Am I Paranoid?

[QueenOfBlades 224]

I have been getting several accusations from my USC spouse and USC best friend of being paranoid about all things immigration. I think I am being reasonable because there is no putting a foot wrong in this process. 
 

I had been worried about my taxes and FBAR/FATCA until I could finally confirm I was in compliance. That’s not paranoid, that’s reasonable given the stuff penalties if you don’t comply. I believe in carefully employing risk management techniques.

 

I know voting is the “kiss of death”. Neither of them drive. I drove with him to the ballot drop off box yesterday and I made him physically put their ballots in. I said I wasn’t touching a balloting box. He sighed and said about me being paranoid again. 

 

 

[Boiler 45,499]

Can not believe he wanted you touch a ballot box.

[yuna628 9,676]

Voting as a non citizen isn't legal, so you take that USC and give him a scolding. 

[Wuozopo 4,293]

I’ll go with paranoid. If it’s a drive up/drop off box then surely the ballot required some ID of being a registered voter. Otherwise why not drop off 200 ballots? So if your ID was not on the ballot, you didn’t cast a vote by touching the box. 

[QueenOfBlades 224]

They just send them by mail to all registered citizens (who I assume are validated with some kind of ID) and has their name and information on it, so it wouldn’t have been me legally voting, he just wanted me to put them in because I was on the driver side where the drop box was.

 

I looked at him and said even if the ballots are not mine, there is no way in Hell I am putting ballots in a drop box and want to be as far from them as possible. 

[xyz12345 260]

6 hours ago, QueenOfBlades said:

I have been getting several accusations from my USC spouse and USC best friend of being paranoid about all things immigration. I think I am being reasonable because there is no putting a foot wrong in this process. 
 

I had been worried about my taxes and FBAR/FATCA until I could finally confirm I was in compliance. That’s not paranoid, that’s reasonable given the stuff penalties if you don’t comply. I believe in carefully employing risk management techniques.

 

I know voting is the “kiss of death”. Neither of them drive. I drove with him to the ballot drop off box yesterday and I made him physically put their ballots in. I said I wasn’t touching a balloting box. He sighed and said about me being paranoid again. 

 

 

lol I was probably the same but I wouldn't call myself paranoid. maybe super stressed because I wanted to have my pre-N400 file as 'clean' as possible. So for 5 years, i was stressing out in hoping not to get a traffic ticket! i only relaxed after oath lol. and yes, never wanted to even check if I accidentally registered to vote because i might end up registered to vote. so yes, i wouldn't touch the ballot too.

Edited March 10, 2020 by xyz12345

[TBoneTX 45,288]

16 hours ago, QueenOfBlades said:

I said I wasn’t touching a balloting box. He sighed and said about me being paranoid again. 

Good response:  "Can't you see the little Coronavirus beesties crawling all over it?"

[QueenOfBlades 224]

@TBoneTX You can probably see already, but given we are in Seattle, that’s a pretty solid reason not to touch it as well 🤣

[TBoneTX 45,288]

Touch everything, then lick your hands.  Get your tongue stuck to a metal pole during winter.  Many opportunities.  Then, you can proudly wear a T-shirt that says, "I've Got No Self-Control, and I Don't WANT Any!"

 

Good retort to your husband:  "Ah, you're just jealous because the voices talk only to ME."

[Fr8dog 312]

"Just because you are paranoid, doesn't mean your not being followed" one of my many mantras.

 

Most immigrants should clearly be marked as paranoid though in fairness most US citizens have absolutely no idea of what could go wrong during the whole process. For the longest time I refused to take a short-cut in my neighborhood as it crosses the blue line of the military base. It makes no sense to anybody but me.

[QueenOfBlades 224]

2 hours ago, Fr8dog said:

"Just because you are paranoid, doesn't mean your not being followed" one of my many mantras.

 

Most immigrants should clearly be marked as paranoid though in fairness most US citizens have absolutely no idea of what could go wrong during the whole process. For the longest time I refused to take a short-cut in my neighborhood as it crosses the blue line of the military base. It makes no sense to anybody but me.

Exactly. My ex husband (my best friend now and has been my whole adult life, in or out of dating) who was with me at the ballot box should have at least known a little better. He went through K1 through ROC with me, though admittedly I was the one with sky high anxiety researching everything I could in panic mode. He still should have an idea of how USCIS is though. But nope, eyeroll and being called paranoid. Said he agrees with my spouse when they say I’m paranoid. They’ve gotten on to me about it several times. Caused multiple fights. Raising their voice and stonewalling me. If I say anything about immigration, it’s triggering for them apparently.
 

The last time it happened, I was talking in a Discord server we are both in and somehow immigration came up. I talked a bit about USCIS and my experiences, and the stress the process caused me despite being British with tons of evidence. Later I got text messages about how “my paranoia is very difficult to deal with” and “it very much impacts our relationship”. I pretty much said no, I’m not paranoid, I just know what you know nothing about. If she knew US immigration law I might take them more seriously. One time I mentioned about thinking of filing for citizenship but don’t know when and she said “do what you want!” and that was that. 
 

It can just be annoying, aggravating and upsetting to have the two closest to you accusing you of paranoia, your spouse saying it’s causing issues in the marriage, when you are just trying to be careful as much as you can. Especially one of them who has dealt with USCIS and should know better. It’s easy for them both to not have to worry about this stuff because they’re citizens but I don’t have that luxury. They’d certainly worry if anything messed up my permanent residency because the spouse can’t work, best friend works a grocery store and I work a corporate job that provides for the majority of the income here and for her excellent health insurance. Meh.