I need some advice please!!!

[woodie 0]

Hi, i hope everyone is doing good? Please i need some advice before i go insane. I got into the US last year via K1, filed for AOS and now i have my ead (working already but having some issues with e-verify). Before i moved to the United States, i was working as a store Manager since i was 15(it is a family business).

 

My wife has been awesome in helping me adjust but where we live is a small town of 20k people with limited access to things and coupled with us living with her parents and her 2 kids, i am so overwhelmed. I have been having this crazy thoughts of just leaving everything and go back home but then i think about the love, promises i made and i dont like breaking promises. I cant drive at the moment so i am basically at others mercy to drive me which i really hate. The kids are being kids, disrespectful to their Grandparents, sometimes their mom and me, all this took a toll on me and made me withdrawn. I have seen examples of people here getting stuck. The only thing that makes me happy is working, but once i am home, my mood changes and i become withdrawn. My wife has been doing her best to make me comfortable but living with her grandparents and the kids being kids, it is taking a toll on me.

 

Secondly, i am confused on choosing a career, i wanna join the military, or going for medical coding, or learn a skill. I dont know what to choose. I am so overwhelmed. I am starting to get depressed.

 

Thank you

[TBoneTX 45,328]

Welcome to the forum!

Your feelings are natural, in general and consequent to your specific circumstances.

You and your wife need to find your own place to live, as your chief and urgent priority.

Do this "yesterday."  Much, or most, of your stress is environmental and correctable.

Develop specific short- and long-term plans for your future, and keep your eyes on your goals.

[Prizm123 1,086]

On 2/22/2020 at 2:06 AM, TBoneTX said:

Welcome to the forum!

Your feelings are natural, in general and consequent to your specific circumstances.

You and your wife need to find your own place to live, as your chief and urgent priority.

Do this "yesterday."  Much, or most, of your stress is environmental and correctable.

Develop specific short- and long-term plans for your future, and keep your eyes on your goals.

took the words out of my mouth.... i would actually consider moving to a bigger city if it is an option since you have 2 incomes now

[woodie 0]

On 2/22/2020 at 2:06 AM, TBoneTX said:

Welcome to the forum!

Your feelings are natural, in general and consequent to your specific circumstances.

You and your wife need to find your own place to live, as your chief and urgent priority.

Do this "yesterday."  Much, or most, of your stress is environmental and correctable.

Develop specific short- and long-term plans for your future, and keep your eyes on your goals.

Thank you for your soothing words, we are actually planning and saving to move out next year. Thank you

[woodie 0]

5 hours ago, Prizm123 said:

took the words out of my mouth.... i would actually consider moving to a bigger city if it is an option since you have 2 incomes now

Thank you, i once mentioned this and she told me she cant until the kids turn 18 which is another 10 years away, i dont lose out on opportunities to grow and add more to myself. The town is so small and boring. Thank you once again

[favored13 10]

It's a tough situation you are in and your reactions are understandable. Like others said, move your family to an apartment of your own and then try and get your driving license (crucial). Also, think about going back to school even if it's one class per semester or online, it will pay off later. Hope this helps. Good luck to you. I pray that God will give you the strength and wisdom to handle the situation 

[igoyougoduke 1,656]

On 2/21/2020 at 12:11 PM, woodie said:

Hi, i hope everyone is doing good? Please i need some advice before i go insane. I got into the US last year via K1, filed for AOS and now i have my ead (working already but having some issues with e-verify). Before i moved to the United States, i was working as a store Manager since i was 15(it is a family business).

 

My wife has been awesome in helping me adjust but where we live is a small town of 20k people with limited access to things and coupled with us living with her parents and her 2 kids, i am so overwhelmed. I have been having this crazy thoughts of just leaving everything and go back home but then i think about the love, promises i made and i dont like breaking promises. I cant drive at the moment so i am basically at others mercy to drive me which i really hate. The kids are being kids, disrespectful to their Grandparents, sometimes their mom and me, all this took a toll on me and made me withdrawn. I have seen examples of people here getting stuck. The only thing that makes me happy is working, but once i am home, my mood changes and i become withdrawn. My wife has been doing her best to make me comfortable but living with her grandparents and the kids being kids, it is taking a toll on me.

 

Secondly, i am confused on choosing a career, i wanna join the military, or going for medical coding, or learn a skill. I dont know what to choose. I am so overwhelmed. I am starting to get depressed.

 

Thank you

Give it some time, Leaving your home country and adjusting takes time. you will get there. Focus on yourself and work on yourself.    PATIENCE and you will pull through and US becomes home