Going Into Deep DEPERSION

[karina 0]

Hi Kjan,

my heart goes out to you, and it sure sucks to feel really down! i'm not sure if you are looking for suggestions, but perhaps you can look into local counseling centers or liscensed clinical social worker in your area. a lot of places offer a sliding scale, so you do not need to pay the full price... they can determine if you need further support (like medication) etc. but more than anything, the way you are feeling is totally understandable. I have been there, and I know that with support, you will make it thru'!

take care! and all the best to you and yours!

[Tarik 11]

UM JOHN. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO GET AT? Your comments are very RUDE

I agree !

[Pam&Mbaye 0]

Kjan I am waiting right along with you. It gets to be a bit much and very frustrating and even overwhelming. All, I can do is take it a day at a time and try not to look ahead other then saying eventually this to will pass. Hang in there and if the depression is getting to you definitely go talk to your physician and let him know what you are going through. It may not be depression it may be stress which by the way can make you sick.

Take care!

[LvivLovers 39]

For me, faith and prayers are the answer. God has some mighty powerful mojo! He can get you through anything!

[Lance27 20]

I see you have gone the DCF route so I assume that you both are together, which is a positive. A lot of people were apart for the 1 year or more that it took them to get through this journey. All I can say is hang in there... immigration cant take forever.

[john_and_marlene 162]

UM JOHN. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO GET AT? Your comments are very RUDE

If your hand got cut off would you say "Oh well, I don't have insurance so I'll just have to live without a hand"?

Nothing I said is rude. I gave you good advice and a simple analogy. Perhaps you find it rude because it's not what you want to hear and I didn't shower you with pity.

I think pity will only feed your search for validation of your feelings and does nothing to help.

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

UM JOHN. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO GET AT? Your comments are very RUDE

If your hand got cut off would you say "Oh well, I don't have insurance so I'll just have to live without a hand"?

Nothing I said is rude. I gave you good advice and a simple analogy. Perhaps you find it rude because it's not what you want to hear and I didn't shower you with pity.

I think pity will only feed your search for validation of your feelings and does nothing to help.

I am going to agree with John once again. You ask for advice, and the best advice you could possibly get is to seek some form of medical help. There is nothing in your comments that deserve any form of sugar coating it is what it is.

We have all been through the stress of our individual journey, and have an understanding to a degree of what you are feeling. Stress causes anxiety which can lead to depression and if you can't handle these feelings on your own then do look for help outside.

[Niels Bohr 72]

D.e.p.r.e.s.s.i.o.n

I hope that is what you meant. If so, calm down. The more you wait, the more of a bond you have with your S.O.

[MaydayDas 1]

Think positive and you will succeed ...you have plenty of friends here on VJ

[Kjan 0]

Thank you for your comments.. I am newbie here..and so far everything everyone has said is really shining light on a very very dark hole

thank you again

Lilah!

Think positive and you will succeed ...you have plenty of friends here on VJ

[Kjan 0]

Yes we did the DCF ROUTE.. But, after i submitted the 1-30 i left back to the states.. I was TOLD that I must come back.. I cant not be in Kabul .. So it has been a YEAR and 2 weeks since i have been apart.. And i have been Married for YEAR 2MONTHS.. I guess that is the hardest part.

I see you have gone the DCF route so I assume that you both are together, which is a positive. A lot of people were apart for the 1 year or more that it took them to get through this journey. All I can say is hang in there... immigration cant take forever.

Whatever I may have,, I know.. I need to get it fixed.. I have an appt today,..Thank you soo much for your support

Cant wait till the day I say.. He is HERE... God willing.. One day..

Same goes to all!

Lilah

Kjan I am waiting right along with you. It gets to be a bit much and very frustrating and even overwhelming. All, I can do is take it a day at a time and try not to look ahead other then saying eventually this to will pass. Hang in there and if the depression is getting to you definitely go talk to your physician and let him know what you are going through. It may not be depression it may be stress which by the way can make you sick.

Take care!

[simple_male 1]

Yes we did the DCF ROUTE.. But, after i submitted the 1-30 i left back to the states.. I was TOLD that I must come back.. I cant not be in Kabul .. So it has been a YEAR and 2 weeks since i have been apart.. And i have been Married for YEAR 2MONTHS.. I guess that is the hardest part.

I see you have gone the DCF route so I assume that you both are together, which is a positive. A lot of people were apart for the 1 year or more that it took them to get through this journey. All I can say is hang in there... immigration cant take forever.

Whatever I may have,, I know.. I need to get it fixed.. I have an appt today,..Thank you soo much for your support

Cant wait till the day I say.. He is HERE... God willing.. One day..

Same goes to all!

Lilah

Great! Be strong, please, you will get through this hardest part, trust me.

Kjan I am waiting right along with you. It gets to be a bit much and very frustrating and even overwhelming. All, I can do is take it a day at a time and try not to look ahead other then saying eventually this to will pass. Hang in there and if the depression is getting to you definitely go talk to your physician and let him know what you are going through. It may not be depression it may be stress which by the way can make you sick.

Take care!

[kiny 0]

I am sure .. I am not the only one.. And I know, that there are many more people out there who have it worse..

But, I am at witts ends. I dont know how to coupe anymore.. I am seriously DESPRESSED and very ALONE. I am slowly decomposing.

It has been over a YEAR since we have filed. 1 year and 8 days. We are under CR-1 DCF. WITH PAKISTAN. I have contacted Congressmen/FBI.. everything.. We have been in AP since March!

I feel that I am living at the IMMIGRATIONS BECKING CALL. When ever they say JUMP I SAY HOW HIGH SIR! AND, its getting to me .. I am tried of jumping..

I dont know what to do.. I am seriously melting at work thinking/writing about this. I have lost most of my "FRIENDS" due to my melting depression.

ANY ADVISE... Anything HELPS.

One Love!

Lilah

If it makes you feel any better, my husband is in AP since February i have contacted the consulate, DOS, congressman everyone...we went through the Montreal embassy in Canada as he has canadian citizenship but he was born in Pakistan...if you want, you can send me a message...i am in deep depression too and going through a lot of other ####### due to this immigration nightmare...

[doc_cute 0]

i think it is the patience which pays .

i do understand your situation , many are waiting here but this is a journey we have to accept the facts and

i think it is just your anxiety and tension .

who diagnosed you as depression was it any doctor or yourself , if it was a doctor then u need to get treated immediately , do u know how bad this is ?

Diagnostic Criteria for Major Depression*

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Psychologic symptoms and

Physical symptoms

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Depressed mood

and/or

Reduction of interest and/or pleasure in activities, including sex

Feelings of guilt, hopelessness and worthlessness

Suicidal thoughts (recurrent)

Sleep disturbance (insomnia or hypersomnia)

Appetite/weight changes

Attention/concentration difficulties

Decreased energy or unexplained fatigue

Psychomotor disturbances

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*--For the diagnosis of major depression, at least one of the first two psychologic symptoms and four of the remaining eight psychologic and physical symptoms must be present for at least two weeks. The symptoms are not accounted for by bereavement, general medical conditions, medications, or drug or alcohol abuse. The symptoms must result in significant impairment of social, occupational or school functioning.

Information from American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders. 4th ed. Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Association, 1994: Copyright 1994.

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