My boyfriend’s wedding dress unveiled my own shortcomings over masculinity

[laylalex 7,293]

 

My boyfriend’s wedding dress pushed me to perform a scrupulous inventory of my deepest ideas about masculinity and helped me identify my shortfalls as a woman who wants to help rewrite gender norms. As I went through this exercise, I chatted with a handful of girlfriends about it, who could all identify their own small hang-ups with masculinity: their need for men who are bigger and taller than they are, or who are better than them at sports, or who don’t cry in front of them.

As we interrogated our feelings about masculinity, we recognized gaps between our ideals and reality. I’m quick to blame men for perpetuating toxic behavior, but in this case, I, the woman, was part of the problem.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/24/my-boyfriend-wedding-dress-unveiled-shortcomings-masculinity

[yuna628 9,696]

Oh dear lord...

  

 

People get paid to write this stuff, right? I mean they must, what other reason would they have to write it...

[laylalex 7,293]

I have plenty of ridiculous stories. I'm missing a trick not getting published in the Guardian!

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

And to add to your point, who would want to READ it?

6 minutes ago, yuna628 said:

Oh dear lord...

  

 

People get paid to write this stuff, right? I mean they must, what other reason would they have to write it...

 

[yuna628 9,696]

Just now, Voice of Reason said:

And to add to your point, who would want to READ it?

 

I know I didn't. I got two paragraphs in and was like blegh...morons.

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

1 minute ago, yuna628 said:

I know I didn't. I got two paragraphs in and was like blegh...morons.

All I read was the (thankfully brief) quote above, and decided I need to go out and buy some rum or a margarita!

[laylalex 7,293]

It came up in my Google News feed. I swear my feed gets weirder the more I post in here.

[Boiler 45,887]

Did you not have problems with dating apps popping up?

 

To be honest it did not seem that abnormal, must be spending too much time reading the Graun.

[laylalex 7,293]

6 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Did you not have problems with dating apps popping up?

 

To be honest it did not seem that abnormal, must be spending too much time reading the Graun.

No, I was looking on my phone. No dating apps, just checked again. I currently have an ad at the bottom of the screen for a Maserati.

[Boiler 45,887]

2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

No, I was looking on my phone. No dating apps, just checked again. I currently have an ad at the bottom of the screen for a Maserati.

Well it may be an either or situation, presumably you are at least looking for a car.

[laylalex 7,293]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Well it may be an either or situation, presumably you are at least looking for a car.

I am, but I hadn't considered a Maserati. I'm still thinking small(-ish) SUV. 

[Boiler 45,887]

1 minute ago, laylalex said:

I am, but I hadn't considered a Maserati. I'm still thinking small(-ish) SUV. 

 

They make one.

[laylalex 7,293]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

 

They make one.

Quite attractive. The fuel economy looks not great though. And the idea of a a Maserati SUV is such a weird one -- like a Lambo truck! 

[Voice of Reason 10,298]

2 hours ago, laylalex said:

It came up in my Google News feed. I swear my feed gets weirder the more I post in here.

So does CEHST.

[Boiler 45,887]

1 minute ago, laylalex said:

Quite attractive. The fuel economy looks not great though. And the idea of a a Maserati SUV is such a weird one -- like a Lambo truck! 

I thought it was ugly, but just goes to show, I assumed it was designed for the American market.

 

Anyway not on my shopping list so it does not matter.

 

Lamborghini was a tractor manufacturer. 

 

PS Driven in by the wind, there is a lot of snow to move out there.