negative, it just gets to me when people can call others every name under the sun when they don't even know the circumstances. I know the words are said in support for HA, but please guys, name calling??

Helen

Frankly, the circumstances don't really matter as SHE is the one coming to us for support. Perhaps if he were on this forum and we'd gotten to know HIM, we might be a little less forthright about our direct support for HA. But no... we've come to know Homesick American through her posts on this forum. Why on EARTH would you want to throw little jabs like "He didn't forecfully MAKE you go to or even stay England, so I don't see how you can throw that in his face" when she is in such obvious distress and faced with a tremendous challenge in the coming days. Sheesh. Is it SO hard to give someone support without all these little nitpicky questions second-guessing what they might have done or didn't do wrong in their relationship?

HA... take the support you find here and find whatever solace in them that you can. But I certainly hope you don't feel the need to explain "both sides" or defend the fact that you're feeling a little less than warm and fuzzy to the man (and yes, I stick by my PANTY WASTE statement) who dumped on you a few days before coming back to America.

Sienna,

I think Helen said things very well - and she really is right you know. We don't know both sides of the story. We can still offer support to HA without feeding HA's anger. I believe as a mature woman and a thorough thinker she will be able to accept that.

Becca

If it's OK with you, Becca, I'll do my own thinking.

[ya falaha! 0]

I don't mean to sound like a mocking bird but...I'm in shock. What an awful and cowardly thing to do. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Thank God you'll be home with your family soon.

[rebeccajo 14]

If it's OK with you, Becca, I'll do my own thinking.

Hey, that's fine. You should do your own thinking. I was just giving you the benefit of the doubt is all.

[mybackpages 0]

Come home to Texas.

[*JG* 2]

He wants 50% of the proceeds of the sale of the house. I could probably get more if I wanted to go through a long, drawn-out divorce but at this point I just want to be rid of that pu$$y mama's boy. When the going gets tough, he runs to mama.

If he came down my driveway right now I'd beat the ever-loving cr@p out of him. I told him he is not welcome at this house and he is not welcome at my parents' house, and I'll do whatever I want with the stuff that the movers boxed up TODAY and are shipping to the USA.

He thinks he's gonna come and get his stuff. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No he isn't.

OMG....you talk a lot like I talk when I am mad.

I'm so sorry. I know all you must've put into this relationship. Sounds like he was never worthy of all it.

[Alex+R 0]

Like everyone, I'm so sorry, HA. We don't need to know both sides of the story to know that you're better off ending this relationship. Soon you will be surrounded by people who love you in a place you love.