spouse won't let me have access to my money

[isaacbundchen 1]

 

Im on a conditional green card, and im separated, but no yet divorced.

 

Since we filed the last tax return together, ..he did not give me ANY money from the tax return. saying that he had to fix his car.....I was upset, but ok!

 

now that US gave us today the Coronavirus $2400 check. he said he will not give me my part ( $1200 )...its already on our joint account...but he won't let me get my part....

 

is there anything that I can do???

 

I also think he is using my SSN to get unemployment as a Uber or Lyft driver ( I have not been driving for Lyft or uber for more than a year )..... I don't know if he can do that...but is there any way I can find out if he is using my SSN to do stuff like that??? --- I think he is doing that to get more money ( its just a suspicion but my friend that is his neighbor said he was up to something like that )

 

 

 

Edited April 15, 2020 by isaacbundchen

[Boiler 45,558]

A joint account means you can also access it.

[Unlockable 7,314]

This is more of civil issues rather than immigration issues. Best to seek legal (lawyer) and authoritative (police) guidance.

[Crazy Cat 41,903]

Find a good divorce attorney...asap....if you already have a good divorce attorney, instruct him to contact your spouse immediately.

[isaacbundchen 1]

34 minutes ago, Boiler said:

A joint account means you can also access it.

im too afraid to transfer the money to my other account. he is gonna be very mad... 

[Boiler 45,558]

3 minutes ago, isaacbundchen said:

im too afraid to transfer the money to my other account. he is gonna be very mad... 

Really sounds like something you need to discuss with your Lawyer.

[Unlockable 7,314]

10 minutes ago, isaacbundchen said:

im too afraid to transfer the money to my other account. he is gonna be very mad... 

You are still entitled to your money.

 

Here are some extra resources for you to help and protect yourself.

 

https://www.thehotline.org/2020/03/13/staying-safe-during-covid-19/

https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/safety-planning-covid19/

https://collaborativedivorcemarinsonoma.org/how-to-divorce-in-the-coronavirus-environment-video-conferencing/

[Lil bear 4,228]

11 minutes ago, isaacbundchen said:

im too afraid to transfer the money to my other account. he is gonna be very mad... 

are you living in a safe place ? You might look at accessing support services for women dealing with abuse .. he is abusing you and his behaviour is abusive .. living in fear is very damaging .. there are supports available .. don’t go through this alone .. 

[isaacbundchen 1]

20 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

are you living in a safe place ? You might look at accessing support services for women dealing with abuse .. he is abusing you and his behaviour is abusive .. living in fear is very damaging .. there are supports available .. don’t go through this alone .. 

yes im living on a safe place...we are not together anymore.....just not yet divorced

[little immigrant 801]

Hi I don't know what to tell you to do. But I was in a similar situation. I made my own bank account and switched my paycheck into that because my ex wouldn't let me have my own money that I worked for. It was a long and difficult road but I eventually made it out. I also had to file a fraud claim against him and his mother for stealing my SSN that they used to open a business. I wish you good luck. 

[retheem 566]

That's emotional abuse. He does not love you

[laylalex 7,289]

Another voice saying you need to speak with an attorney about this, but sending you support. When my ex (the immigrant) left me, he cut me off all sources of credit because I was only an authorized user on his accounts, and then he nearly emptied our joint account, the only source of money I still had access to (I was a homemaker). He then "let" me have money in dribs and drabs until a support order was put in place. The judge was NOT amused by what my ex did to me. Document your financial abuse, because this is what your husband is doing to you. 

 

You are separated. Get divorced. I cannot stress how GOOD it feels a few years down the road when all of the BS is behind you and you are living the life you deserve. Best of luck to you. ❤️ 

[Cndn 98]

Financial abuse. That’s a real thing. What he’s doing is actually against the law. Can you research some free legal services in your area? As an immigrant spouse experiencing abuse there is help out there for you. 

[Cathi 5,757]

Let him be mad. Transfer the money that is rightfully yours.

[EmilyW 1,441]

@Cathi speaks the truth.  It's a joint account.  You take what is yours and let him have a toddler tantrum about it.

Edited April 16, 2020 by EmilyW