Well This is Embarrassing

[cali2bali 1]

A divorce in Indonesia is not going to happen especially since we were married in  a Catholic church. they will not annul. I have tried to get a answer from USCIS regarding her whereabouts and whatever happened with my case. I haven't had a response ever.

[geowrian 22,337]

1 hour ago, cali2bali said:

so , lets move on...lets assume she never filed in Sweden or My filing never got completed. Now what? Can I get it annulled now?

The marriage needs to be dissolved. Whether that is by annulment or divorce doesn't matter. It just needs to be dissolved before anything else marriage-based can possibly move forward.

 

1 hour ago, cali2bali said:

@Lemonslice actually polygamy is practiced here. its quite common

For clarity, "practiced" or is actually legal?

 

2 hours ago, cali2bali said:

My fear is that my marriage here in Indonesia is not valid, but according to the paperwork we are.

The paperwork is only as valid as the information to obtain it was, and local laws.

If I fly to country X today and say I am single, I can probably get married. Specifics differ across countries, but just claiming to not be married is often sufficient (as there is no way to actually prove it).

If the marriage license states that you were not married at the time and you were, it may not actually be legal.

If polygamy is legal, this may mean the marriage is still legal (Edit: but not recognized by USCIS still!).

That said, you noted you were married in a Catholic church, and I pretty certain they do not engage in or support polygamy. So to me, that implies that there was a claim that you were not married prior to the marriage. Which may or may not have actually been true.

 

At this point, you need professional assistance to get this all sorted out and back on track IMO. USCIS will require evidence that the first marriage was legally dissolved. USCIS cannot recognize a second (concurrent) spouse.

 

Main points are to:

* Verify if the first marriage was dissolved or not.

* If so, time to check the dates and discuss next steps with the attorney. This may or may not mean dissolving your most recent marriage and marrying again.

* If not, you have to dissolve that marriage. Then you will need to dissolve your current marriage and remarry.

 

1 hour ago, cali2bali said:

A divorce in Indonesia is not going to happen especially since we were married in  a Catholic church. they will not annul. I have tried to get a answer from USCIS regarding her whereabouts and whatever happened with my case. I haven't had a response ever.

USCIS won't give you information on her case. Her location, status, etc., is no longer your concern to them.

Edited March 17, 2020 by geowrian

[cali2bali 1]

@Lemonslice   practiced and legal in Indonesia for Muslims, unsure about Catholic here.

[cali2bali 1]

Can anyone recommend a good detective , or know a good way to find my 1st wife?

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

2 hours ago, cali2bali said:

Can anyone recommend a good detective , or know a good way to find my 1st wife?

This might sound a little silly, but maybe try taking up membership with ansestry.com while you look for a detective..it will search all databases (public records) etc.. provided you know her name, a few minor details etc you might get lucky with leads to marriage divorce decree locations it’s a starting point 

[OrihimeandIchigo 216]

Ok so Im in Sweden and my husband is from here and to my knowledge you can not find her official records if she lives here or her married status unless you know her Swedish Personal Number and you look it up into the Tax Agency. You wouldn't by chance know her's 20 Years later would you? 

 

Aso there's a handy website for people who live in Sweden to know their phone numbers, age and address let me ask my husband for it and I'll link it to you later ok? You could try entering her name and seeing if she is still in Sweden. 

Edited March 17, 2020 by OrihimeandIchigo

[OrihimeandIchigo 216]

Have you not tried Facebook btw looking for her? 

[OrihimeandIchigo 216]

Also try this to see if she is in the USA currently. It's pretty accurate sometimes it hasn't updated the newest register residence though but over all you would find out where she lived at last and track her from there. And sometimes it also list if they are married and their spouse's name also. 

 

https://www.whitepages.com/

Edited March 17, 2020 by OrihimeandIchigo

[Orangesapples 1,954]

Are you sure she actually left you and wasn't murdered or something? Have you submitted a police report? 

[Mollie09 1,543]

7 hours ago, cali2bali said:

@Lemonslice what if my wife filed for divorce in another country? Finding her should be my first priority. If someone filed in Sweden, wouldn't they still have to file it in California for it to be Valid? 

 

No, you only have to file where you currently reside, not where the marriage took place

[Boiler 45,411]

First you need to be honest with yourself, you do not 'forget' getting divorced.

 

And no the Catholic Church does not do bigamy.

[Lemonslice 4,808]

Well, no matter our opinion, you now need the assistance of a lawyer. To find out if you are divorced. To find out if your subsequent marriages were valid. Good luck.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

**** several posts removed for personal attacks, bickering, and telling others not to post.  Thread locked as Op got the correct, legal answer. *****