Guess what? I'm getting a divorce.

[homesick_american 1]

Hey guys - anyone who is NOT rebeccajo or H_A probably shouldn't weigh in on their views on both their words and their intentions. This is a terrible time for H_A, so I think it's best if we respect her wishes, be kind, and stay back from the live wires.

I agree it is a difficault time for HA... but I dont see how that gives HA the excuss to be rude to anyone..... I saw no evidence of Becca being nasty in this thread so dont see the need for the statement to be made....

Kez

Kez, this is personal. Please stay out of it.

[Dr_LHA 3]

Kez, this is personal. Please stay out of it.

This is a public forum. Either get the thread locked and learn not to air your dirty laundry in public in future, or accept that people might make some comments you don't like.

[TimsDaisy 0]

What's wrong with people here?

If ANYONE has the right to be snappy, I think it's the girl whose husband just said he's leaving her.

Seriously. Is this REALLLLLY the appropriate time to pick on H_A? How would anyone here feel if, when at their lowest, people went out of their way to - WAY out of their way - to chastize your diction or rightfully raw feelings?

I cannot believe the treatment I see here. It's fine to slap the ####### out of each other over process frustration or methods of case progression, etc, but when it comes to something like THIS people can't let it go for so much as a goddamn minute?

I'm sure H_A has real life friends who will help her deal with the hurt and the pain she's feeling. But I bet even more that most of them won't be empathetic to the stress of the bi-national relationship nor the bitter, bitter irony of her husband's timing in this matter. So she came here - probably half-fearing some B.S. from some people, but hoping humanity would save the day.

She was rude to NO ONE. She was right to be pissed when ignorant members stuck up for her totally-unknown-to-us husband. He's leaving. He's a cad. She needs support. Anything else is unimportant.

I feel so badly for you H_A. I'm sorry you have to deal with ANY of this.

[LaL 418]

stop the bickering, please.

[homesick_american 1]

What's wrong with people here?

If ANYONE has the right to be snappy, I think it's the girl whose husband just said he's leaving her.

Seriously. Is this REALLLLLY the appropriate time to pick on H_A? How would anyone here feel if, when at their lowest, people went out of their way to - WAY out of their way - to chastize your diction or rightfully raw feelings?

I cannot believe the treatment I see here. It's fine to slap the ####### out of each other over process frustration or methods of case progression, etc, but when it comes to something like THIS people can't let it go for so much as a goddamn minute?

I'm sure H_A has real life friends who will help her deal with the hurt and the pain she's feeling. But I bet even more that most of them won't be empathetic to the stress of the bi-national relationship nor the bitter, bitter irony of her husband's timing in this matter. So she came here - probably half-fearing some B.S. from some people, but hoping humanity would save the day.

She was rude to NO ONE. She was right to be pissed when ignorant members stuck up for her totally-unknown-to-us husband. He's leaving. He's a cad. She needs support. Anything else is unimportant.

I feel so badly for you H_A. I'm sorry you have to deal with ANY of this.

Thanks...I'm glad someone understands.

[Leney 0]

Sincerely sorry for your situation. Hopefully it will resolve itself quickly and you will be able to move forward with your head held high. Just remember grace and dignity in the face of injustice and distress is paramount. I know it's not the popular thing to say at the moment, but with all due respect, you've made your personal life an issue on public forums. It hardly makes sense to tell people to stay out of personal things now because they are not enthusiastic about the language and malice. Not to be cheeky, but you have done the exact same to others who have come here looking to vent and for help - now you wish to share your personal life and vent, which is totally understandable, and I personally take no issue with that - but surely you can understand as a perpetual decenter that not everyone will share your views, but they are obviously still trying to be supportive; to virtually hold your hand and give you a hug because they care...these people are telling you they care about you, they are trying to support you, tell you you're not alone, and make you feel better. Embrace their kindness, you are not alone in being crapped on by the universe. This is not meant to be antagonistic in the least, just sort of a virtual love tap on your e-#######. I've divorced a mamma's baby myself who never had his umbilical cord cut. Thankfully I only invested 2 years in the "relationship" (and I use that term loosely as it was more like some dysfunctional 3-way with his mother constantly in the middle of everything). That type of person is a boy, and not a man in the least and not deserving of a real woman.

You're a strong person, that is obvious, you will be fine, and it may be no comfort, but - Things Happen for a Reason. You will have new opportunities and new chances at old relationships with the reunion of your family and friends. Good luck with everything your new life has to offer. Consider this your renaissance and become a more positive person because of it.

Perhaps this should be closed, and parties should be asked to send their condolences and support directly to the OP's message box to stop any drama from ensuing.

[no name 1]

Who picked on who?

A public message board is just that - a PUBLIC forum. You can choose to air your laundry or not.

[featherB 1]

What's wrong with people here?

If ANYONE has the right to be snappy, I think it's the girl whose husband just said he's leaving her.

Seriously. Is this REALLLLLY the appropriate time to pick on H_A? How would anyone here feel if, when at their lowest, people went out of their way to - WAY out of their way - to chastize your diction or rightfully raw feelings?

I cannot believe the treatment I see here. It's fine to slap the ####### out of each other over process frustration or methods of case progression, etc, but when it comes to something like THIS people can't let it go for so much as a goddamn minute?

I'm sure H_A has real life friends who will help her deal with the hurt and the pain she's feeling. But I bet even more that most of them won't be empathetic to the stress of the bi-national relationship nor the bitter, bitter irony of her husband's timing in this matter. So she came here - probably half-fearing some B.S. from some people, but hoping humanity would save the day.

She was rude to NO ONE. She was right to be pissed when ignorant members stuck up for her totally-unknown-to-us husband. He's leaving. He's a cad. She needs support. Anything else is unimportant.

I feel so badly for you H_A. I'm sorry you have to deal with ANY of this.

I'm with you on this... very well said.

[msu17 0]

I am the exact same way when I get hurt. And anyone who hurts one of my friends is a you know what regardless of his side of the story... Vent away HA! Good luck with the move and getting back to your support network!

[LaL 418]

Topic has been closed at the request of the OP.